How to Complain Without Hurting Your Partner

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Without Being Hurtful

How to Complain Without Hurting Your Partner

We had to remove a video here that explained how to do this.

BreaThere are many ways you can communicate your anger and frustration without being hurtful – critical, nasty, devaluing and other negative ways to communicate. It will only cause more damage to the relationship. You can learn better ways to express these emotions.

Breaking a pattern or habit of putting your partner down when you are upset will take some work. If you are determined you can eventually stop a negative way of expressing your anger, hurt, sadness or frustration. It will ultimately not get you what you want if you are hurtful to your spouse or partner. Connection takes eventually becoming more vulnerable and less prickly when you are upset.

All couples will always go through “ruptures” and it is all about the repair. How to resolve issues when they come since they WILL come up. It is all about how you resolve your conflict. If you ware determined to do a better job, you can. You might need the help of an experienced therapist to help you break negative patterns and learn better ways to do this.

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Local Marriage Counseling in NJ?

We get many calls from couples in areas in and around Maplewood. We provide therapy to many couples who live or work in the Livingston, Chatham, Summit, Springfield, West Orange and many other local areas. Sometimes couples prefer going to another local town for counseling for privacy, so we often see couples and individuals who live in other local communities.

Some of the issues we help couples with:

Coping with an affair and trying to rebuild trust
Feeling unhappy and distant
Fighting about money, chores, sex, or parenting issues
Dealing with step-family or blended family problems
Cannot seem to communicate without arguing
Not sure how to approach your spouse about some important issues
Feeling unappreciated, resentful and angry

If you need help with your relationship, contact us at Maplewood Counseling and let us know how we can help you.

we are her to help couples, families and individuals who live or work in New Jersey including anywhere by Telehealth video session or in person for people that are will to travel to our Essex County NJ office.

How Perfectionism Holds You Back

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Are You a Perfectionist?

How to Change This

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Changing Perfectionism

Vulnerability is Essential to Living a Happy Life

Brené Brown has a video we placed here to hear her interview about how to reduce perfectionism and the key is vulnerability. The link was changed so it no longer is available here, but worth seeing if you can locate this interview with Brené Brown.

It is not easy to change and reduce that inner critic, but over time it will help you decrease judgment that ultimately hold you back and makes you suffer. Some people feel their perfectionism helps them become more successful and although it may help in some ways, it is always more damaging to you in so many ways.

Gettin help reducing perfectionism will make you feel more satisfied with what you have instead of always striving for more.

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Making Divorce Easier

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Making Divorce Easier

Avoiding a Nasty, Bitter Split

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Making Divorce Easier

Many therapists see a lot of angry, sad and depressed men and women going through a divorce. And what we know is a bitter, nasty divorce hurts everyone. There are no “winners”.

Does this sound familiar?

You can’t stand the fact that your ex is going to get so much of your hard earned money.
You feel like she or he is trying to destroy you financially.
You are so angry and don’t know how to control the rage.
You’re on the receiving end of a soon to be ex who has done things that are shocking and extremely upsetting.
You’re struggling with how this nastiness and hostility is affecting your child or children.
You think your soon to be ex views you as trying to destroy them – and you’re not.

Making divorce easier – please help make that happen

It takes both to make it happen. If you are not in a place you can forgive your ex and it is causing you to act in nasty ways, try reaching out to a therapist or other mental health professional. Get some help processing and making sense of your rage and anger. Fighting is so costly financially and emotionally. When you hurt the parent and making it harder on him or her, you inevitably hurt the child. For the sake of your family, your own mental, physical and financial health.

See what it takes to achieve making divorce easier. If you have children, you will be in each other’s lives forever. I have seen many people go through bitter, nasty divorces only to years later feel more peace after they’ve had time. I hope you can get to that peaceful place much sooner. Reach out for help – it may mean turning things around much sooner than 5 or 10 yrs down the road.

Are You Feeling Overwhelmed?

Anxiety, Depression, Grief, Relationships

Feeling Overwhelmed?

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Feeling overwhelmed and not sure what to do?

Do you wake up in the morning and have trouble facing the day? Do you go to bed at night feeling exhausted and depressed? Is it hard to find the time to get everything done at home and/or work? Feeling like you’re a disappointment to your family or employer? You are not alone.

Feeling overwhelmed at work? Does this sound familiar?

I feel overworked and unappreciated
I have a difficult and demanding boss
My coworkers stress me out
I have trouble getting along with my boss or coworkers
I feel trapped and stuck

Feeling overwhelmed at home? Does this sound familiar?

I have no time for myself
My job at home is thankless and demanding
I can’t keep up with the kids activities and taking care of everything else
My spouse or partner is not supportive and does not understand what I go through
I have no life other than taking care of others and household responsibilities
I feel isolated, alone and depressed

Feeling overwhelmed at school or college? Does this sound familiar?

I am so stressed about grades
I am feeling anxious and/or depressed
I don’t know what to do about how overwhelmed I feel
I feel alone
I am stressed about a relationship

If you’re struggling and feeling overwhelmed, talking to a professional may help you. If you’re a student, talking to a school counselor or college counseling service may be very helpful. Many people feel talking to a therapist, other mental health professional or joining a support or therapy group is helpful. Feeling more connected, heard, supported and validated can help you process what you are going through.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, take that important step and reach out for help.

Relationship Tip

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Relationship Tip

Gratitude and Aprreciation

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Relationship Tip – Say Thanks

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How Does Gratitude Affect Romantic Relationships?

We hope you find this relationship tip helpful.