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In An Estranged Relationship?

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In a Estranged Relationship?
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Couples and Individual Therapy

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Coping with an Estranged Relationship?

What is an estranged relationship? Estranged implies a loss of affection, distance and instead of turning to your spouse or partner, turning away. If you have been feeling unhappy and disconnected for a long time, it can create a tremendous amount distance and even hostility.

Are you living under the same roof and feeling trapped? Feeling there are no good options for dealing with your disconnect? Most importantly, it is having a huge impact on everyone’s emotional and physical well-being?

Estranged Relationship | Still Living Together?

Are these your circumstances?

  • We sleep in separate rooms and have for a long time
  • We hardly speak to one another
  • You are estranged from a child, parent or other family member
  • Our children are fully aware of how bad things are
  • We argue and there are verbal insults and hostility
  • At times, we fight in front of our children
  • I don’t love my spouse anymore and even feel like I hate him/her
  • It’s so obvious to everyone we can’t stand each other anymore
  • We cannot afford to separate now
  • We stay together for the sake of the children

So, what should you do? At the very least, you can seek counseling to talk about and process your feelings about the disconnect. Understanding what you can and cannot do is important. Some relationships can be repaired eventually of both parties – whether with a spouse, child or other family member. And other situations may take working with you r own sadness and anger to process and finally come twosome type of acceptance if the situation so you can feel more peace.

An estranged relationship can cause a lot of pain and be challenges for both parties. Forgiveness takes one and you will do this for your own sake, but reconciliation takes two. You cannot reconcile and estranged relationship unless the other person is open. In the meantime, if you are struggling with this type of situation, it might help to talk to a professional.

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Can We Reconcile?

Anxiety, Depression, Relationships

Can We Reconcile?

Marriage Counseling | Couples Therapy

Essex County New Jersey

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Can We Reconcile ?

Can we reconcile and get back together? So, are you wondering if you and your partner or spouse can get back together after splitting up?  Maybe you have you been living apart for months or even longer? For that reason, you want to explore what wasn’t working before to see if there’s anything you can do to make the relationship work?
Certainly, there are many couples that need help revisiting the idea reconciliation. As a result they seek counseling. Hence, if both people are open and willing to examine what happened and why, it is possible to make the relationship work even after you’ve divorced.
 Does this sound familiar?
  • You separated because a painful event such as infidelity.
  • You split up due to long standing disconnect and unhappiness
  • You made mistakes and understand more about you part in your problems
  • You want to forgive and are having trouble trusting your spouse or partner

Can We Reconcile and Work Things Out?

Seems like talking about past experiences is causing anger, resentment, hurt, and whatever else might still make it difficult to trust things can be different.  Therefore, an experienced therapist can help you discuss in a safe place.

As a result, marriage or couple therapy can help sort through and assess what you both would need to do to get back together. Because It would take understanding where each person is at now, In addition, it is important to assess how open and willing you are to work on past anger, hurt, resentment and mistakes. Finally, it takes understanding your own part in your marital or relationship problems. Besides that, understanding triggers, disrespect, criticism, stonewalling, defensiveness, contempt and any other patterns that led to your split.

Can we reconcile ? Get in touch to see if it is possible to repair your relationship and change patterns that led to your split.

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Need Help with Forgiveness?

Should We Stay or Split up?

Anxiety, Depression, Relationships

Stay or Split?

NJ Marriage & Discernment Therapy

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Should We Stay or Split Up?

Can We Resolve Our Issues?

Not sure if you can work things out in your marriage or relationship? Should you get divorced, separated or break-up? Have you been been through too much and not sure you can feel good about each other again?

Does this sound familiar?

  • You’re struggling with forgiving infidelity or an affair
  • You can’t seem to get over your spouse or partner not being there for you
  • You’re unable to forgive your spouse for choosing his or her family over you
  • You can’t seem to forget and accept things that have happened in the past that have caused you pain.

Do you need help working through painful events in your relationship? Do you need help forgiving your husband, wife or partner or making another decision about your relationship?

It is important to understand forgiveness and how complicated it can be. Forgiveness is so important for your own sake. Does this always mean you can work out your differences? Not for all couples, but if you are both willing to really work through painful events and are open and honest, you may be able to heal and work things out.

If you need help and you feel stuck in a painful place, get in touch. We can help your explore your next step in a safe place

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In a Disconnected Relationship?

Separated and Want to Reconcile?

Anxiety, Depression, Relationships

Separated?

Trying to Reconcile?
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Can We Get Back Together?

Find counseling after you split up

Can we get back together after splitting up? Did you go through a rough time in your relationship or marriage and lose hope things could work out? Are you wondering after a few weeks, months or longer if you can make it work?

Sometimes breaking up means you have to move on and start over. It might mean a divorce if you were married or a break-up if you were partnered. It can be extremely painful to let go and accept things you cannot change because you cannot change another person. Are you at a point where you’re wondering if taking a second look at the problems with a professional is worth it? Are you both wondering and committed to at least trying to understand how you ended up where you did?

Effective marriage or relationship counseling can help you take a good look at your own part and the problems and what happen when you both trigger each other’s issues. Therapy can also help you both really understand the types of things that will help you improve the way you handle things when you get upset.

All couples have to deal with conflict – that’s not the problem. It’s how you handle things when they get difficult. Do you respond when he or she is upset or react? Do you listen – really listen? Couples that can learn the skills to handle their “ruptures” and repair conflict will have a much better chance of staying together. It’s all about what happens when there is a rupture – from the smallest to the biggest events in a relationship, it’s all how you both handle one another to resolve your issues.

Are you wondering if therapy can help you get back together? Get in touch and let us know how we can help.

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How Divorce Affects Children

Relationships

Children and Divorce

How it Affects Children
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How Divorce Affects Children

Listen to this adorable little girl talk to her mom about getting along with her dad after divorce. Kids are very affected by fighting and bitter exes that sometimes fight in front of them. It hurts everyone – especially children. This is just such an amazing little girl trying to advise her mom. Heart warming.

Alone After Divorce?

Anxiety, Depression, Grief, Relationships

Alone After Divorce?

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Alone After Divorce?

Are you struggling and alone after divorce?

The end of a marriage can be very painful.  You tried so hard to make it work. Now you’re feeling tremendous sadness and loss.  A failed relationship can cause both parties to feel shame, grief and make it hard to function.  Many have a lot of trouble sleeping, eating and feel very isolated and alone.

Your marriage may have ended for any number of reasons:

  • you could not recover from the feelings of betrayal after an affair
  • you were treated with disrespect and emotionally abused and you just could not take it anymore
  • you slowly lost feelings for one another
  • you just could not work out your differences and connect in positive ways

Regardless of the reasons for breaking up, living alone after divorce can bring up feeling of grief and loss like you’ve never felt before.  In some situations, dealing with angry, sad or confused children can only make matters worse.  Even if you struggle with feelings of hostility and anger toward your ex (or visa versa), it is best for everyone to get some help processing and dealing with those feelings so they don’t cause even more damage and pain. We’ve seen many couples manage to get to a peaceful place even when they did not think it could be possible.

If you’re living or feeling alone after divorce there are people out there that can help you.  You’re not alone. Whether it’s a therapist experienced with divorce counseling or some type of group that helps men and women going through divorce, you can find someone to help you get through this difficult time.

If you need help and live or work in Essex County, NJ, get in touch.  We’re here to help.

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