Maplewood Counseling

Coping with Life Challenges

Anxiety, Depression, Grief, Relationships

Dealing With Life Challenges?

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There are so many things that challenge of us in our lives. Everyone has to deal with these challenges at one point or another. Knowing how to cope when things are really painful is a skill that can be developed.

Are you going through a painful time in your life right now? Is this you?

  • You’re dealing with a health issue that has been difficult for you or family members
  • Your are dealing with marital or relationship challenges – possibly going through a break up, divorce or separation
  • You’re struggling with financial or work related concerns
  • You’re single and alone and trying to cope with how painful and lonely that can be at times
  • You choose the wrong type of people and your relationships Dash ones that are unavailable, self absorbed narcissistic and unable to give you what you need
  • You’re having difficulty with the struggling child – young child, teenager, adult child or older children
  • You’re dealing with blended in step family issues and this causes frequent fights

Working with your attitude about a challenge is very important. We all are faced with very unpleasant things that happen in our lives. And finding better ways to cope can make a huge difference when you’re in one of those painful times. When you’re in one of these dark times, it can feel like will last forever, but it won’t. It’s just a matter of getting through moment by moment and day by day until you come out of the darkness.

Need help finding more mindful ways to cope with adversity? Get in touch

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Getting Through Hard Times

When You or Your Spouse Wants a Divorce

Anxiety, Depression, Grief, Relationships

Your or Spouse Wants a Divorce?

Marriage Counseling NJ

Should We Separate?

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Spouse Wants Divorce? Partner Wants Out?

What to do when you or your spouse wants out of your marriage or relationship.

Is this you?

    • Spouse wants divorce – Your wife or husband saying they want to separate.
    • Things have been bad for a long time and you’re at a critical point in the relationship
    • There’s been a recent event like an affair that has really been a painful wake up call
    • Your husband or wife has been so neglectful, verbally or emotionally (* physically) abusive over the years that you just have lost all hope
    • You developed feelings for someone else – maybe through an emotional affair or sexual infidelity and you’re not sure what to do
    • Do you need help figuring out your next step is a couple if you can’t stay together

* physical abuse is the fastest way to destroy your relationship and you will have to do individual therapy since therapists cannot work with a couple that have a pattern of physical, domestic violence and or spousal abuse since safety is a priority.

If you need help figuring out if your relationship can survive or if you have to go your separate ways, call or email us and let us know how we can help you.

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Struggling in Your Marriage?

Marriage Problems? Can’t Get Along?

Marriage Problems? Can’t Get Along?

Anxiety, Depression, Grief, Relationships

Problems in Your Marriage?

NJ Marriage Counseling

Maplewood Counseling

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Marriage Problems? Can’t Get Along?

Marriage Problems? Trouble Getting Along?

Sometimes couples are having so many marriage problems they not only dislike one other, they sometimes hate each other. When you cannot feel understood, alone, abused or neglected, your marriage or relationship can start going to a very negative place.

At first in any new relationship, it seems so wonderful. So easy to fall in love, communicate and to get that connection. As time goes on, the way people get triggered by the other person increases. With those triggers comes more arguments, fights and conflict. In some cases, the result is a certain dynamic between the two of you that involves eater pursuing and pushing in an attempt to get what you need or withdrawing, shutting down, putting up a wall to protect yourself from feeling attacked.

Marriage Problems | What to do

Sometimes couples come in and one partner feels like their wife or husband actually “hates me”. I feel like I can’t do anything right and my spouse constantly criticizes me. She/he is always angry over the smallest things. When you are stuck in such a negative place/pattern, you will most likely need help getting out of it – otherwise the relationship is not going to make it. There’s just no way you can both exist feeling so much pain, which is at the heart of the problems anyway.

It’s good to become aware of what’s actually going on. To reflect in a different way on current issues and how issues from the past may be getting triggered. Many couples relive painful childhood experiences triggered by the other person. It’s good to be able to understand this in a different way – maybe you hate feeling the level of pain and that your partner triggers, but understanding what’s going on and what you both need is critical to developing a better connection.

Struggling with marriage problems? Do you need a marital therapist or relationship counselor to help you work on breaking your negative cycle to help you get to a better place?

If you’d like to sit down and discuss and a counseling session, feel free to get in touch and let us know how we can help.

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Marriage Problems? Need Counseling?

Need a Pre-Marriage Counselor?

Anxiety, Depression, Grief, Relationships

Pre-Marriage Counseling

Premarital Therapy
New Jersey

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Pre-Marriage Counselor | Premarital Counseling

Find Counseling Before Getting Married

Do you need pre-marriage counselor to discuss some things with your fiancé? Are you engaged and scared about getting married? Are you having doubts about the relationship and fear about this level of commitment? As your wedding date approaches are you arguing a lot more and feeling more disconnected and distant? Do you need a pre-marriage counselor to help you both figure things out?

It is not unusual when you are engaged to feel a level of fear and stress is your wedding date approaches. Feeling unsure, ambivalent and just fear about getting married can get played out and make the relationship worse.

Does this sound familiar?

  • You or your fiancé are getting cold feet
  • You or your significant other are afraid of commitment
  • Fear and doubt are causing you or your partner to feel very insecure
  • You are really unhappy about the unpleasant feelings that are coming up and are not sure what to do
  • You do not have the ability to communicate what you need tohelp you feel more confident

Couples that are looking for help with pre-marriage counseling or pre-marital therapy have questions they need help bringing up and discussing openly about the relationship.

If you are at a place where you need help with this if you’re in doubt, feel free to get in touch and let us know how we can help.



Need Relationship Help?

Marriage Counseling NJ , Couples Therapy New Jersey

Premarraige Counseling NJ

Are you engaged and in need of pre-marriage counseling with your fiancé? Have some things you’d like to work through before you get married?

Premarital Therapy

Premarital therapy can help you discuss some important things before marriage. Have some concerns you want to talk about regarding relationship or family issues?

Engaged Couples

If you are engaged and are having cold feet, counselings can help? Did your partner do something that upset you and now you are concerned about getting married?

In a Sexless Marriage?

Anxiety, Depression, Relationships

In a Sexless Marriage?

Want to Improve Intimacy?

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In a Sexless Marriage or Relationship?

Are you in a sexless marriage? Does your husband, wife or partner never seem to be interested in sex? Have you gone for months (or years) without sex? Have you been trying to accept the lack of intimacy (and rejection), but feel you can no longer bear it.

If your marriage lacks intimacy and sex, your relationship is at risk. A couple is clearly vulnerable to the crisis of an affair, divorce or a break-up. Most couples struggle with sexual desire issues for a number of reasons.

In a sexless marriage or relationship?

  • Here are some common reasons for lack of sex in a marriage or relationship:
  • You feel overwhelmed by responsibilities at work and home and have no energy left
  • You don’t feel understood in a way that makes you feel safe
  • You are angry at your spouse and have a wall up
  • You feel alone and not emotionally connected
  • You get angry when your spouse or partner rejects you and you react making things worse
  • You no longer feel attracted to your spouse or partner
  • Watching pornography can change the way you feel about sex with your partner
  • Sex is boring, you’re partner is selfish and it is not satisfying
  • You need to feel the emotional connection before you can want to have sex
  • You need sex to feel the connection
  • You may have ED erectile dysfunction and struggle with performance problems
  • You may have hormone or other medical problems
  • You had a hysterectomy and your libido has changed
  • Sex has become painful and peri-menopause or menopause
  • It’s never the right time
  • You feel like you’re being used for sex and your partner or spouse really doesn’t care about you

There are so many reasons that couples struggle with sex and intimacy. It can be extremely difficult when the needs of each partner are not met or fully understood. Anger, disappointment and frustration can create even more distance and make it even harder to connect leading to less intimacy and sex.

If you are living in a sexless marriage, see how marriage counseling for couples therapy can help you create more intimacy. It would take both people are willing to discuss this in a different way.

If you are in New Jersey and you want to discuss the lack of connection in your relationship, get in touch and let us know how we can help.

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Need Marriage Counseling?

Help with Communication

Anxiety, Depression, Relationships

Need Help with Communication?

Help for Relationships

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Need help with communication?

Improve communication in your marriage or relationship

Most couples call looking for help with communication.

However, even an affair and infidelity are often a symptom of a problem – lack of connection- stemming from poor communication skills.

What is really important in a relationship is getting better at listening. True listening is one of the greatest gift you can give your partner or spouse. It means trying to reallyunderstand what your spouse needs.

Everyone in a relationship may have different needs in terms of what makes them feel like they matter and what makes them feel important. Many times their feelings and needs can be discounted or dismissed leaving to further problems and disconnect. Learning to pay attention to and respond what they are feeling and the expression of that struggle rather than getting caught up in all of the details of what the other person is saying. It can come out as a complaint, but the feeling underneath might be feeling alone or misunderstood resulting in sadness, anger or distancing. It is si important to learn how to help your spouse or partner feel safe to show he or she mateers and that you are really trying to there ( in the way the other person really needs) emotionally.

If you are in a relationship that needs to get better at communication – to really really be there ways that your partner needs – find a therapist that can help you get the message across.

A well trained therapist can help. Feel free to reach out via phone or email if you’d like to discuss your situation. It’s a step in the right direction to understanding one another to make your relationship better and more satisfying.

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