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Having an emotional or online affair?

Have you been sensing distance in your relationship? Do you feel like your spouse or partner has been acting unusually cold and distant? Do you suspect they might be having an emotional or online affair? Maybe more?

Men and women can usually tell when something’s not right. It can cause tremendous amount of insecurity and suspicion. Some people resort to checking emails, texts and cell phone records and even purchasing programs that try and help them make sense of what’s going on. Confronting your spouse or partner with your suspicions can be met with “you’re crazy” or “that’s ridiculous”, which can make you feel crazy and really doubt yourself. It can cause frequent fights and arguments that never get resolved.

Are you having an emotional or online affair?

If you’re having an emotional affair and you don’t know what to do, you’re going to need help if you want to save your relationship or marriage. It’s not easy to let go. Most likely the emotional or online affair happened gradually and innocently. It felt good to get some attention, to be noticed. But then things developed and got out of control and now the connection is difficult to let go of, but you don’t want to lose your marriage or relationship because if it.

There are many couples that come in trying to cope with an emotional affair or online affair. Emotional affairs can certainly trigger intense emotions and feelings of rage, anger, sadness and betrayal as a full-blown sexual affair. Your spouse or partner loses trust in you and you certainly can feel pretty lousy about yourself as well.

Letting go of an emotional or online affair and reconnecting and your marriage or relationship.

It’s going to take patience. It’s going to take understanding. It’s going to take to working through the pain and finding out how to repair things and rebuild trust.

If you need help dealing with an emotional affair or online affair, let us know. We are located in Northern New Jersey in Essex County and we also offer online therapy if you are located anywhere in NJ.

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At Maplewood Counseling, we see many couples and individuals who work or live in Chatham, New Jersey in Morris County. Some are looking for marriage counselors and want to see a therapist located nearby, but not necessarily in Chatham. Do you live or work in Chatham Borough or Chatham Township and need to find local therapy services to help you or your family? We offer in-person and video telehealth sessions. 

Is this you?

  • You are struggling in your relationship or marriage and need help with communication
  • Your spouse recently found out about an affair and you want to save your marriage
  • You are stressed, anxious or feeling unhappy and want some professional help
  • You are both unhappy and distant and don’t want things to continue on this way
  • You’re considering divorce after a long term marriage and want to know what to do
  • You’re struggling with parenting, co-parenting, step family or blended family problems
  • You’ve been through a loss and need help dealing with grief
  • Issues with you teenager or adult children cause tremendous stress on the marriage
  • You’re dealing with serious medical issues and it is affecting the entire family

We provide therapy services for couples and individuals who work or live in Chatham. Some are looking for marriage counseling, some help trying to get through a difficult time. If you need therapy services, please contact us and let us know how we can help .

 

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What do the most healthy and connected marriages have in common? Partners consistently emotionally respond to one another.

Emotionally responsiveness is one of the most important things you can do for a few very important reasons. It shows you are truly listening, you care about and validate their feelings. This allows the person to confirm these very important things –

  • I feel like I matter to you
  • I feel important to you
  • I feel like I can count on you
  • I fee like you’re there for me

What does it look like to emotionally respond? Here are some examples:

“I am angry you didn’t pick up the groceries”

Emotionally responding – “I’m so sorry” (this validates the other person’s emotions and shows you care about their feelings), I understand your feelings and I want you to be able to count on me” (this make the other person feel like they matter and you want the person to be able to count on you)
Opposite of emotional responsiveness – “Stop complaining, you forgot to get my dry cleaning last week” – this leads to disconnect, more anger, sadness, feeling alone, and makes the other person feel like they can’t count on and do not matter to you.

“I am feeling so sad and overwhelmed”
Emotionally responding – “I’m so sorry you’re feeling sad and overwhelmed” (this validates the other person’s emotions and shows you listening and care about their emotional experience), “I’m here for you – what can I do to help you?” (this make the other person feel like they matter even if they just want you to be present and listen and not fix anything)
Opposite of emotional responsiveness – “you’re too sensitive”, “stop crying”, ” you wouldn’t be so overwhelmed if you…” people want you to be present and not fix anything…

The best way you can be there for you spouse, partner (child, friend or other family member for that matter is – Listen and don’t try to fix anything

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Find a therapist experienced with attachment issues (many are) to help you. If you’re looking for a therapist in Essex County, NJ, give us a call at 973-793-1000 or email us if that’s easier.

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Coming Clean and Being Honest

Want to know what to do about infidelity and how to tell you partner or spouse before they find out? Infidelity is extremely difficult to admit to, but continuing to be dishonest, lie and deny things can be even more harmful not only to the relationship, but the person having the affair. So many men and women who start affairs can’t even believe the Made such. mistake. “It is never something I thought I would do”, “I can’t believe I’m here”, “I’ve always been faithful and thought affairs happened to other couples”. And now you find yourself in an affair and the guilt is destroying you.  You may need an infidelity therapist to help.

Understanding Infidelity

Is this You?

  • you were vulnerable to infidelity because of lack of connection, passion and feeling like you don’t matter
  • the kids, work, everything but the realtionship was a priority
  • we became so distance in your marriage over the years and felt unhappy and alone
  • there is/was some kind of thrill and adrenaline rush – maybe feeling alive again
  • it just felt good to be wanted for the first time in a long time
  • the infidelity may be masking an underlying issue such as depression, grief or trauma from the past

When things aren’t going well at home other things can happen. The insidious effects of the lack of connection can often start the process with what feels like is harmless flirting, texting and talking. Slowly you start wanting to do it more and more. Secretly you find ways to connect with the other person. Sometimes your spouse or partner senses something and starts questioning you, but you deny things when your spouse questions you, which really feels lousy.

When couples feel disconnected, forming a connection with someone else can (unfortunately) happen. Some couples realize they have lost the connection and choose therapy to help them and work on reconnecting before it goes down that path. Others may not really be aware of what they’re doing. Not feeling good about the marriage or relationship and then someone else pays attention to them – it can happen easily in these situations.

Once lines are crossed…

The toll an affair takes on the person having the affair can be huge. Good marriages and people do end up here. It usually happens over time – a couple becomes disconnected. Circumstances of busy lives, raising children, pressures at work, and trying to manage it all. Finding it difficult to maintain your connection and giving the relationship the attention it needs is very challenging. Depression, disappointment, anger, loneliness, not feeling like a priority, no sex or intimacy, frequent fights can all take a toll on your relationship.

How do I Tell My Wife, Husband or Partner About Current or Past Infidelity?

It’s not an easy thing to do. You may need an infidelity therapist to help.

Are you still having the affair? Are you trying to end it? Is the affair in the past, but guilt about the betrayal is eating away at you?

Fear of losing your marriage and family is the biggest reason people don’t want to admit to infidelity. So much pain it will cause and so much to lose if things can’t be worked out. Also, ending something that has given you much needed attention can be very difficult. It can cause men and women to feel grief, especially if you formed an attachment to the other person. You find yourself in a really hard place to be. Letting go of the affair may be painful (or not) and telling your spouse will be painful.

You may be ready to take the steps to end an affair and/or tell your spouse about the infidelity. You may need help doing this in the most sensitive and safe way possible. An infidleity therapist can help you do this in a safe place. You can take the steps to repair the damage, understand, talk and reconnect.

Need help healing your relationship? Contact Maplewood Counseling in Essex County New Jersey and let an experienced infidleity therapist help you take the steps to heal infidelity.

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When looking for reviews about Maplewood Counseling, it’s important to keep in mind the unique nature of therapy and the privacy concerns that often accompany it. Therapy is an incredibly personal experience, and many clients choose to keep their journeys private. As a result, reviews may not fully represent the number of individuals who have benefited from therapy at Maplewood Counseling. The deeply confidential nature of counseling often makes people hesitant to share their experiences publicly, even when they’ve had a positive and meaningful outcome.

That being said, we’ve included a few genuine reviews below to give you a glimpse into the care and support provided at Maplewood Counseling. These reviews come from clients and colleagues who felt comfortable sharing their thoughts to help others make informed decisions. They reflect the compassionate, professional, and supportive environment our therapists work hard to create for every individual who walks through our doors.

If you’re exploring therapy and have questions about our services, we encourage you to reach out to us directly. We understand that choosing a therapist is a personal and significant decision, and we’re here to provide the information you need to feel confident in your choice. Whether you’re seeking support for yourself, your relationship, or your family, Maplewood Counseling is dedicated to helping you navigate life’s challenges with care, respect, and understanding.

Testimonials

Robin D. 1

I have worked collaboratively with Debra Feinberg for a number of years as she has referred clients to my women's group. The feedback that I have received about Debra is that she is a warm and caring therapist who has assisted her clients in overcoming their fears, concerns, and difficult life situations. In my personal interactions with Debra, I have found her to be very professional, conducting her private practice in an ethical, competent fashion, placing her client's confidentiality above anything else. She was very instrumental to me as I began my own private practice, and I view her as a mentor given her solid skills in the field of counseling. I would recommend appropriate clients to her without reservation as she is a stellar therapist and person.

Laurie K. 2

I am a patient of Robert Jenkins. When I first met Robert he was warm and welcoming with good intentions for what we were seeking in our Couples session. I myself also had some individual sessions where Robert was extremely empathetic towards my personal emotions do to my circumstances. I highly recommend Robert Jenkins as a Counselor if you are looking for someone whom has a more detailed understanding of Psychology in a very distinct way. Thank you again Robert for being so supportive. Looking forward to more future sessions.

Jose P. 3

I have know Debra professionally for a number of years and find her style to be gentle and compassionate. Her therapeutic acumen and demeanor allows her clients to explore and make the necessary changes in order to live a more productive life. I would highly recommend her for both individual and couple's therap

Lisa L.S. 2

A compassionate and insightful therapist. Debra is a colleague whose work I hold in deep respect. In my consultations with her, she has shown herself to be sensitive, astute and at all times professional. She is soft-spoken, well-informed, and non-judgmental. I admire her careful consideration of each matter. Her experience and perspective have enhanced my own work. I wholeheartedly recommend Debra for therapy, marriage counseling, and for professional supervision.

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 We went to couples therapy and had a very good experience with Robert. We have been able to find better ways to communicate and resolve issues. Things are so much better now. I highly recommend!

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S.D.

I just want to say that my wife saw Bob Jenkins several times and we were very happy with his ability to help us. He created a safe space for us to express ourselves and offered good advice as well. We would recommend him to anyone! Thank you so much for connecting us with Bob. Please tell Bob that we are doing very well and we have turned the corner (for the better) regarding our issues. Thank you!!

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A.S.

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Are you unhappy in your marriage or relationship? Have you given up on trying to fix things on your own? You are not alone.

Couples that are facing problems in their relationship may benefit from sessions with an experienced marriage counselor. Whether it’s an affair or infidelity, communication problems and understanding one another, not feeling like a priority or fighting about money, sex or children, a few sessions can make a difference.

Dealing with An Affair and Infidelity :

Is this you?

  • your marriage is in crisis and you’re not sure you can save it after finding out about an affair
  • you need emergency marital therapy because of the devastation of an affair or infidelity
  • you feel very guilty about cheating and want to come clean, but not lose your marriage
  • you recently saw inappropriate texts or phone messages and are not sure what to do

Feeling Like Your Spouse or Partner is Not There for You :

Is this you?

  • you’re going through a difficult time and you spouse or partner is not there for you
  • you’re dealing with serious health or mental health issues and need help as a couple
  • you had a miscarriage and it has caused a tremendous amount of sadness and you feel alone
  • you feel like you can’t count on your spouse in many ways and don’t know what to do
  • you or your spouse shuts down and puts up a wall and you can’t seem to resolve anything

Feeling Like You Don’t Matter and are Not a Priority :

Is this you?

  • you fight about so many things – even small things – and you don’t know why
  • you don’t feel important and like a priority and it makes you sad and/or angry
  • work or friends seem so much more important and we have drifted apart

Feeling Misunderstood and Want Your Spouse to Understand and Listen to You :

Is this you?

  • you don’t know how to communicate effectively when you are angry at each other
  • you or your spouse resorts to name calling (or worse) and it causes a lot of damage
  • when you try and talk your spouse shuts down and you get angry or give up trying to resolve things
  • there is so much disrespect and criticism in your relationship and you can’t take it anymore
  • you fight about parenting over someone being too harsh or the other being too easy on the kids
  • you’re not sure if your marriage has reached the point of no return, but still want to try

When couples struggle and argue in their relationships, it is usually about the following:

  • I don’t feel like I matter – I don’t feel important
  • I feel like you’re not there for me
  • I don’t feel like I count on you

Trying to understand one another is an important step in reconnecting.  Being open and responding to the needs of one another emotionally is one of the most important ways you can not only improve your relationship, but have a more loving, healthy and satisfying marriage.

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