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Understanding Shame | How It Impacts Your Life

Shame Can Be Debilitating

Healing Shameful Feelings
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This video explains how shame is lethal and what you need to do to reduce shame.

According to Brene Brown,shame is defined as the intensely painful feeling that we are unworthy of love and belonging. She says we all have it and it is one of the most human primitive emotions. She also says the less we talk about it, the more we have it

Shame needs these 3 things to grow exponentially:

1) Secrecy
2) Silence
3) Judgement

To get rid of shame – EMPATHY. Shame cannot survive empathy. So talk to yourself like you would talk to someone you love about something that triggers your shame or reach out to someone you trust and tell your story. Empathy is the way to reduce and get rid of same.

DR. BRENE BROWN: “SHAME IS LETHAL”

Couples Therapy

Maplewood Counseling provides relationship counseling for couples who are struggling with communication problems, an affair, a crisis or other issues. Marriage counseling and couples therapy is provided to help for all types couples with relationship issues.

Anxiety, Depression, Grief

Get help for depression, anxiety, grief, or low self esteem. Therapy can help if you are going through a difficult time such as coping with a divorce or break-up. A good therapist can help you improve the way you feel and work on making positive changes in your life.

Coping With a Life Crisis

Do you need help getting through a painful time in your life? Are you dealing with an affair or infidelity? Trying to survive a lonely, painful time? Is your child struggling? Are you or a loved one coping with a crisis, serious health issues, or helping aging parents?

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Teach Girls Bravery, Not Perfection

Teach Girls Bravery, Not Perfection

In Support of Girls
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Teach Girls Bravery, Not Perfection

We at Maplewood Counseling support teaching girls bravery, not perfection. Coping with failure is challenging for us all, but knowing how to manage the feelings and negative thoughts is important. It is a wonderful TEDTalk that explores this very important topic.

We know how important it is to help girls with self esteem. It takes courage and bravery to keep on going in spite of obstacles.  Teenage girls can work on this and become more and more courageous over time.

In support of this goal and girls of all ages. 

 

What is Empathy? Feeling with People

What is Empathy? Feeling with People

What is Empathy & How it Connects Us

Empathy Builds More Meaningful Realtionships
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What Is Empathy?

Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another person. It goes beyond simply recognizing someone’s emotions—it means truly stepping into their shoes, feeling what they feel, and acknowledging their experience without judgment. Empathy deepens our understanding of those around us and strengthens our personal connections.

Whether you’re navigating a relationship, helping a friend through a tough time, or simply striving to be more compassionate, empathy serves as a powerful tool for creating meaningful bonds.

How Empathy Connects Us

At its core, empathy bridges the gap between people. When you genuinely try to see the world through someone else’s eyes, it fosters a deep sense of connection. It shows others that they’re not alone, helping to build trust and understanding in your relationships. Couples can use empathy to enhance their emotional bond, parents can connect on a deeper level with their children, and individuals can empathize with friends, colleagues, and loved ones to improve their communication and relationships.

Building Meaningful Connections

Empathy transforms ordinary relationships into meaningful ones. When you take the time to validate someone’s emotions, you’re telling them that their feelings matter. This small but powerful act can strengthen relationships with your partner, your children, or those closest to you.

For couples, empathy can pave the way for healthier communication. Rather than reacting defensively, understanding a partner’s perspective can diffuse conflict and create opportunities for growth. For parents, practicing empathy can foster trust and open up dialogue with their children, enabling better problem-solving and emotional support.

Helping Others Through Challenges

Empathy plays a crucial role in guiding others through difficult times. Imagine a friend or partner navigating grief, frustration, or worry. By offering empathy—whether through listening or simply sitting with them—you contribute a sense of support and care. Just acknowledging someone’s emotions can alleviate loneliness and provide the strength they need to move forward.

For parents, empathy can be a guiding light when helping children learn to manage big emotions or challenging situations. For individuals, it equips you with the emotional intelligence to support loved ones when they need it most.

Why Empathy Matters

Empathy helps people feel seen and understood, creating stronger relationships and a sense of belonging. It encourages kindness, builds trust, and makes it easier for us to work through life’s ups and downs together. By practicing empathy, we not only improve our relationships but also make the world around us a little kinder.

Take a moment to listen, ask open-ended questions, and try to see things from another’s perspective. Whether you’re a partner, parent, or friend, practicing empathy can open doors to deeper, more fulfilling connections.

If you need help becoming more empathetic in your relationships, get in touch. 

 

Not Getting What You Want

Not Getting What You Want

Dealing with Life Challenges
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Not Getting What You Want, Getting What You Don’t Want

There are so many things that can really make us struggle. Not getting what we want or expect or getting what we don’t want, can really cause a great deal of suffering and pain.

If only…

  • I had more money
  • I had a better marriage or relationship
  • I had a better body or physical appearance
  • My child would be a better student or do what I say
  • I was not alone and in a relationship
  • I was more successful
  • I had a better job or career
  • Had a bigger, better house
  • My spouse, son or daughter did not disappoint me

Getting What You Don’t Want

Struggling with…

  • Cancer or another serious illness
  • an ill spouse, child or parent
  • tragic death of a loved one
  • divorce or a failed marriage
  • a partner or spouse that is not there for you
  • loss of your home or job
  • a high level of anger, resentment and bitterness
  • financial insecurity and worries

If you or a family member are looking for ways to deal with not getting what you want or the opposite, there are several resources to help with these difficult thoughts and emotions. Being open and flexible to various resources (books, support groups and therapy) can be a great help.

Some of our other blog articles have resources and books that may be of interest as well. We hope you find this information helpful in your search for making more peace with your present reality.

If you need counseling to help accept circumstances and deal with emotional pain, get in touch. 

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How Divorce Affects Children

Children and Divorce

How it Affects Children
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How Divorce Affects Children

Listen to this adorable little girl talk to her mom about getting along with her dad after divorce. Kids are very affected by fighting and bitter exes that sometimes fight in front of them. It hurts everyone – especially children. This is just such an amazing little girl trying to advise her mom. Heart warming.