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How Mindfulness Can Help

Mindfulness and Mindful Relationships

Mindfulness Strengthens Marriages & Relationships

Mindful relationships are more connected, loving and compassionate. Mindfulness is the state of being open and aware of something in the present moment. It is a therapeutic technique which helps people observe and accept their feelings and thoughts without judging them as good or bad. Developing mindfulness as a way of life helps individuals and couples communicate in more positive and peaceful ways. Mindful relationships enjoy more love, intimacy and connection in their relationships.

Mindful relationships help couples communicate with more compassion & understanding.

There is scientific evidence that back up how the brain actually is changed by developing a more mindful approach to life. I won’t get into all of that here, but will give a general idea of how this can help you and your relationship.

Mindfulness reduces negative emotional reactivity and helps people regulate their emotions.

The more a person practices mindfulness, the more they pay attention to their own thoughts and feelings, they start to understand their triggers and hooks. We all know how others can trigger painful feelings based on past experiences. Reflecting on triggers (our own thoughts and feelings – in a gentle way) will eventually help you understand the true source of your trigger, which are unconscious seeds based on conditioning. When you spend time looking inward and reflecting instead of lashing out in anger at the person who triggers your old pain, you can become more aware of the true source and work through it. You don’t have to keep reliving it. Reliving it in your present relationship will cause damage, disconnect and the unhappiness for both people. Ultimately, you can reduce your negative, angry, controlling reactions and feel more calm, accepting and peaceful. This will help you can become more present, understanding and compassionate.

Mindfulness helps people become better listeners, attentive, compassionate, and loving

Mindful people relate in very different ways. They do not try and change their partners – they do not criticize, judge or avoid dealing with issues. They are more accepting, kind and compassionate. Want a more connected, meaningful relationship? See how mindfulness can help you and your relationship.

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Feeling Unhappy?

Need Couples Counseling in New Jersey?

Looking for couples counseling in New Jersey? Stuck in a bad place and ready for some help? Not in love anymore? Are you feeling unhappy in your relationship and wondering if there’s anything you can do to reconnect to make things better? Wondering if you should split up our divorce?

So many couples end up in this place and wonder what to do. Some get “stuck” in like this for an extended time and end up being very vulnerable to infidelity due to the disconnect. Others just are very depressed and unhappy.

Does this sound familiar?

You’ve arguing a lot about the smallest things
You can’t seem to do anything right
You feel like your partner or spouse doesn’t listen or understand you
You’ve given up trying to get what you need
You’ve tried to initiate sex and intimacy for so long and can’t deal with the rejection so you’ve stopped trying
You feel like your spouse or partner is not interested in you and just interested in sex
You’re not even sure if the relationship is worth saving
You’re staying together only for the sake of the children

If you are at a point in your marriage or relationship where you’re trying to make some important decisions – do we work on trying to make the relationship better or do I just divorce or break up?

Couples counseling in New Jersey with an experienced marriage or couples therapist can help you figure this out. Your counselor can also help you navigate the steps you need to take to improve things if it’s possible, or respectfully and gently work on ending the marriage or relationship.

If you are at a point you are ready to figure this out, get in touch. We’re here to help.

Unhappy Relationship or Marriage?

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Unhappy Relationship or Marriage?

You and your spouse or partner need couples counseling?

Are you in a unhappy relationship? Many relationships in a bad place end in a break-up or divorce. Some have tried counseling and others have never really looked into getting professional help to see if they can feel more satisfied and happier in their relationship or marriage.

Are you in an unhappy relationship?

Are you feeling like you’re not sure if you can stay together? You are not alone.

Many men and women have tried for a long time to convey how unhappy they are, but for some reason their husband, wife or partner was unable to really understand how bad things have been for them. This happens in all types of relationships…straight and gay. In some situations, one partner has been pleading (sometimes for years) to go to counseling. At least one person was aware they were unable to resolve their issues without that help. Unfortunately, their spouse or partner did not listen and things had to get to a very critical point ( the very serious threat of separation and divorce) before seeking an experienced marriage or couples counselor to help.

Does this sound familiar?

You’ve been asking your husband, wife or partner for a very long time to go to counseling and they just ignored your request and did not take you seriously
You’re really angry with your spouse or partner for finally being ready for counseling and feel “why now?”
You or your spouse feel disconnected, neglected, verbally abused or ignored
It might be too late to work on your marriage or relationship since your wife or husband is the one that wanted counseling for a long time, and now that you’re ready, they are not very willing.
Many, many mistakes and have not treated your wife, husband or partner the way you should have.You’re desperately hoping that professional help can make a difference with where you are right now.

Many couples wonder if they can work things out and stay together. Not just stay together because of the children or because they fear what things will be like if they’re on their own financially or emotionally, but actually make the relationship better and more satisfying.

In an Unhappy Relationship or Marriage?

If you’re in an unhappy relationship and want help figuring things out, discernment counseling, marriage or couples therapy can help you.

If you’re looking for experienced and compassionate therapists in Essex county New Jersey ( couples do travel from other counties as well ), please do let us know how we can help you.

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Lack of Sex in Your Relationship?

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Lack of Sex & Intimacy?

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Lack of Sex and Intimacy

Not Able to Connect in Your Relationship

Many couples come to counseling because they are feeling disconnected in one way or another. It happens to both men and women – feeling confused, upset, misunderstood, alone. When this happens it will affect most couples when it comes to wanting sex. If you or your spouse or partner are not interested in sex, there are usually good reasons. Making sure desire issues are not related to medical issues first (see you doctor to rule out medical concerns), the next step is understanding what is going on to get in the way of a healthy sexual connection.

Not feeling wanted or desired can be very painful. Understanding the reasons for this is important.

Does this sound familiar?

You or your partner….

constantly feel rejected when you initiate sex or intimacy
feel really angry and hurt when your wife or husband is not interested in sex
need to feel emotionally connected and want intimacy
never been on the same page when it comes to sexual desire and libido
are going through hormonal changes and are less interested in sex in general
struggle with erectile dysfunction ED and medical issues I’ve been ruled out by your doctor
are afraid of being judged, embarrassed, disappointing you spouse and having performance issues
end up fighting or arguing about sex a lot
both feel disconnected because you cannot connect on more intimate levels

If you and your spouse or partner have been struggling with intimacy and lack of sex, it’s important to understand the underlying reasons. If you need a marriage or relationship therapist to help, feel free to contact us.

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Can We Get Back Together?

Find counseling after you split up

Can we get back together after splitting up? Did you go through a rough time in your relationship or marriage and lose hope things could work out? Are you wondering after a few weeks, months or longer if you can make it work?

Sometimes breaking up means you have to move on and start over. It might mean a divorce if you were married or a break-up if you were partnered. It can be extremely painful to let go and accept things you cannot change because you cannot change another person. Are you at a point where you’re wondering if taking a second look at the problems with a professional is worth it? Are you both wondering and committed to at least trying to understand how you ended up where you did?

Effective marriage or relationship counseling can help you take a good look at your own part and the problems and what happen when you both trigger each other’s issues. Therapy can also help you both really understand the types of things that will help you improve the way you handle things when you get upset.

All couples have to deal with conflict – that’s not the problem. It’s how you handle things when they get difficult. Do you respond when he or she is upset or react? Do you listen – really listen? Couples that can learn the skills to handle their “ruptures” and repair conflict will have a much better chance of staying together. It’s all about what happens when there is a rupture – from the smallest to the biggest events in a relationship, it’s all how you both handle one another to resolve your issues.

Are you wondering if therapy can help you get back together? Get in touch and let us know how we can help.

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Listen to Your Spouse or Partner When They Say We Need Counseling

As a couples therapist, I hear from so many couples that come in that one person, wife, husband or partner, has been asking to go to counseling for sometimes years. That person was feeling pain, sadness, alone, anger and could not seem to get what he or she needed without help. The difficult part from the perspective oe f couples or marriage counselor is when they finally decide to come it, it is usually when the other partner feels fear or pain. Afraid of losing their marriage or relationship.

Is this you?

you contact a marital therapist because you’re feeling scared your spouse is ready to leave
you have tried over and over to say we need couples counseling and your spouse ignored your requests
when your wife or husband asked for counseling, you thought it wasn’t necessary and now you know it is
your partner is feeling hopeless and saying they want a divorce or to break-up
you or your spouse has actually left physically (separated, moved out) or checked out emotionally
you wish you had listened and found a therapist long ago and did not wait
you are angry at your partner for not taking you seriously and now THEY want to go to couples therapy

So many couples come in and one person says they have been asking to go to counseling for a long time. That same person might have been neglected and feeling they will never get through to their spouse or partner what they need. They just don’t care or will never understand (without help). Some people just give up.

If you’re at that point, see what the next step is with couples or marriage counseling. Get in touch and let us know how we can help.

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