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Teach Girls Bravery, Not Perfection

Teach Girls Bravery, Not Perfection

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Teach Girls Bravery, Not Perfection

We at Maplewood Counseling support teaching girls bravery, not perfection. Coping with failure is challenging for us all, but knowing how to manage the feelings and negative thoughts is important. It is a wonderful TEDTalk that explores this very important topic.

We know how important it is to help girls with self esteem. It takes courage and bravery to keep on going in spite of obstacles.  Teenage girls can work on this and become more and more courageous over time.

In support of this goal and girls of all ages. 

 

What is Empathy? Feeling with People

What is Empathy? Feeling with People

What is Empathy & How it Connects Us

Empathy Builds More Meaningful Realtionships
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What Is Empathy?

Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another person. It goes beyond simply recognizing someone’s emotions—it means truly stepping into their shoes, feeling what they feel, and acknowledging their experience without judgment. Empathy deepens our understanding of those around us and strengthens our personal connections.

Whether you’re navigating a relationship, helping a friend through a tough time, or simply striving to be more compassionate, empathy serves as a powerful tool for creating meaningful bonds.

How Empathy Connects Us

At its core, empathy bridges the gap between people. When you genuinely try to see the world through someone else’s eyes, it fosters a deep sense of connection. It shows others that they’re not alone, helping to build trust and understanding in your relationships. Couples can use empathy to enhance their emotional bond, parents can connect on a deeper level with their children, and individuals can empathize with friends, colleagues, and loved ones to improve their communication and relationships.

Building Meaningful Connections

Empathy transforms ordinary relationships into meaningful ones. When you take the time to validate someone’s emotions, you’re telling them that their feelings matter. This small but powerful act can strengthen relationships with your partner, your children, or those closest to you.

For couples, empathy can pave the way for healthier communication. Rather than reacting defensively, understanding a partner’s perspective can diffuse conflict and create opportunities for growth. For parents, practicing empathy can foster trust and open up dialogue with their children, enabling better problem-solving and emotional support.

Helping Others Through Challenges

Empathy plays a crucial role in guiding others through difficult times. Imagine a friend or partner navigating grief, frustration, or worry. By offering empathy—whether through listening or simply sitting with them—you contribute a sense of support and care. Just acknowledging someone’s emotions can alleviate loneliness and provide the strength they need to move forward.

For parents, empathy can be a guiding light when helping children learn to manage big emotions or challenging situations. For individuals, it equips you with the emotional intelligence to support loved ones when they need it most.

Why Empathy Matters

Empathy helps people feel seen and understood, creating stronger relationships and a sense of belonging. It encourages kindness, builds trust, and makes it easier for us to work through life’s ups and downs together. By practicing empathy, we not only improve our relationships but also make the world around us a little kinder.

Take a moment to listen, ask open-ended questions, and try to see things from another’s perspective. Whether you’re a partner, parent, or friend, practicing empathy can open doors to deeper, more fulfilling connections.

If you need help becoming more empathetic in your relationships, get in touch. 

 

Attitude is Everything

Changing Your Attitude

How it Can Change Your Life
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Attitude is Everything in Helping You Cope with Life

Are you a glass half empty or half full person? Working on your improving your attitude can help reduce the suffering you experience.

Is this you?

  • You’re feeling defeated and ashamed of a a failed relationship. divorce or breakup
  • You’re very sad about getting older and feel like your life is behind you
  • You feel like a failure in love and struggle with grief over being alone again
  • You or a family member is facing difficult health issues
  • You’re the care giver for a family member who is seriously or chronically ill
  • You did not get into the college you wanted
  • You did not get the promotion or recognition you feel you deserved
  • You got fired or were lost your job

 

Working with Your Attitude About Failure

Novelist Samuel Beckett ‘s famous quote  “Fail, Fail Again, Fail Better” is the topic of many lectures, talks and most recently this I listened to this book by Pema Chodron, which I recommend if you’re looking for help trying to change your negative thoughts and attitude about your situation.

Reducing the Negative and Increasing the Positive

Reducing the Negative and Increasing the Positive

Becoming more aware and conscious of your negative thinking and thoughts and replacing those thoughts with more positive can help you start working on changing your attitude. I often listen to this Sounds True free video “Advice for Difficult Times: A Short Film of Teachings from the Heart” . This short film has offerings from different spiritual teachers about how to get through difficult times. In one section it talks about reducing the negative and increasing the positive with the analogy of pulling weeds and planting flowers, among many other helpful ways to cope with difficult times.

What connects us all as human beings is the suffering we experience at times. What we can do is slowly, over time, when dealing with these challenging experiences is be with what’s there and learn how to reduce the negative and increase the positive. Attitude is everything and training to embrace and allow the experience you are having and working on the attitude about those experiences can make a huge difference in the amount of suffering you experience.

Need help changing your attitude?

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Not Getting What You Want

Not Getting What You Want

Dealing with Life Challenges
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Not Getting What You Want, Getting What You Don’t Want

There are so many things that can really make us struggle. Not getting what we want or expect or getting what we don’t want, can really cause a great deal of suffering and pain.

If only…

  • I had more money
  • I had a better marriage or relationship
  • I had a better body or physical appearance
  • My child would be a better student or do what I say
  • I was not alone and in a relationship
  • I was more successful
  • I had a better job or career
  • Had a bigger, better house
  • My spouse, son or daughter did not disappoint me

Getting What You Don’t Want

Struggling with…

  • Cancer or another serious illness
  • an ill spouse, child or parent
  • tragic death of a loved one
  • divorce or a failed marriage
  • a partner or spouse that is not there for you
  • loss of your home or job
  • a high level of anger, resentment and bitterness
  • financial insecurity and worries

If you or a family member are looking for ways to deal with not getting what you want or the opposite, there are several resources to help with these difficult thoughts and emotions. Being open and flexible to various resources (books, support groups and therapy) can be a great help.

Some of our other blog articles have resources and books that may be of interest as well. We hope you find this information helpful in your search for making more peace with your present reality.

If you need counseling to help accept circumstances and deal with emotional pain, get in touch. 

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