DISCERNMENT COUNSELING NJ

Need Discernment Counseling? 

Stay Together or Separate? 

What is Discernment Counseling?

Discerment counseling is a type of counseling that offers disconnected , unhappy, and/or frustrated couples a safe space to discuss what makes sense in terms of the future of their relationship. Couples at a point asking “should we stay together or not” can benefit from discernemnt counseling. Some will decide to commit to therapy for a period of time to see if things can change for the better. Others might decide the best thing is to separate, divorce, or slit up. Typically it is a short term 4-5 session process that helps couples (married and sometimes coupled) decide on a the best path forward. In Discernment Counseling, your therapist will spend some time together with the couple as well as some individual sessions to gain and undestanding of each person’s feelings, experiences, and thoughts about realtionship to fully assess and assist the couple in the decision process.

Discernment Counseling

Helping You Discern the Best Path Forward

Should We Stay Together or split up?

Are you unhappy in your marriage? Are you and your spouse looking for a therapist to help you make some important decisions? Wonder if you should stay and work on marriage or figure out the best way of calling it quits and moving on?

Discernment counseling is a type of therapy couples do when they’re trying to decide whether they need to let go of the marriage. Most couples go to marriage counseling to deal with issues in the marriage and as hard as it’s been, both are committed to working on the relationship. Maybe they are looking to improve communication, find ways to get more connected and deal with conflict. Some men or women are feeling so frustrated, disappointed, sad or angry that divorce becomes a frequent topic. Usually one person has lost hope that things will even be different.

Why Discernment Counseling ?

Discernment counseling helps a couple figure out whether they can stay together or not. Some couples don’t discuss splitting up or divorce on their own and need a safe place to discuss difficult issues. The therapist can help you explore the relationship and where each person is at and why.

Most of the time a couple is not on the same page when it comes to wanting to split up, so it’s important to discern whether there’s anything they can do or if the couple is going to be taking the next step. Discernment counseling is a different approach to working with couples than marriage counseling. Couples sometimes meet up to five times but can stop whenever they feel like they’ve come to a decision.
Therapy will involve spending some time together and apart during appointments to discuss what the issues have been in the marriage (good and bad) and what you’ve done to work out your differences. And then there are discussions about staying in the marriage as it is, deciding to move in the direction of divorce or even trying to work with a marriage therapist for several months to see if there’s a way to repair the relationship and reconnect.

Is Discernment Counseling for You?

If you’re grappling with issues such as infidelity, lack of communication, profound loneliness, or indetermination about whether to divorce or reconcile, then Discernment Counseling could be a beneficial step for you.

Distinct from traditional marriage counseling, Discernment Counseling is a unique approach that aids not in mending the marriage, but rather in assisting both partners to discern the best path forward: should you seek marriage counseling to attempt reconciliation, or should you part ways and seek a divorce? This process can lead some couples to commit to relationship improvement over a set period, hoping to alter destructive patterns and rejuvenate their union. Alternatively, others might conclude that it’s in their best interest to part ways.

Even in circumstances where both partners have contrasting desires – one yearning for reconciliation and the other leaning towards divorce – Discernment Counseling can be instrumental. It can guide you through open and clear discussions about your current situation, assisting you in making informed decisions about the fate of your marriage.

DISCERNMENT COUNSELING : What do we do Next?

1. You can keep things status quo and do nothing

2. Take steps to divorce

3. Commit to intensive marriage counseling to see if you can work on issues that have lead you to such a bad place to see if the marriage can be saved.

DISCERNMENT COUNSELING Can Even Help Couples That Disagree:

• the therapist listens to both partners and not forcing any outcome
• this type of counseling assists couples dealing with conflict
• this is not marriage counseling

If you are trying to decide to work on your marriage or feeling like you may need to separate or divorce, discernment counseling may help you figure out the next step.