What is a Healthy Marriage

What is a Health Marriage

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What is a Healthy Marriage ?

Help for Your Relationship | Marriage Counseling NJ

Do you feel alone and unhappy in your relationship? Are you getting caught up in negative cycles and patterns? Need help getting to a better place?

It’s very painful to feel alone in a relationship. It can actually feel worse than being alone.

Is your partner there for you? Do you matter to him or her? If you have a few minutes, watch these videos to help you understand what you need to do to improve your relationship.

Videos to help you and your spouse or partner

What is a healthy marriage?
How can I tell if my relationship will last?
How can I tell if my marriage is in trouble?
Do opposites attract? (And should they?)

What is a Healthy Marriage?

How can I tell if my marriage is in trouble?

Relationship expert Sue Johnson identifies warning signs in a marriage and what you can do to prevent issues from destroying your relationship.

How can I tell if my relationship will last?

Sue Johnson reveals how to tell if your relationship will stand the test of time.

Do opposites attract? (And should they?)

We hope you find these videos helpful.

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Does this sound familiar?

you feel alone, like you don’t matter.
you distance and isolate when things get bad.
you attack or feel attacked, criticized and misunderstood.
you want your spouse to listen and understand what you need.
you think it’s hopeless and wonder about ending your marriage.
you rarely have sex (sexual desire problems or not often enough) or show any other type of affection or closeness.
you feel neglected and/or feel your spouse puts the children first.
you are coping with trust issues or the betrayal of an affair.

If you’re in need of help, contact us.

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Dr. Sue Johnson founded the INTERNATIONAL CENTRE FOR EXCELLENCE IN EMOTIONALLY FOCUSED THERAPY (ICEEFT) in 1998.

“ICEEFT serves as a centre of excellence for the promotion of secure, resilient and successful relationships between partners and within families. Our mission includes the further expansion and refinement of the Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) model through process and outcome research. Another central aspect of our mission is to educate health professionals and to increase public awareness about the efficacy of EFT and its role in strengthening relationship bonds.” Source: Emotionally Focused Therapy

Unrealistic Expectations Are Resentments Waiting to Happen

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Unrealistic Expectations are Resentments Waiting to Happen

What do you expect from others? Are your expectations in a relationship realistic? Do you see yourself as demanding and unreasonable but do not understand why? Unrealistic expectations are resentments waiting to happen.

Being on the receiving end of someone with unrealistic expectations is no picnic. Actually, it can make the other person feel inadequate, miserable and unhappy. It could be a child, spouse or partner that gets your wrath. Does this sound familiar? “I can never please him,” or “I can never do anything right.” People with unrealistic expectations can be very demanding, critical, depressed, and seem impossible to please. Some people expect others to know what they want, to read their minds, to put their needs above all else – without even realizing it. It can be a parent who is critical of a child (even an adult child), who does not do exactly what the parent expects without regard to the child’s needs or feelings. It often causes very damaging results for the child if the pattern does not change.

Are your expectations are resentments waiting to happen?

How much self awareness do you have? Can you imagine how it would feel if someone were to treat you the way you treat them? Can you step back and see what it would be like to be on the receiving end of your anger and resentment? If you have any insight to see it is not working for you then therapy may help. It might be time to try something else, especially if you are unhappy, disappointed and angry. It is especially important if you don’t want your relationship to end or if you want a better healthier relationship with your child.

So if you are someone who needs help with persepctive on your expectations, psychotherapy may help you gain insight and awareness and gradually change unhealthy attitudes and behaviors.

If you have a parent who loves you deeply, but has made it difficult for you to be separate and autonomous – and you spend most of your interactions trying to please and not upset her, then therapy may help you as well. It causes low self esteem to take care of a parent’s emotions and feelings at your own expense.

Unrealistic expectations are resentments waiting to happen, and the hostility and anger they cause can erode relationships over time. If you are open to it, psychotherapy ( most people think of it as counseling) or life or relationship coaching can help you make some positive changes which will be better for your relationships and your life.