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Maplewood Counseling

Online Therapy
Couples, Individuals, Families

Contact Maplewoood Counseling

Maplewood Counseling
New Jersey Therapy Services
Couples and Individuals

Offering Online Therapy
Telehealth Teletherapy Sessions
Counseling from Home or Work

Compassion and Experience

Debra Feinberg LCSW
Licensed Clinical Social Work
New Jersey and New York
25 Years of Experience


Maplewood Counseling
Offering Online Therapy
169 Maplewood Ave Suite 4
Maplewood, NJ 07040
Call Now (973) 902-8700


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Shame Issues and Getting Help

Shame Issues and Getting Help with Shame

Shame Issues and How to Get Help

Shame. Such a very complicated and painful feeling. Dr. Brené Brown is a shame and vulnerability researcher, and she has spent the past decade studying vulnerability, shame, courage, and worthiness. She defines shame as “is the intensely painful feeling that we are unworthy of love and belonging.”

It is such an awful place to be. On the one hand, you desperately want to connect with others and get their support (something we ALL need). On the other hand, you don’t dare risk becoming vulnerable because it does not feel (or never has never felt) safe. The end result? You end up feeling isolated and very, very alone. According to Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW, shame can destroy lives.

Dr. Brené Brown: “Shame Is Lethal”

Shame and vulnerability researcher Dr. Brené Brown says shame is the intensely painful feeling that we are unworthy of love and belonging. It’s the most primitive human emotion we all feel—and the one no one wants to talk about. If left to its own devices, Dr. Brown says, shame can destroy lives. Watch as she reveals the three things shame requires to grow—and the one thing that can stop shame in its tracks.

This next video is on of the most popular TED talks

Listening to Shame

Common Shame Issues:

Is this you? You’re ashamed of:

  • the way you are treatedby your spouse, partner or others.
  • the way you treatyour spouse, partner or others.
  • a failed relationship, being single, going through a divorce, making bad relationship choices.
  • the way you look (weight issues, too short, too tall, not attractive or desirable enough, etc..).
  • losing your job, financial struggles or making enough money to make ends meet.
  • your intelligence or not feeling smart enough.

Shame makes us feel like we’re not good enough- a general sense of being unlovable and unworthy. If you need help dealing with shame, therapy can help. You may also find these books and resources by Dr. Brene Brown very helpful.

Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Leadby Brown, Brene(Sep 11, 2012)
The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Areby Brown, Brene(Sep 20, 2010)
I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t): Making the Journey from “What Will People Think?” to “I Am Enough” by Brown, Brene(Feb 1, 2007)

We hope you find this information helpful. Contact us if we can help you in Essex County, NJ at 973-902-8700.

Couples Therapy

Maplewood Counseling provides relationship counseling for couples who are trying to improve their relationship. Our office in located in Essex County in Northern New Jersey. Services we provide: marriage counseling, or couples therapy for all types of relationship issues.

Anxiety, Depression, Grief

Get help for depression, anxiety, grief, or low self esteem. Therapy can help if you are going through a difficult time such as coping with a divorce or break-up. A good therapist can help you improve the way you feel, get through a difficult time and make positive changes.

Coping With a Life Crisis

Do you need help getting through a painful time in your life? Are you dealing with an affair or infidelity? Trying to survive a lonely, painful time? Is your child struggling? Are you or a loved one coping with serious health issues? Trying to deal with and help aging parents?

Call 973-902-8700 Maplewoood Counseling

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