Need Counseling after Divorce, Separation or a Break-Up? Going through a divorce or break up can be extremely painful. Deep sadness, grief, loneliness, missing your ex and/or children – any number of things can make separation, divorce or a break up extremely painful.
You do not have to go it alone – and no you are not alone. Many people out there is really struggle after the end of relationship. It is not an easy thing to get through.
Counseling after divorce with the right therapist can be of great help as you process many difficult experiences and emotions. Learning how to cope with the feelings in healthy ways as opposed to trying to cope with the pain. Also, attempting to date sooner then you’re ready can cause even more pain.
We can understand wanting to run from painful feelings and emotions, but it can help tremendously to process things in a way that’s going to really help you in the future. By way of make better choices in a partner and to be a better partner is going to be very valuable for a more successful relationship in the future.
Professional and Compassionate Counseling after Divorce
If you help from skilled and compassionate counselors after a divorce or break up, get in touch.
We are here to help you make positive changes during a very painful time in your life.
Many couples come to counseling because they are feeling disconnected in one way or another. It happens to both men and women – feeling confused, upset, misunderstood, alone. When this happens it will affect most couples when it comes to wanting sex. If you or your spouse or partner are not interested in sex, there are usually good reasons. Making sure desire issues are not related to medical issues first (see you doctor to rule out medical concerns), the next step is understanding what is going on to get in the way of a healthy sexual connection.
Not feeling wanted or desired can be very painful. Understanding the reasons for this is important.
Does this sound familiar?
You or your partner….
constantly feel rejected when you initiate sex or intimacy
feel really angry and hurt when your wife or husband is not interested in sex
need to feel emotionally connected and want intimacy
never been on the same page when it comes to sexual desire and libido
are going through hormonal changes and are less interested in sex in general
struggle with erectile dysfunction ED and medical issues I’ve been ruled out by your doctor
are afraid of being judged, embarrassed, disappointing you spouse and having performance issues
end up fighting or arguing about sex a lot
both feel disconnected because you cannot connect on more intimate levels
If you and your spouse or partner have been struggling with intimacy and lack of sex, it’s important to understand the underlying reasons. If you need a marriage or relationship therapist to help, feel free to contact us.
Are you and your partner going through a crisis in your relationship? Scared to death you won’t be able to repair what went wrong. Maybe you commented adultery or your spouse have been having an affair. Or you had another serious rupture in the marriage.
There are so many challenges that can bring couples to the brink. Whether you are coping with something like inFidelity, which includes an emotional affairs and online cheating, or other major issues, A crisis can cause tremendous fear.
There probably are many things that got you to this point, but what to do next. Questions you ask might be “can we save this marriage”, “should we divorce” or “ What will happen to our kids if we can’t make it”?
One of the major reasons couples need immediate help due to a crisis is because of infidelity. Most of the time it isn’t because someone came forward and told their spouse or partner, but because they found out in other ways. Even if you come forward, the initial response is shock and devastation. What happens after that varies with each person and couple.
If you are a couple in crisis and need immediate help to figure things out, get in touch
Can we get back together after splitting up? Did you go through a rough time in your relationship or marriage and lose hope things could work out? Are you wondering after a few weeks, months or longer if you can make it work?
Sometimes breaking up means you have to move on and start over. It might mean a divorce if you were married or a break-up if you were partnered. It can be extremely painful to let go and accept things you cannot change because you cannot change another person. Are you at a point where you’re wondering if taking a second look at the problems with a professional is worth it? Are you both wondering and committed to at least trying to understand how you ended up where you did?
Effective marriage or relationship counseling can help you take a good look at your own part and the problems and what happen when you both trigger each other’s issues. Therapy can also help you both really understand the types of things that will help you improve the way you handle things when you get upset.
All couples have to deal with conflict – that’s not the problem. It’s how you handle things when they get difficult. Do you respond when he or she is upset or react? Do you listen – really listen? Couples that can learn the skills to handle their “ruptures” and repair conflict will have a much better chance of staying together. It’s all about what happens when there is a rupture – from the smallest to the biggest events in a relationship, it’s all how you both handle one another to resolve your issues.
Are you wondering if therapy can help you get back together? Get in touch and let us know how we can help.
Is my marrige over? Can emergency counseling help?
Are you wondering if your marriage can survive? Did you just find out about an affair? Have you been unhappy and disconnected for years? Have you been trying to get through to your spouse or partner and feel like you’ve given up and feel it’s hopeless you’ll even get him or her to listen and actually understand you?
Many couples call looking for help as they think about some difficult decisions. Can we stay married? Should we get divorced? I don’t think I can ever feel more for my spouse again because there has been too much disconnect for too long.
Are we headed for divorce?
Taking a good look at the relationship will help you make some important decisions about the next step. Divorce is not an easy path, but is it the best option at this point?
A very serious look at the realtionship, the problems, the awareness or lack of, the ability to understand. Can you undertsand and admit your own part in the problems, are you willing to work on things, can you be realistic and open to the process. Fixing things, especially long standing problems, is not going to happen quickly. While one person might wish to put out the fire and get back to the way things used to be, the other might need some permanent changes. One person might want to hang onto things the way they were and the other is so done with feeling a alone, unhappy and disconnected.
Emergency counseling can help you figure things out. What steps you have to take if you both want it to work. Get in touch and let us know what you are going through.
Are you a couple dealing with marital infidelity? Are you feeling desperate to get help after an affair? Do you realize you made a huge mistake and don’t know what to do?
Many people involved in an affair feel trapped in lies, covering up for selfish reasons and for fear losing their relationship. Even though it is initially painful and devastating once an affair comes out, most couples can work through these issues if both are open and willing to the healing process. It does take time.
After Marital infidelity
It’s never an excuse, but most affairs are usually a symptom of a problem in a relationship – a lack of connection or not communicating what you need and feel. This is not an excuse, but feeling disappointed, neglected, angry or alone can make up a couple very vulnerable in this way. Sometimes it is other issues and many times we hear “I don’t know why I did it” and for many people, this is true.
Honesty is certainly the best policy when it comes to many things in life and marital infidelity is no exception. Most people fear coming clean and will lie and hide things even when their spouse or partner senses something is wrong. Some people actually will say “you’re crazy” or “you’re paranoid” or “you are ridiculous”, when questioned and accused. Lying can do a number on both people – and the betrayal is very damaging to the relationship.
So it is harmful for you to lie and harmful to your relationship to not be honest and tell your spouse about the marital infidelity. It’s understandable because you certainly don’t want to risk losing the marriage or relationship over it, but the damage done by the lying makes things much more painful and harder to work through when the truth is revealed.
Finally, admitting the affair – how did your partner find out?
Sometimes people feel so guilty and want to be honest they tell their partner about the affair. Other times, the affair is discovered by seeing something on your cell phone bill, credit card charges or just tracking device or even private investigators. Even worse, the person you are or had an affair with has threatened to email or call your wife or husband and tell them – and followed through on that threat.
When you find out from the person who your spouse or partner has been having an affair with, You literally feel shocked, numb, devastated, in a rage – any number of things. As a result, your marriage or relationship is truly in crisis for a period of time and you’re not sure what to do. Also, relationship and marital infidelity causes such extreme pain when it is discovered. Maybe your wife or husband might even demand you take a polygraph or lie-detector test since they have lost all trust in anything you say and cannot trust even themselves.
Most couples turn to a trained and experienced therapist the help them get through the shock, anger, sadness, need for space – a range of intense emotions. They need help with the next steps.
If you need counseling for relationship and marital infidelity, feel free to get in touch.
