Lovers or Roommates

More Like Roommates Than Lovers?

Your Relationship Lacking Intimacy?

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More Like Roommates Than Lovers?

Do you feel like roommates?

Many couples that seek counseling may need help with their connection. Some describe feeling more like roommates than lovers. Busy with jobs, children, and problems in the relationship can cause couples to disconnect and feel like there’s no intimacy. Maybe you’re too tired, you lost interest or you’re angry at your partner Overtime this can feel very unsatisfying and make both partners unhappy.

Does this sound familiar?

Intimacy and sex is very in frequent
Intimacy is nonexistent when you feel alone
You feel like you have to do your duty and “give” your spouse or partner sex which is unsatisfying for you ( or both)
You’re bored with intimacy and it’s the same old same old.
You feel like used and like a vessel when you do have sex
Sexual pleasure feeling one-sided and and all about one person.
You’re so busy taking care of everything and everyone that you feel like this is just one more thing or person you have to take care of
You no longer love your spouse
You’re so angry at your wife or husband that you have no interest in being close

If you want to explore what is making the marriage or relationship feel more like a roommate situation, get in touch.

Lack of Sex in Your Relationship?

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Lack of Sex & Intimacy?

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Lack of Sex and Intimacy

Not Able to Connect in Your Relationship

Many couples come to counseling because they are feeling disconnected in one way or another. It happens to both men and women – feeling confused, upset, misunderstood, alone. When this happens it will affect most couples when it comes to wanting sex. If you or your spouse or partner are not interested in sex, there are usually good reasons. Making sure desire issues are not related to medical issues first (see you doctor to rule out medical concerns), the next step is understanding what is going on to get in the way of a healthy sexual connection.

Not feeling wanted or desired can be very painful. Understanding the reasons for this is important.

Does this sound familiar?

You or your partner….

constantly feel rejected when you initiate sex or intimacy
feel really angry and hurt when your wife or husband is not interested in sex
need to feel emotionally connected and want intimacy
never been on the same page when it comes to sexual desire and libido
are going through hormonal changes and are less interested in sex in general
struggle with erectile dysfunction ED and medical issues I’ve been ruled out by your doctor
are afraid of being judged, embarrassed, disappointing you spouse and having performance issues
end up fighting or arguing about sex a lot
both feel disconnected because you cannot connect on more intimate levels

If you and your spouse or partner have been struggling with intimacy and lack of sex, it’s important to understand the underlying reasons. If you need a marriage or relationship therapist to help, feel free to contact us.

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In a Sexless Marriage or Relationship?

Are you in a sexless marriage? Does your husband, wife or partner never seem to be interested in sex? Have you gone for months (or years) without sex? Have you been trying to accept the lack of intimacy (and rejection), but feel you can no longer bear it.

If your marriage lacks intimacy and sex, your relationship is at risk. A couple is clearly vulnerable to the crisis of an affair, divorce or a break-up. Most couples struggle with sexual desire issues for a number of reasons.

In a sexless marriage or relationship?

Here are some common reasons for lack of sex in a marriage or relationship:
You feel overwhelmed by responsibilities at work and home and have no energy left
You don’t feel understood in a way that makes you feel safe
You are angry at your spouse and have a wall up
You feel alone and not emotionally connected
You get angry when your spouse or partner rejects you and you react making things worse
You no longer feel attracted to your spouse or partner
Watching pornography can change the way you feel about sex with your partner
Sex is boring, you’re partner is selfish and it is not satisfying
You need to feel the emotional connection before you can want to have sex
You need sex to feel the connection
You may have ED erectile dysfunction and struggle with performance problems
You may have hormone or other medical problems
You had a hysterectomy and your libido has changed
Sex has become painful and peri-menopause or menopause
It’s never the right time
You feel like you’re being used for sex and your partner or spouse really doesn’t care about you

There are so many reasons that couples struggle with sex and intimacy. It can be extremely difficult when the needs of each partner are not met or fully understood. Anger, disappointment and frustration can create even more distance and make it even harder to connect leading to less intimacy and sex.

If you are living in a sexless marriage, see how marriage counseling for couples therapy can help you create more intimacy. It would take both people are willing to discuss this in a different way.

If you are in New Jersey and you want to discuss the lack of connection in your relationship, get in touch and let us know how we can help.

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