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Stop Getting Hooked: Managing Emotional Reactivity

Stop Getting Hooked: Managing Emotional Reactivity

Anxiety, Depression, Relationships

Stop Getting Hooked: How to Manage Emotional Reactivity in Relationships

How to Manage Emotional Reactivity in Relationships

Do you ever notice how quickly emotions can escalate during conversations—sometimes with a partner, but just as often with friends, family, colleagues, or anyone in your life who matters? One minute you’re discussing simple plans, and the next, intense feelings have taken over, leading to raised voices, silence, or words you wish you could take back.

If this resonates, know that you are not alone, no matter your background or life story. Many people from all walks of life find themselves “getting hooked”—caught by strong feelings that seem to take over before they know it.

Emotional reactivity is a natural human experience. Anyone can get caught in a cycle of repeated reactions, which, if unchecked, can take a toll on your well-being and your most valued connections. The empowering truth is this: you can learn to notice, pause, and respond in ways that support healthier relationships for everyone involved—regardless of culture, family structure, identity, or circumstance.

Understanding What It Means to Get “Hooked”

Imagine yourself navigating your day, and suddenly, a comment, a look, or an action pulls you into a wave of emotion—frustration, anger, sadness, or worry. This is what it means to get “hooked”: an automatic emotional response that bypasses your best intentions.

Biologically, these moments are driven by your brain’s effort to protect you. When you feel threatened—emotionally or otherwise—your body can launch into fight, flight, or freeze mode. In this state, thoughtful decision-making is tough for everyone.

People across diverse backgrounds may be “hooked” by different things: family expectations, past trauma, cultural misunderstandings, personal loss, microaggressions, or daily stressors. It isn’t a personal failing but rather a universal part of being human.

The Impact of Being Hooked on Your Community and Health

  • Relationship Strain: Frequent emotional outbursts or shutting down can make those around you—partners, children, friends, co-workers—feel unsafe to express themselves. Over time, trust and closeness can erode.
  • Physical Consequences: Chronic emotional stress can affect your heart health, sleep quality, and immune system.
  • Isolation and Fatigue: Feeling misunderstood or repeatedly defensive can leave you feeling disconnected from those important to you.

Why Triggers Differ for Everyone

Triggers for emotional reactivity are often personal and shaped by unique life experiences. For some, it’s about not feeling seen or valued in their family or cultural community. For others, it may arise from struggles with identity or from experiences related to discrimination, loss, or belonging.

Common underlying triggers include:

  • Feeling unseen, unheard, or misunderstood—at home, in the workplace, or in your community.
  • Fears of losing important relationships—which can feel particularly strong in blended families, multicultural relationships, or for those navigating big life transitions.
  • Past hurts—whether from childhood, adult relationships, or broader societal challenges.
  • Navigating cultural or generational gaps that shape values, feelings, and expectations.

When reactivity begins affecting your daily life or relationships, it may be a sign of emotional dysregulation. Recognizing these patterns is an important step toward healing and growth.

How to Practice “Unhooking” and Create Space for Healthy Response

Regardless of your identity or background, every person has the capacity for change. Here are some inclusive, practical ways to start:

1. Grow Your Awareness

Notice your body’s clues—tightness, increased heartbeat, restlessness. Our nervous systems are designed to alert us. Knowing your unique signals is the first layer of self-care.

2. Name Your Experience

Simply saying to yourself, “I’m starting to feel overwhelmed,” can foster self-compassion and allow you to make a conscious choice to pause.

3. Give Yourself Permission for a Brief Break

If a conversation—no matter who it’s with—becomes too heated, it’s okay to take a respectful break. Saying, “I care about this and want to talk when I’m calmer,” models respect and responsibility for all ages and stages.

4. Discover What Calms You

Everyone has unique ways of returning to calm. Maybe it’s deep breathing, stretching, listening to music, or stepping outside for fresh air. Use the methods that speak to your culture, values, and needs.

For those who find anger a particularly strong response, consider exploring our dedicated anger counseling resources or reaching out for tailored support.

Responding, Not Reacting: Communication for Connection

After the storm has passed, take time to reflect. Instead of leading with blame, try sharing your feelings and needs directly, such as, “When this happened, I felt left out. Can we talk about it together?” This shift creates opportunity for true understanding, especially in relationships where cultural, generational, or personality differences can lead to misunderstandings.

For relationship issues rooted in longstanding habits or heightened emotions, individualized or group therapy can help develop communication skills and increase empathy for all perspectives.

How Inclusive Therapy Can Help Break the Cycle

When patterns feel deeply ingrained or tied to experiences of exclusion, trauma, or identity, a supportive therapist can offer practical tools and compassionate guidance. At Maplewood Counseling, we honor everyone’s story and strive to create a space where every client—even those from historically marginalized or underrepresented backgrounds—feels safe, valued, and empowered.

We help you:

  • Discover your triggers: Working together to understand not only the “what” but the “why”—with respect to your history, identity, and experiences.
  • Develop customized coping strategies: Tailored to your lived reality and the cultural or family context that matters to you.
  • Heal from past wounds: Addressing both recent hurts and those that stretch far back, often rooted in family, community, or cultural experience.
  • Enhance real-life communication: Practicing language, boundaries, and listening skills that honor yourself and others.

You are worthy of peace and understanding in your relationships—whether romantic, familial, professional, or community-based.

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Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) About Emotional Reactivity

Q: Why do I get so angry over small things?
A: Often, the “small thing” is just the tip of the iceberg. It usually represents a deeper accumulated stress or an unaddressed emotional need. If you feel constantly on edge, you may be experiencing a buildup of unresolved emotions that need to be processed.

Q: Can I really change my reactions? I’ve always been this way.
A: Absolutely. Neuroscience shows that our brains are “plastic,” meaning they can change and adapt throughout our lives. With practice and the right guidance, you can weaken old neural pathways of reactivity and build new ones of calm and resilience.

Q: How do I handle it if my partner is the one getting hooked?
A: It is challenging when a loved one is reactive. Try not to take the bait. Stay calm, maintain your boundaries, and suggest revisiting the conversation when things have cooled down. Encouraging them to seek support can also be helpful, but remember, you cannot control their behavior, only your response to it.

Q: Is getting hooked the same as having anger issues?
A: Not necessarily, though they are related. Getting hooked refers to the automatic reaction to a trigger. Anger is one emotion that can result from that hook, but you might also react with anxiety, withdrawal, or shame. If anger is your primary reaction, specific anger management techniques can be very effective.

Q: How long does it take to learn these skills?
A: It is a practice, not a destination. You might see small shifts immediately, like catching yourself before yelling. Deeper change takes time and consistency. Therapy accelerates this process by providing accountability and expert feedback.

Q: What if I feel guilty after I react?
A: Guilt shows that your reaction doesn’t align with who you want to be. It is a signal that you care. Instead of beating yourself up, use that guilt as motivation to learn new skills. Be gentle with yourself; unlearning old patterns is hard work.

Ready to Find Your Calm?

Life is full of challenges we cannot control. Plans change, people disappoint us, and stress happens. But your inner peace doesn’t have to be at the mercy of external circumstances.

If you are tired of getting hooked and want to build a life of greater emotional freedom and connection, we are here to help.

Get in Touch to schedule a consultation. Let’s work together to break the cycle and help you respond to life with clarity and confidence.

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Does Relationship Therapy Work? | Effectiveness & Benefits

Does Relationship Therapy Work? | Effectiveness & Benefits

Relationships

Does Relationship Therapy Work? Finding Hope for Your Partnership

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Does Relationship Therapy Work? Finding Hope for Your Partnership

By Debra Feinberg, LCSW, Robert Jenkins, LCSW (Reviewed by Senior Level Therapists)

How Can Marriage Counseling Really Help? 

 

Understanding the Impact of Therapy on Relationships

Marriage counseling can be a transformative experience for couples facing challenges, but its success depends on several factors, including the willingness of both partners to engage in the process. Whether you’re navigating communication breakdowns, infidelity, or family dynamics, counseling offers a structured, supportive space to address issues and rebuild your connection.

At Maplewood Counseling, we provide inclusive, compassionate care for couples of all backgrounds, including LGBTQIA+, multicultural, and neurodiverse relationships. Our goal is to help you and your partner find clarity, healing, and a path forward—together or apart.

How Marriage Counseling Can Help

Marriage counseling is not a one-size-fits-all solution. It’s a collaborative process tailored to your unique relationship dynamics. Here’s how it can make a difference:

1. Improving Communication

Many couples struggle with communication, leading to misunderstandings and unresolved conflicts. Counseling provides tools to express needs, listen actively, and foster mutual understanding.

2. Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity

Recovering from betrayal is one of the most challenging situations a couple can face. A skilled therapist can guide you through the healing process, helping you rebuild trust and redefine your relationship.

3. Navigating High-Conflict Dynamics

For couples stuck in cycles of criticism, defensiveness, or stonewalling, counseling offers strategies to de-escalate conflicts and create healthier patterns of interaction.

4. Strengthening Emotional Intimacy

Over time, many couples feel emotionally distant. Therapy helps you reconnect by addressing underlying issues and fostering vulnerability and closeness.

5. Supporting Life Transitions

Major life changes—such as becoming parents, blending families, or facing retirement—can strain relationships. Counseling provides guidance to navigate these transitions with empathy and teamwork.

Complicated Marriage Counseling Situations

Marriage counseling often involves addressing complex and deeply rooted issues. Here are some examples of challenging scenarios and how therapy can help:

1. One Partner Is “Leaning Out”

In some cases, one partner may be unsure about continuing the relationship while the other is fully committed. Discernment counseling can help couples explore their options and decide whether to work on the marriage or separate amicably.

2. Cultural or Religious Differences

Couples from different cultural or religious backgrounds may face unique challenges. Inclusive counseling provides a safe space to navigate these differences and find common ground.

3. Neurodiverse Relationships

When one or both partners are neurodivergent (e.g., ADHD, autism), relationships can face unique dynamics. Therapy helps couples understand and adapt to these differences, fostering empathy and connection.

4. Blended Family Challenges

Blending families can create loyalty conflicts, parenting disagreements, and other challenges. Counseling helps families establish new roles, build trust, and create a sense of unity.

5. Recovering from Emotional or Physical Abuse

In cases where past abuse has occurred, therapy focuses on creating safety, addressing trauma, and determining the best path forward for both partners.

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Frequently Asked Questions About Relationship Therapy

Can couples therapy help if only one of us is open to participation?
Absolutely. While the most growth happens when all partners are engaged, positive change can begin with just one person’s willingness. You may discover new ways to interact, set boundaries, or nurture the relationship, even if your partner is apprehensive about joining. Many people find that their involvement encourages their partner’s participation over time.

Do you offer support for non-traditional, blended, or LGBTQ+ relationships?
Yes—our services are designed to be affirming and inclusive of all relationship structures, cultural backgrounds, and identities. Whether you’re in a blended, same-gender, or non-monogamous partnership, we honor your lived experience and tailor support to your unique needs.

What if we’re experiencing cultural or religious differences in our relationship?
We understand that relationships are shaped by diverse values and beliefs. Our therapists strive to respect and incorporate your cultural and religious perspectives, opening a compassionate dialogue to address differences and foster understanding—while ensuring each individual feels heard and respected.

Will therapy pressure us to stay together, even if we’re unsure?
Our focus is on supporting your wellbeing and helping you make the best choice for your unique situation. Therapy is a safe space to explore questions about your future as a couple. Whether you decide to heal together or part ways, we honor your decision and provide guidance for either path.

Is counseling confidential and judgment-free?
Absolutely. Everything you share in session is held in strict confidence. We are committed to providing a judgment-free space where each person’s concerns and feelings are treated with the utmost respect.

How can therapy help if we face barriers like schedules or accessibility?
We offer flexible options, including virtual appointments, to fit a variety of lifestyles and comfort levels. Our goal is to meet you where you are, making it as easy as possible to access the support you need, when you need it.

Is It Time to Reach Out?

You don’t have to wait for a crisis to seek support. In fact, many healthy couples use therapy as a form of preventative care—a “tune-up” to keep their connection strong.

If you are feeling lonely in your relationship, if your arguments go in circles without resolution, or if you simply miss the closeness you used to have, we invite you to reach out.

Asking for help is not an admission of failure. It is a courageous act of love. It says, “This relationship matters to me, and I am willing to fight for it.”

At Maplewood Counseling, we provide inclusive, compassionate, and skilled support for partnerships of all kinds. We are here to help you navigate the complexity of love and build a future where you both feel secure and cherished.

Are you ready to see what is possible for your relationship?

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Improve Your Relationship: 6 Tips for a Deeper Connection

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6 Ways to Deepen and Improve Your Relationship

 

At Maplewood Counseling, we provide inclusive care for people of all races, cultures, and backgrounds, including interfaith, interracial, BIPOC, LGBTQIA+, and blended families. Our therapists bring lived experiences and specialized training to create a safe, affirming space for all.

6 Ways to Deepen and Improve Your Relationship

Every relationship faces challenges. It’s a normal part of sharing a life with someone. You might feel like you’re hitting a bump in the road, arguing more, or simply growing distant. The reassuring news is that there are proven ways to transform these challenges into opportunities for growth. You can strengthen your connection, deepen your understanding, and improve your relationship, starting today.

We can help you find the right tools to build a more resilient and loving partnership. This guide offers practical strategies to enhance communication, manage disagreements, and reignite the bond you share.

1. Practice Mindful Communication

How we speak to each other matters deeply. Mindful communication is about being present, thoughtful, and positive in your interactions. It involves shifting your perspective from criticism to appreciation. This simple change can transform the entire atmosphere of your relationship.

Instead of pointing out what’s wrong, focus on what’s right. For example, rather than saying, “You never help around the house,” try expressing your appreciation when they do: “It means so much to me when you help with dinner.” Similarly, change “We need to talk” into a more inviting, “I love our conversations and would like to make some time to connect later.” This approach fosters a positive environment where both partners feel valued instead of defensive.

2. Show Appreciation and Affection

Feeling seen and valued is a fundamental human need. Small, consistent acts of appreciation can make a significant difference in how connected your partner feels. It’s about more than just saying “thank you.” It’s about showing you notice and cherish their efforts.

Praise them for a job well done. Surprise them with a small, thoughtful gift. Physical affection also plays a vital role in maintaining intimacy. Simple gestures like holding hands, a warm hug, or an arm around their shoulder send a powerful message of care and connection. These actions reinforce your bond and remind your partner that you are in this together.

3. Learn to Navigate Disagreements

No couple agrees on everything. Disagreements are not only inevitable but can also be healthy for a relationship. They provide an opportunity to air different perspectives and can lead to a stronger partnership, but only if they are handled constructively. The goal isn’t to avoid arguments, but to learn how to manage them with love and respect.

Manage Your Arguments Gracefully

Approach sensitive topics in a non-confrontational way. Instead of making demands, express your needs with love. For instance, rather than saying, “You need to make time for my birthday tomorrow,” you could say, “I’d love to plan something special with you for my birthday.”

If a discussion becomes too intense, it’s okay to pause. A graceful exit can prevent lasting damage. You could say, “You’ve raised some really important points, and I need some time to think about them,” or “I trust you and value your opinion. We will figure this out together.” This validates your partner’s feelings while giving you both space to cool down.

4. Prioritize Personal Space and Self-Care

The saying “distance makes the heart grow fonder” holds truth. Spending time on your own interests and well-being isn’t selfish; it’s essential for a healthy relationship. Taking time for yourself, whether it’s an hour or a full day, gives you room to breathe, de-stress, and recharge.

Engaging in activities you love, like a hobby, exercise, or meditation, helps you maintain your own identity within the partnership. Physical activities like jogging or sports are excellent stress relievers. Other people find comfort in reading, playing music, or journaling. Taking care of your own mental and emotional health allows you to show up as a better, more present partner.

5. Create Quality Time Together

Just as time apart is important, so is dedicated time together. Life gets busy, and it’s easy to fall into a routine of coexisting rather than connecting. Be intentional about creating quality time to nurture your bond.

Reconnect and Have Fun

Plan a regular date night, whether it’s a fancy dinner out or a cozy movie night in. Take time for meaningful conversations where you can both share what’s on your mind without distractions. Ask your partner about their day and truly listen to their response.

Trying something new together can also reignite a spark. Whether it’s taking a dance class, going rock climbing, or exploring a new town, shared adventures create lasting memories and strengthen your connection. These shared experiences build a foundation of joy and mutual support.

6. Know When to Seek Professional Support

Sometimes, despite your best efforts, you may need outside help to navigate your challenges. Seeking counseling is a sign of strength, not failure. Couples therapy provides a safe, non-judgmental space to work through issues with the guidance of a trained professional.

You don’t have to wait until your relationship is in crisis. Many couples find counseling beneficial for navigating life transitions, improving communication, or simply deepening their connection. An experienced therapist can provide you with tailored tools and strategies to help you and your partner build a healthier, more fulfilling future together.

If you are ready to empower your partnership and transform your challenges into growth, we are here to help.

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Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)

Q: My partner is hesitant about trying therapy. What can I do?
A: This is a very common concern. It can be helpful to approach the conversation with empathy. Frame it as an opportunity for you both to learn new tools to support each other better. Our therapists specialize in creating a comfortable environment where both partners feel safe and heard, ensuring everyone’s perspective is valued.

Q: Is online counseling as effective as in-person sessions?
A: Yes, many couples find virtual sessions to be just as effective. They offer the added benefits of convenience and flexibility, allowing you to connect from the comfort of your own home. The quality of support and guidance remains the same, focused on helping you achieve your relationship goals.

Q: What if our problems feel too big or complicated for therapy?
A: Every relationship is unique, with its own set of challenges. There is no issue too “big” or “small” for counseling. Our approach is to provide tailored support that addresses your specific needs. We are here to help you navigate your unique situation with compassion and expertise.

Q: How do we know if our communication is the problem?
A: Signs of communication issues include frequent misunderstandings, feeling unheard or dismissed, avoiding difficult conversations, and recurring arguments about the same topics. If you feel like you and your partner are speaking different languages, improving your communication skills can be transformative.

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Therapy for High-Conflict Couples: Finding Peace and Connection

Therapy for High-Conflict Couples: Finding Peace and Connection

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Breaking the Cycle: Hope and Help for High-Conflict Couples

 

by Debra Feinberg LCSW ( reviewer)

At Maplewood Counseling, we provide inclusive care for people of all races, cultures, and backgrounds, including interfaith, interracial, BIPOC, LGBTQIA+, and blended families. Our therapists bring lived experiences and specialized training to create a safe, affirming space for all.

Breaking the Cycle: Hope and Help for High-Conflict Couples

Help for High-Conflict Couples

Conflict is a natural part of any relationship. Two people with unique histories, values, and perspectives are bound to disagree. However, for some couples, disagreement doesn’t just feel like a bump in the road; it feels like living in a war zone. If you find yourself walking on eggshells or feeling like every small conversation explodes into a major argument, you might be in a high-conflict dynamic.

It is exhausting to live in a state of constant defense. You might feel misunderstood, lonely, and hopeless about ever getting back to the “good times.” We want you to know that you are not alone in this feeling, and more importantly, this dynamic does not have to be your permanent reality. Support is available, and change is possible.

This guide explores what it means to be a high-conflict couple, how professional support can transform your partnership, and the steps you can take today to reclaim your connection.

Beyond “Normal” Arguing: Recognizing the Patterns

Every couple argues. But high-conflict relationships are often defined not just by the frequency of the arguments, but by the intensity and the aftermath. Do you feel like you are stuck in a loop?

In high-conflict dynamics, the issue at hand—whether it’s dishes, finances, or parenting—often gets lost. Instead, the focus shifts rapidly to character attacks, defensiveness, or shutting down completely. This is often referred to by therapists as “The Four Horsemen”: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. When these four behaviors take the driver’s seat, safety leaves the room.

Recognizing these signs is an act of bravery. It requires honesty to look at your relationship and admit, “We are hurting each other.” Common indicators include:

  • Rapid Escalation: Zero to sixty in seconds. A question about the schedule turns into a fight about respect.
  • Lack of Repair: After the fight, there is no resolution or soothing. You simply retreat until the next explosion.
  • Negative Sentiment Override: You view your partner’s neutral actions through a negative lens because trust has eroded.
  • Emotional Flooding: You feel physically overwhelmed (racing heart, sweaty palms) during conflicts, making it impossible to listen.

If this resonates with you, please take a deep breath. This doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed. It means your current tools for communication aren’t working for the complex challenges you are facing.

The Role of Therapy: Moving from Battleground to Sanctuary

Many couples wait an average of six years after problems arise before seeking help. That is a long time to suffer in silence. The hesitation is understandable; opening up your private life to a stranger can feel daunting. However, therapy offers a neutral, safe space designed to de-escalate tension.

Creating a Safety Container

The first goal of therapy for high-conflict couples is to stop the bleeding. We work to create a “container” where difficult topics can be discussed without the conversation spiraling out of control. Your therapist acts as a skilled mediator, slowing down the interaction so you can actually hear one another rather than just reacting to triggers.

Decoding the deeper needs

Beneath every scream, criticism, or silent treatment is usually a desperate plea for connection. We often fight because we are terrified of losing each other, or because we feel invisible. Therapy helps you translate “You never help me!” into “I feel overwhelmed and I miss your support.” When we can speak from a place of vulnerability rather than attack, the walls begin to come down.

Tools for the Real World

Insight is wonderful, but you need practical strategies for Tuesday night when the baby is crying and dinner is burning. Therapy equips you with actionable tools to:

  • Take effective “time-outs” before damage is done.
  • Identify your physiological triggers.
  • Practice “soft start-ups” to raise issues without blame.
  • Rebuild the “emotional bank account” with positive interactions.

Inclusive Support for Diverse Dynamics

Love looks different for everyone, and so does conflict. We recognize that high-conflict dynamics can be influenced by factors outside the relationship itself.

Cultural backgrounds, for instance, play a huge role in how we express anger or affection. In some cultures, loud expression is normal; in others, it is seen as disrespectful. Neurodiversity (such as ADHD or Autism) can also impact communication styles and emotional regulation, leading to misunderstandings that fuel conflict. Furthermore, LGBTQ+ couples may face unique external stressors that impact their internal dynamic.

A truly supportive therapeutic approach is inclusive. It does not enforce a “one-size-fits-all” model of a healthy relationship. Instead, it honors your unique identities and seeks to understand how your specific backgrounds influence your partnership. Your therapist is there to validate your lived experience and help you find a rhythm that works for you.

Reignite Your Bond: It’s Not Too Late

The presence of high conflict often means there is still high passion and a deep desire to make it work. Apathy is usually the end of a relationship, not anger. The fact that you are fighting—and the fact that you are reading this—shows that you care deeply.

Transforming a high-conflict relationship into a secure, loving partnership is hard work. It requires patience, humility, and the willingness to try something new. But imagine a future where you come home to a partner who feels like a teammate rather than an adversary. Imagine resolving a disagreement in ten minutes rather than three days. This future is attainable.

Are you ready to stop fighting against each other and start fighting for your relationship?

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Frequently Asked Questions

 

We know you likely have questions about starting this journey. Here are answers to some common concerns we hear.

“My partner refuses to go to therapy. Can I come alone?”

Absolutely. While we ideally want both partners in the room to work on the dynamic together, “relationship therapy for one” can be incredibly powerful. You can learn to change your own reactions, set healthier boundaries, and de-escalate conflict from your end. Often, when one partner changes their steps in the dance, the other partner naturally has to adjust.

“Will the therapist just take my partner’s side?”

This is a very common fear. A professional, ethical therapist is “on the side of the relationship,” not on the side of either individual. Our job is to remain neutral and objective. We will validate both of your perspectives and help you see how you both contribute to the cycle. We are here to support your union, not to judge.

“We fight constantly. Is there any hope for us?”

High conflict does not equal “broken beyond repair.” In fact, many high-conflict couples have incredible potential for intimacy once they learn how to manage the fire. Success depends less on how bad the fighting is now, and more on your willingness to learn new skills and commit to the process. If you are both willing to show up and do the work, there is absolutely hope.

“How long does therapy take?”

Every couple is unique. Some couples see significant improvement in communication within 8-10 sessions as they learn immediate de-escalation tools. Others may choose to work longer to address deeper, childhood wounds or ingrained patterns. We will work with you to establish goals and a timeline that feels right for your specific needs.

Take the Next Step Toward Peace

You do not have to navigate this storm alone. If you are tired of the constant battles and are yearning for a deeper, safer connection, we are here to guide you.

Let us help you transform your challenges into growth. Your relationship deserves to be a safe harbor.

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Maplewood Telehealth Online Counseling Services

 

 

Would it be more convenient to do therapy online?

Many clients used telehealth online counseling services instead of in-person counseling at a physical location during the COVID-19 pandemic. In fact, for some people, this service was very effective and provided extra benefits by allowing greater convenience along with more flexibility.

How does teletherapy work?

Just as you make an appointment for an in-office session, you’ll make an appointment to meet online. Through devices such as computers, iPads/tablets, and smartphones, you can have interactive sessions with your therapist. Many online conference tools are available. Software apps such as Zoom, FaceTime, Skype, and Google Meet are a few. You still see each other face-to-face. However, your meeting is virtual.

Can you get as much out of telehealth online counseling as in-person therapy?

As a matter of fact, you can. Your therapist uses the same therapy tools that are used during in-person sessions. According to several of our existing clients who have been in marriage counseling, couples therapy, individual therapy, or family counseling, it is very effective at addressing issues and concerns.

Does the therapy online provide advantages?

There are a number of advantages. For one, you don’t have to drive to the therapist’s office for sessions. You don’t have to deal with scheduling issues, traffic, cost of gas, getting sitters, and much more. In fact, if one partner is at work and the other is at home, the Telehealth session link can bring us all together to work on issues.

Virtual remote therapy is private and secure. Yet, you continue to have a close one-on-one connection with your therapist. Or, if involved in group therapy, your group sessions can also take place online. You’ll still be able to see and hear the other participants in the group.

You may find that therapists can often provide greater accessibility through teletherapy. After all, you both can save time by not having to travel to their office, deal with parking, or arrive late due to traffic.

In addition, there’s an added advantage for clients who feel self-conscious about physically traveling and walking into a therapist’s office. In that respect, you may experience a greater sense of privacy.

Are there extra costs for online therapy?

Typically, no. Costs vary from one therapist to the next. But, most charge the same hourly rates whether in-person or online.

Is there anything you should do to prepare for an online session?

To avoid interruptions, ensure:

  • You have a private, quiet spot for your session
  • Your device is fully charged
  • The location has a strong internet connection

Maplewood Counseling Online

If you visit Psychology Today, you’ll see many therapists are now offering telehealth online services. In fact, you’ll find me listed in their teletherapy directory.

Want to give it a try?

Give us a call or text at 973-793-1000 to discuss setting up an online session. While some people might miss the feel of an in-person encounter, other people prefer the advantages of online counseling. Try it out and see. Discover for yourself if it’s right for you.

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Need Marriage Counseling Before Divorce?

Need Marriage Counseling Before Divorce?

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What to Do Before Divorce?

Trouble Deciding? Unhappy?

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Are you undecided about divorce?

Marriage counseling before divorce can help in a variety of ways. It can help with:

  • Improving communication with your spouse
  • Bettering conditions for your children
  • Easing financial stress
  • Making decisions about divorce
  • Regaining a more fulfilling life

Improving communication with your spouse

Communication problems or a lack of communication is the source of many upsets. Through communication, you and your spouse can address issues in your marriage that are making life difficult. There are ways of communicating that can benefit you both. This is true whether you end up staying married or decide to divorce. In particular, couples with children will have ongoing contact between spouses. Learning to understand each other’s wishes, needs and emotions can improve how you get along.

Bettering conditions for your children

Like it or not, how you and your spouse treat each other sets an example for your children. Your children learn by watching, and they learn to mimic their parents’ behavior. If family life is stressful, dysfunctional or combative, they are likely to show the same type of behavior themselves when adults. Developing healthy communication can help your children now and the future.

In fact, studies show that high-conflict marriages harm children. Divorce is one way to reduce conflict. However, even when divorced, parents need to find a way to minimize their conflict.

Easing financial stress

A divorce can be costly. If counseling helps you improve your relationship and you can avoid divorce, then it can ease financial stress. In addition, if you do decide to divorce, you may be able to do so amicably and avoid an expensive legal battle.

In fact, working together to resolve future problems is healthier for everyone. Parents and children, both mentally and physically. Reducing this type of stress can also reduce medical care costs, which can mount up quickly.

Making decisions about divorce

Some marriages can be fixed. Other marriages were a mismatch the start. In such cases, divorce may make life better for both spouses.

However, until you open up communication and address the issues in your relationship, it is difficult to know if you can resolve your marital problems. A counselor can help you uncover the truth and arrive at the right decisions.

In many instances, couples are not ready to end their relationship until they’ve done all they can in an attempt to repair it. This is where counseling comes in.

Regaining a more fulfilling life

Can you find happiness again after marriage? You may feel weighed down by problems involving your relationship. This can lead to depression and worries that life isn’t enjoyable anymore.

However, through counseling, a skilled therapist can help you rediscover a happy life. It’s possible to rekindle the joy and happiness you once felt.

Considering marriage counseling before divorce?

At Maplewood Counseling we can help you address marital problems before divorce and give you tools to repair your relationship. Find out how we can help.

 

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