Couples Therapy NJ
Offering Telehealth Online Counseling
Marriage & Couples Therapy
Personal & Relationship Help
New & Long Term Relationships
Anxiety, Depression, Grief
Multicultural Couples Counseling
Gay, LGBTQ & Same Sex Couples
Need Help With A Relationship or Personal Problem?
Compassionate, Professional & Confidential Therapy Services
If you’re struggling with certain issues in your life and want to know how to get to a better place, solutions are effective marriage counseling, individual and couples therapy. Dealing with your problems with the help of a licensed and experienced counselor can help you with marital, family and relationship problem. Almost anyone can benefit from seeking help from the right therapist. We are experienced and licensed in New Jersey and Debra is also licensed in New York. We provide a safe place to work on your issues. Also, we ares open, accepting and experienced working with people from all different cultures, background, beliefs and lifestyles.
Down to earth, skilled therapists provide a safe place to get the help you need.
Experience & Compassion
Our Licensed Therapists
Debra Feinberg LCSW
Candice Ebbesen LMFT
Daphne Berkovits LMFT
Dana Carbone LMFT
Are You Unhappy in Your Relationship?
Effective Marriage and Couples Therapy Can Help You Reconnect
Do you wonder if couples counseling can help you repair your marriage or relationship? We are here to help couples with communication, family problems, infidelity, as well as others deciding to stay or separate.
When Should You Seek Marriage or Couples Therapy?
When you feel disconnected and alone. You seem to be stuck in a place of feeling very unhappy, angry, and/or lonely. You fear the relationship won’t last if something doesn’t change. You know you can keep going on this way.
If you are wiped out and emotionally drained you are starting to feel hopeless about resolving your problems. Maybe even depressed and anxious about your situation. Also, you might argue a lot or end up not even talking at all. Or possibly one of you pushes (nags and complains) to talk and the other puts up a wall. You can’t seem to resolve anything and things are getting worse.
When you fight about sex and intimacy. Maybe you feel more like roommates than lovers. If you’re angry at your spouse or partner you may not want to have sex. If you feel hurt or rejected you may not even try anymore. This can lead to feeling unloved, insecure and not wanted.
If you’re dealing with past or recent infidelity. You just go over and over it in your head. You want details and it drives you crazy. You just can’t believe it.
When you fight about money. You just feel alone and can’t count on your spouse or partner when it comes to financial decisions and spending.
If your problems affect your children. Maybe you fight about parenting issues or your disagreements affect your children.
So what can you do? Well if both of you are open and willing, couples counseling can help. Even though you may be distant and disconnected, you can learn what it takes to create a more secure, satisfying and healthy relationship. Many couples benefit from couples and marriage counseling. See how I can help your relationship.
Marriage & Relationship Counseling
Marriage, Family & Couples Therapy
Are you a couple, family or individual searching for relationship, marriage or couples therapy? Do you need an experienced therapist to help with a relationship, family or personal struggle? Maplewood Counseling specializes in helping with all types of relationship concerns. In addition, we help with marital, domestic partners, new relationships, families ( in-laws, step and blended family problems), and parenting. Our office is located in Northern New Jersey in Essex County and provides therapy for people who live in NJ and also work and commute into NYC.
Help to Repair Your Marriage or Relationship
The reason most couples struggle is what they learned or didn’t learn, for that matter, growing up. Maybe you had role models that didn’t show you how to listen, understand and really be there. As a result, most couples don’t really know how to respond, negotiate and discuss to resolve conflict.
Also, not knowing the skills to communicate in effective ways can cause anger, hurt and disconnection. In addition, this disconnect can cause one or both people to feel alone. It is important to make the relationship safe enough so both of you can be open and honest about your true feelings. Also, getting better at listening and reducing defensiveness will help. Certainly, learning how to cope with your own feelings of anger, hopelessness, rejection and frustration is important.
There is hope if you are both willing to learn how to do a better job with communication learn to repair old and new wounds. Let me help you both work to deepen your connection. I have 25 years of experience helping couples and individuals get to a better place. I provide counseling in a respectful, non-judgmental and safe environment. I am also very experienced with multicultural counseling, mixed race couples therapy, interracial couples, gay marriage counseling and LGBTQ counseling.
Get in touch and let us know what you need help with now.
Marriage Counseling, Couples & Individual Psychotherapy
Are you looking for help with marriage therapy or relationship counseling? Maybe you need help with communication problems, an affair, infidelity or online cheating? Do you feel unhappy and unsatisfied in your life or relationship? Are you looking for a therapist experienced counseling couples that have been married over 20 year as well as second or third marriage, premarriage counseling and new relationships? Effective therapy can help take the steps you need to feel more satisfied in your relationship or personally. Looking for safe place where you can get the help you need? Find a skilled and compassionate therapist nearby in Northern New Jersey to help you.
Is couples therapy or individual counseling right for me/us? How will I know if it’s time to go to personal and relationship therapy?
Life is definitely a series of challenges. Things don’t always go the way we expected or want for any of us. Sometimes relationships and family circumstances are difficult, sometimes we go through hard times personally. It may take courage to ask for help, but if you’ve tried to improve things on your own and it has not worked, consider contacting a licensed therapist. Counseling can help you find better ways to cope with difficult feelings and experiences. It can also help by assessing mental health issues, such as anxiety and depression, that will benefit from treatment. Taking the step to go to therapy can help you move in the direction of a more satisfying and happier relationship and life.
How do you choose the right therapist to help you with marital therapy, couples counseling or individual psychotherapy ?
Finding a therapist that is right for you is important. When searching, locate an experienced and licensed professional with expertise with the issues you need help with now. Some therapists focus on personal issues and some on relationship issues and others may be the best choice if they have experience with multicultural and LGBT couples and individuals. A good therapist will listen to your concerns and help you feel safe and understood as you explore your issues.
Frequently Asked Questions FAQs
How do I know if I need counseling or we need couples therapy or marriage counseling?
Wondering if couples, marital or individual therapy will help? There are many issues that couples and individuals are dealing with that will benefit from counseling. It may be hard to figure out whether you can resolve these problems on your own or if they need professional help.
Consider your answers to the following questions.
- Are you or your relationship suffering?
- What are your major concerns at this time?
- Are you struggling to cope with these issues or problems?
- Has nothing worked to improve the situation?
What individual and couples counseling services do you offer?
The counseling services we offer include the following:
- Individual therapy
- Couples Therapy
- Marriage Counseling
- Family Therapy
- Premarital Counseling
- LGBT Gay Counseling
- Multicultural Counseling
- Mixed Raced and Interfaith Relationships
- Issues with Family and In-Laws
- Mindfulness Therapy for Anxiety, Depression and Relationships
How much does individual therapy, couples and marriage counseling cost?
For any type of counseling to be effective it does require a commitment of both time and finances. An important question to ask is whether or not you can afford to delay getting yourself or your relationship the help you need.
We can help to make this possible in a couple of ways.
We are able to take credit cards as well as HSA Health Savings Account or FSA cards (at times).
We can also explain how to get insurance reimbursement for out-of-network mental health services if you have those beneifts.
Do you take insurance for couples therapy or marriage counseling?
Maplewood Counseling is insurance friendly.
We can often help you to use your insurance to offset the cost of therapy. Some of this depends on your particular benefits, yearly deductibles and reimbursement rates. Insurance typically does not cover any type of relationship, marriage or couples counseling since they do not view this as a mental health or medical diagnosis. It does not matter if you have Cigna, Aetna, Blue Cross Blue Shield or Horizon, or United HealthCare…insurance companies do not ususally covre for any type of relationship counseling since they do not view that type of counseling as medically necessary.
We can give you the information you need to check your benefits and find out if you can be reimbursed a percentage for our services.
Due to the cost and investment of counseling, it can help you understand if you contact your insurance company and see if you have out-of-network benefits and if this benefit will cover or reimburse mental health counseling.
How long will I or we need couples therapy, marriage counseling or help for anxiety or depression?
This is an understandable and common question. It is tough to determine how long counseling will last without knowing more about your situation.
Because we understand it does take a commitment of time and finances, we like to focus on helping couples, families and individuals in the shortest amount of time possible. However, some issues are more complicated and difficult and may require a longer treatment time.
Your counselor will remain in close communication with you to make sure your needs are being met. We want you or your relationship to feel you are making positive changes, whether you come for 4 sessions or 24 sessions!
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Helping Couples, Families & Individuals
Marriage , Couples & Relationship Counseling
If you’re a couple or individual who needs help with a personal, family or relationship issue, an experienced therapist can help. In addition, some couples are in an unhappy and disconnected place or need help with a crisis. Also, others want discernment counseling to see if they can save the relationship especially if one person says they want a divorce or feeling hopeless. Regardless, all are searching for help to see if they can improve their relationship, figure out the next step or get help if they have to start over.
Finding out about an affair often leads to a relationship or martial crisis. At first you may feel shock and anger. Also, feelings of betrayal and rejection leading to a huge rupture for couples. To heal from infidelity will take time to process – together – grief, sadness, anger and guilt. Helping you recover will take patience, empathy, understanding and support. I provide a safe place for couples to understand what issues may have caused their relationship to get disconnected and vulnerable to a spouse or partner cheating. Also, knowing how to apologize for your mistakes, ask for forgiveness, and forgive will help you both. Most importantly, I help couples communicate in a way that will help your spouse or partner feel secure and trust again.
We offer treatment and counseling for Anxiety and Depression.
Effective Psychotherapy Treatment can Help
Do you wonder if anxiety and depression treatment can help you reduce and manage your symptoms? We can help you mindfully manage the negative thoughts so you don’t suffer with anxious thoughts and become more aware of the negative thoughts and judgments that make you feel so lousy.
When Should You Seek Treatment for Anxiety or Depression?
If you feel anxious and have obsessive and intrusive thoughts. You seem to be unable to get out your head and it makes you feel panicked, overly worried and fearful of what will happen. Also, you may have heart palpitations and struggle with shortness of breath. In addition, you may struggle with panic and anxiety attacks. Mindfulness counseling can help.
If you are emotionally drained from day to day and feel sad and alone. Also, you may feel stuck in this place and feel hopeless about resolving your problems.
If you feel stressed and overwhelmed and can’t seem to find a way to get out of this place on your own.
If you’re married or in a relationship and and feel unhappy. Maybe you’re not sure if depression or anxiety is a result of the relationship or is negatively impacting the relationship. Maybe you are going through a painful break-up or divorce and need help.
Counseling with a licensed and experienced professional can help assess your situation, provide therapy and make recommendations, such as seeing your family doctor, if necessary. Because it is also important to rule our medical conditions that may be contributing to your depression and anxiety. In some instances, you may also benefit from taking an antidepressant or anti-anxiety medication.
If you want to get to a better place, anxiety and depression treatment can help. Get in touch.
Our Services Include:
Build trust and feel more secure
Improve communication and find more effective ways to resolve conflict
Recover from infidelity, online cheating, an emotional affair
Counseling to deepen your connection, stay or separate
Understand what to do about feeling alone, misunderstood,
Get counseling for family conflict, step and blended family dynamics
Premarital therapy and counseling before getting married.
Individual Psychotherapy & Counseling
Anxiety and depression treatment and counseling
Parenting, relationship, family and martial issues counseling
Mindfulness, personal growth, spirituality, self-esteem, grief counseling
Life transitions, moving, new baby, separation, break-up, divorce counseling
Help understanding how past experiences influence the present
Trauma, childhood abuse, deep emotional pain and aloneness counseling
Interracial Marriage Counseling
Mixed Race Couples Therapy
LGBTQ Gay Marriage Counseling
Couples Therapy NJ
Need help with family or relationship conflict? Dealing with a new baby or transition and move to a new area? Feeling alone in your relationship? Need help resolving issues?
Relationships & Families
Struggling with in-laws, family or parenting issues? Fight about children or step-kids? Don’t like the way your spouse handles things? Timing is everything when is comes to counseling.
Trust & Betrayal
Dealing with infidelity? Your gut telling you something isn’t right and you don’t trust your partner? Betrayal in the past never really resolved? See how couples therapy can help.
Marriage Counseling Online
Couples Therapy Online
Individual Counseling Online
What is the success rate of marriage counseling?
The best marriage counselors know it take both partners to be open and willing to make some important changes. According to statistics for traditional types of marriage counseling, success rates can be 70-80%. It does, however, depend on the ability of a couple to work through past painful issues – both people – in order for the counseling to be effective.
Can counseling fix a marriage?
Effective marriage counseling can always help a couple that is willing learn how to improve the relationship and heal painful experiences. This includes improving communication, healing betrayal and infidelity, and working through difficult family issues such as in-law problems, parenting style differences, blended and stepfamily problems and more.
What does a marriage counselor do?
A trained and experienced marriage counselor will assess your situation by hearing about your specific issues and struggles, get a sense for your communication style and dynamic and help a couple reduce certain ineffective and hurtful patterns. We help couples lern better ways to relate and resolve conflict to deepen their conenction.
Are marriage counselors worth it?
If you are stuck in a bad place, cannot resolve issues on your own and are committed to making things work better, marriage counseling with the right therapist can be very worth it.
Is online marriage counseling effective?
Online marriage counseling can be as, if not more effective than marriage counseling in-person. Not only can it as effective as going to the office, it may also be a better option especially if required to wear masks as we have during the pandemic. If has been studied and reported that online marriage counseling can improve and help with a wide range of relationship issues.
When should you seek marriage counseling?
If you are unhappy and stuck in a bad place, cannot get to a better place on your own, need better ways to communicate and resolve conflict, after infidelity or an affair, or have painful family conflict.
Do marriage counselors ever recommend divorce?
Some therapists might recommend divorce and others would never suggest getting divorced and help a couple come to their own decisions. Sometimes one person wants to get divorced and the other does not. Even the best marriage counselor cannot help a couple if one person is not willing to continue in the marriage.
How do you know when marriage counseling isn’t working?
If one person or both are not willing to do what it takes to improve the relationship. Or if one person thinks the other person has to change something and is not open to reflecting on their own part in a marital problem. Or if there is a tremendous amount of contempt, criticism, stonewalling or defensiveness that one person or the other ( or both) is not open to working on.
How do you know when your marriage is over?
When one person wants to end the marriage and is not willing to work through issues anymore. When issues cannot be resolved and/or there is a lack love, interest or desire to make things work.
Can people fall back in love?
Experienced marriage therapists know anything is possible. It helps if both people are open, willing and determined to get back to something positive and loving.
How do you know when it’s time to end your marriage?
Some of the most common reasons people get divorce are constant arguing and conflict, infidelity and lack of commitment. The last straw reasons relationships end in divorce are unresolved infidelity, addiction and substance use and domestic violence.
What is the difference between marriage counseling and couple therapy?
Many experienced therapists will have a similar approach to couples struggling with issues and need help. Couples that are married and ones that are not still need help with the same types of issues. The difference might be whether or not there are children and extended family issues. However, many couples have these issues even if they are not married.
Should you go to counseling before divorce?
Many couples want counseling before considering divorce. Sometimes they consider discernment counseling to decide if they should stay or separate. After discernment counseling, which is maybe 4-5 sessions, some decide to commit to marriage counseling and others may separate.
Need Online Therapy From Anywhere in NJ?
We offer telehealth online counseling sessions
Searching for Couples Therapy NJ? Many people google counseling near me or counseling NJ when looking for a therapist in their local area. Maplewood Counseling provides couples therapy, marriage counseling as well as therapy for anxiety, grief and depression. We help couples, families and individuals who live in Maplewood, South Orange, Millburn, Short Hills, Summit, Springfield, Newark, Montclair, West Orange, New Providence, Livingston, Westfield, Chatham, Jersey City, Scotch Plains, Hillside, Elizabeth, Fanwood, Roselle, Florham Park, Hillside, Clifton, Mountainside and more in Essex County and surrounding areas.