Need Help With Forgiveness?

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Help With Forgiveness

Families, Couples, Individuals

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Relationship Forgiveness is Important

Forgiving Your Spouse or Partner
Are you having trouble forgiving your spouse or partner?

Does this sound familiar?

You recently found out about an affair
You’re still struggling with infidelity that happened in the past
You’re unable to forgive your husband or wife for not being there in important ways
You’re struggling and feel stuck in anger and resentment

Relationships can be very painful and challenging fir every couple, at times. We all make mistakes and some mistakes are very difficult to forgive. Forgiveness, however, is more for the person they get stuck in those negative emotions. When you forgive, you are actually freeing yourself from something that ultimately is bad for you.

Forgiving and letting go

When your spouse or partner has done something that has hurt you deeply, finding peace again through forgiveness is important. We also know how challenging and difficult it can be.

We all make mistakes

Understanding that people do the best they can and their behavior may cause others tremendous pain. It’s really a matter of understanding what to do – how to handle things yourself when you feel that pain, hurt, the trail in anger.

Can the relationship be saved?

This is up to you and your significant other. Some situations – many – can be worked through and healed. Some cannot. If your partner or spouse is willing to learn what it takes to help you heal, your relationship will have a good chance of surviving. If your partner does not seem willing – it doesn’t mean that you don’t work on forgiveness for yourself, but it means you may have to make some decisions about staying in or leaving the relationship or marriage.

If you are feeling stuck in a bad place and unable to move in one direction or the other, get in touch. We are very experienced with helping couples heal and forgive if you’re committed too the process. We also help other couples and individuals (married and partnered) decide if they can work things out,

Get in touch and let us know how we cab help you.

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Honesty in Your Marriage and Relationship

Anxiety, Depression, Relationships

Relationship Honesty

Helping Couples Build Trust

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Relationships and Honesty

Do you struggle with honesty in your relationship? Are there things you don’t share with you spouse or partner? Are you afraid to tell things with your spouse or partner something?

Being dishonest does not necessarily mean your are deliberately lying – in the case of someone directly asking if something is wrong or sensing something is wrong and directly asking. But lying to avoid getting caught in something potentially very damaging to your relationship – an affair, is a different type of dishonesty. Men and women are dishonest for different reasons sometimes.

Is this you?

You’re having an affair and are feeling stuck in a very bad situation
You’re texting other women or men and flirting and it’s hard to stop
You don’t tell your spouse or partner important things because you don’t want to hurt him or her
You don’t say how you really feel about sex and end up going through the motions and feeling unhappy
You don’t feel you can share what you want or need because you’re spouse won’t understand or care
You’re afraid your husband or wife will get angry if you say how you really feel about something

Lack of honesty will eventually lead to bigger problems, A couples can get very disconnected over time if they don’t share how unhappy they are about certain things and just accept it will never change. To deal with the disconnect, sometime one partner will find some relief in the attention from someone else. Disconnection and unhappiness at home can make many people very vulnerable to the smallest amount of attention from the outside.

It is important to be honest more now to reduce bigger problems down the road. If you need help to prevent bigger problems or if have already crossed over into infidelity or other bigger problems, get in touch.

Unhappy Marriage or Relationship?

Couples Therapist for a Disconnected Relationship

Anxiety, Depression, Relationships

Skilled Therapist for Couples

Improve Your Relationship

Need a Couples Therapist? | Are You a Couple in Need of Help?

An experienced couples therapist can help many couples struggling with communication, infidelity, intimacy and other issues. Have your been unhappy for long time trying to fix things on your own. Many couples are not sure how to get more connected and resolve relationship problems.

Does this sound familiar?

You’re not sure if you want to stay in your marriage or relationship
You’ve been so unhappy for so long and you’ve built up a wall
You are both unable to connect in ways that feel good anymore
You never have sex and are not sure what to do about it at this point
You definitely feel alone and sad
You do not feel like you are a priority (or way down the list)
You are feeling like the marriage or relationship does not matter

Are you looking for NJ couples therapist to help you and partner? Are you and your wife or husband unhappy in your relationship and not sure if you want to stay? Wondering if any professional help can turn things around?

Please feel free to contact us and let us know how we can help.

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Is Your Marriage in Trouble?

Anxiety, Depression, Grief, Relationships

Is Your Marriage in Trouble?

Time to Get help?

Is Your Marriage in Trouble?

Are you really scared about the status of your relationship? Are you feeling like your wife or husband has completely shut down? Are they now discussing wanting a divorce or breaking up? Are you feeling terrified and not sure what to do?

I hear from many men and women who are really scared of losing their marriage or relationship. They are feeling abandoned emotionally by their spouse. There has probably has been ongoing problems in the relationship that have never been dealt with properly and it has caused a great amount of distance and disconnect in the relationship. Often times one person has been asking (or begging ) to go to a couples or marriage counselor and those requests were ignored. Unfortunately, ignoring someone’s pleas to get help can cause great damage to the relationship. Sometimes that damage can be repaired and sometimes not.

So what should you do? Certainly, discussing what you are going through with a trained and experience therapist can help you figure out your next step. Fear or feelings of abandonment can cause people to struggle with sleep and lose their appetite and be unable to eat.

When Your Relationship or Marriage is in Trouble

The worse things are in the marriage, the more help you will need (if both people are willing) to turn things around. Each situation is different.

If you want to know what to do with your intense emotions and struggle, feel free to get in touch.

Online Cheating Threatens Relationships

Relationships

Online Cheating & Cyber Affairs

Dealing with Betrayal

Online Cheating, Affairs and Cyber Infidelity

When a husband, wife or partner has an affair, the betrayal can be devatating. Online cheating can also cause a tremendous amount of pain in a relationship. So seductive and easily accessible, the Internet and mobile devices are an opportunity anytime, anywhere to fill a void and get attention you are not getting elsewhere.

Is this you?

you hide your phone because you are sending inappropriate texts at all hours
you suspect your spouse or partner is connecting with other men or women online or on their phone
you feel guilty about cyber cheating and need help ending something that could ruin your relationship
the attention is so seductive, tempting and it’s so easy to start something with a coworker or friend
you want to come clean and admit the cyber affair before it’s too late
it’s hard to stop because it makes you happy and feels very good
your spouse or partner keeps accusing you and feels insecure
you don’t think it’s all that serious and deny anything is going on
you clearly see how it is hurting your relationship and need help

If online cheating is hurting your relationships, get in touch.

Online Cheating

Betrayal & Trust Issues

Caught Your Spouse?

Why Men Cheat

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Why Men Cheat

Understanding Helps

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Why Men Cheat and How to Prevent Infidelity

According to this video, the number one reason men cheat? Emotional Disconnection. According to the video how to prevent infidelity is to appreciate your spouse.

Here are several articles you might find interesting on Why Men Cheat

“The majority said it was an emotional disconnection, specifically a sense of feeling underappreciated. A lack of thoughtful gestures,” Gary says. “Men are very emotional beings. They just don’t look like that. Or they don’t seem like that. Or they don’t tell you that.” (more…)
Yes, straying is despicable, but have you ever wondered about the reasons guys do it? (more…)
Our Cheatin’ Hearts -Men and monogamy: Understanding the urge to have an extramarital affair (more…)
Esquire Magazine – Why Men Cheat . One man’s unfiltered, unadulterated explanation. Well, maybe a little adulterated. By Anonymous
Jose and Angela have been married for two years. Two days after she gave birth their baby, Jose had an affair. (more…)

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