Coping with Grief and Loss
The sudden death of a loved one is completely devastating. Grieving the loss is excruciating. At first it is shock and disbelief, which can last a very long time. Questions about how this could happen – to your loved one, to you.
What complicates things is how people handle the grief. Everyone has their own way of trying to cope. Some try and stay busy, some can’t get out of bed, some go to grief counseling, therapy and support groups to try and process the sadness as best they can.
Friends and some family members may distance themselves because they just don’t know what to say, what to do, or how to help. It can also be frightening to identify with someone else’s loss and cause some people to just need to stay away. Even when people are wonderful and supportive initially, things go back to normal for many people, but not the ones feeling the loss. The every day absence of their loved one is ever present.
It’s hard for some to comprehend the loss and to cope with a level of emotional pain like you’ve never felt before. Pain that is ongoing with severe bouts of grief and sadness. It seems like no one can really understand what you are going through.
Here are a few resources to help you cope with grief and loss after the sudden and traumatic loss of a family member.
Compassionate Friends – Supporting Family After a Child Dies – “The Compassionate Friends is about transforming the pain of grief into the elixir of hope. It takes people out of the isolation society imposes on the bereaved and lets them express their grief naturally. With the shedding of tears, healing comes. And the newly bereaved get to see people who have survived and are learning to live and love again.” –Simon Stephens, founder of The Compassionate Friends
Coping with Grief and Loss – Understanding the Grieving Process – “Losing someone or something you love or care deeply about is very painful. You may experience all kinds of difficult emotions and it may feel like the pain and sadness you’re experiencing will never let up. ”
Mourning the Death of a Spouse – “When your spouse dies, your world changes. You are in mourning—feeling grief and sorrow at the loss. You may feel numb, shocked, and fearful. ”
We hope you find this information helpful if you are coping with grief and loss.