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Infidelity Therapist to Help You Tell Your Partner

Infidelity Therapist to Help You Tell Your Partner

Anxiety, Depression, Relationships

INFIDELITY THERAPIST NEAR ME
HOW TO TELL YOUR PARTNER
MAPLEWOOD, NEW JERSEY 

 

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Want to tell your partner about an affair, but don’t know how?

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How an Infidelity Therapist Can Help

Coming Clean and Being Honest

Want to know what to do about infidelity and how to tell you partner or spouse before they find out? Infidelity is extremely difficult to admit to, but continuing to be dishonest, lie and deny things can be even more harmful not only to the relationship, but the person having the affair. So many men and women who start affairs can’t even believe the Made such. mistake. “It is never something I thought I would do”, “I can’t believe I’m here”, “I’ve always been faithful and thought affairs happened to other couples”. And now you find yourself in an affair and the guilt is destroying you.  You may need an infidelity therapist to help.

Understanding Infidelity

Is this You?

  • you were vulnerable to infidelity because of lack of connection, passion and feeling like you don’t matter
  • the kids, work, everything but the realtionship was a priority
  • we became so distance in your marriage over the years and felt unhappy and alone
  • there is/was some kind of thrill and adrenaline rush – maybe feeling alive again
  • it just felt good to be wanted for the first time in a long time
  • the infidelity may be masking an underlying issue such as depression, grief or trauma from the past

When things aren’t going well at home other things can happen. The insidious effects of the lack of connection can often start the process with what feels like is harmless flirting, texting and talking. Slowly you start wanting to do it more and more. Secretly you find ways to connect with the other person. Sometimes your spouse or partner senses something and starts questioning you, but you deny things when your spouse questions you, which really feels lousy.

When couples feel disconnected, forming a connection with someone else can (unfortunately) happen. Some couples realize they have lost the connection and choose therapy to help them and work on reconnecting before it goes down that path. Others may not really be aware of what they’re doing. Not feeling good about the marriage or relationship and then someone else pays attention to them – it can happen easily in these situations.

Once lines are crossed…

The toll an affair takes on the person having the affair can be huge. Good marriages and people do end up here. It usually happens over time – a couple becomes disconnected. Circumstances of busy lives, raising children, pressures at work, and trying to manage it all. Finding it difficult to maintain your connection and giving the relationship the attention it needs is very challenging. Depression, disappointment, anger, loneliness, not feeling like a priority, no sex or intimacy, frequent fights can all take a toll on your relationship.

How do I Tell My Wife, Husband or Partner About Current or Past Infidelity?

It’s not an easy thing to do. You may need an infidelity therapist to help.

Are you still having the affair? Are you trying to end it? Is the affair in the past, but guilt about the betrayal is eating away at you?

Fear of losing your marriage and family is the biggest reason people don’t want to admit to infidelity. So much pain it will cause and so much to lose if things can’t be worked out. Also, ending something that has given you much needed attention can be very difficult. It can cause men and women to feel grief, especially if you formed an attachment to the other person. You find yourself in a really hard place to be. Letting go of the affair may be painful (or not) and telling your spouse will be painful.

You may be ready to take the steps to end an affair and/or tell your spouse about the infidelity. You may need help doing this in the most sensitive and safe way possible. An infidleity therapist can help you do this in a safe place. You can take the steps to repair the damage, understand, talk and reconnect.

Need help healing your relationship? Contact Maplewood Counseling in Essex County New Jersey and let an experienced infidleity therapist help you take the steps to heal infidelity.

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Relationships

Saving My Marriage Possible?

Is it too late?

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Save Marriage | Can Therapy Help Save Our Marriage?

Does this sound familiar?

  • We are not sure things can change to save our marriage
  • I/we cannot go on the way things are going without help
  • I don’t trust my spouse and we fight about it constantly
  • I just found out my spouse cheated on me and I’m devastated
  • We are dealing with an affair that happened awhile ago, but I can’t get over it
  • We’ve tried everything and this is a last resort
  • I feel so incredibly alone and my partner is just not there for me
  • We are so unhappy and have been for a long time
  • I don’t feel like I matter and it is so painful
  • I know or suspect my spouse or partner is having an emotional or sexual affair
  • I feel so angry and disappointed in my spouse most or all the time
  • I love my spouse or partner, but we fight so much and I don’t know why
  • I’m not sure if it’s worth saving our marriage and I feel hopeless
  • My spouse says he or she will change and it never sticks
  • I’m never a priority and it feels awful

I am not in love with my wife or husband anymore and not sure what to do

Can We Turn this Around? Is it possible to save our marriage?

Are you looking for ways to see if you and your partner or spouse can turn things around and save your marriage or relationship? Is this your last attempt before you call it quits?

Some couples have tried marriage counseling in the past and maybe it helped, button enough – or maybe it didn’t help at all. Many wonder if marriage counseling or family therapy is worth it. With some therapists and for some couples, it is worth it if it can hep you reconnect and find ways to improve the way you feel about one another.

If both people are really committed to the process, it may help you turn things around. We’ve seen many couples learn how to (and more importantly want to) improve how they respond emotionally to one another. Emotional responsiveness (according to a leading innovator in the field of couples therapy Dr. Sue Johnson) is one of the most important (if not the most important) aspects of creating meaningful and long lasting connections in a relationship.

If you are looking for a NJ therapist to help you with your marriage or relationship, please contact us and let us know how we can help you or call us if that’s easier for you.

Coping With an Affair

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Coping with an Affair?

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Coping With an Affair and Infidelity

Are you coping with an affair? Wondering if your relationship can survive the infidelity? If you found out that your spouse or partner ( boyfriend or girlfriend ) cheated on you, it makes sense you’d feel completely devastated. How you found out also complicates things.  And you are no doubt going through a range of feelings from shock, anger, hurt, sadness to confusion. It can also be a huge blow to your self esteem, sometimes making it hard to eat, sleep, or function at work or home. The betrayal of a spouse or partner is so incredibly painful.

Is this you?

  • you’re in shock and you just don’t know what to do or whom to turn to
  • you don’t want to tell family or friends and you feel all alone
  • your feelings of shame are unbearable and you just feel like hiding from people
  • you’re not sure if you can stay in the marriage or relationship
  • you put up a wall and want to distance or lash out (or both)
  • you can’t be around your spouse or partner without feeling an incredible amount of pain
  • you’re getting obsessed with, and focused on, wanting to know all the details, but that only hurts more
  • you keep asking “why?” over and over
  • you feel like somehow it’s your fault

Coping with an affair is so very difficult. Of course you feel angry, of course you feel hurt. So what’s the next step? Can your relationship heal from the damage of an affair?

 

Coping after an affair can be very difficult and take a long time to heal. We hope this information helps you understand the healing process and what steps you can take to recover from infidelity.

Trying to End An Affair & Therapy?

Trying to End An Affair & Therapy?

Relationships

Trying To End An Affair?

Counseling Can Help
Couples & Individuals

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Are You Trying to End an Affair?

Trying to end an affair? Can you stop infidelity from continuing to damage you and your marriage or relationship?

Trying to end an affair that has been causing you to feel depressed in addition to hurting your marriage or relationship? Trying to pick up the pieces and cope emotionally with the loss? Not sure if you can or even want to reconnect with your spouse or partner ( who may or may not know about the infidelity)?

Wondering if you and your relationship can heal? Is it possible to reconnect with your spouse or partner and get more of what you need from marriage or relationship or do you feel like you can’t stay with your spouse any longer?

Certainly day to day stressors, kids and work responsibilities can be anything but romantic. Maybe your marriage became one of focusing on your children, work and chores leaving you drained and exhausted. The routine can make couples slowly drift apart, leaving both partners vulnerable to the attention of another man or woman. Infidelity, which is usually a symptom of a problem in your relationship, may be hard to resist especially if it’s something you have not felt in a long time – or ever.

Trying to End an Affair

When the affair has caused too much pain and guilt,you may feel it’s time to let go. Easier said than done, especially if you are emotionally connected and letting go feels like a very painful loss.  Maybe you’ve already tried a few times to break-off the affair – only to feel drawn back in. Feeling desired and appreciated is hard to resist, especially if it is something that has been lacking (or missing) in your relationship.  On the other hand, coping with letting go and the feelings of grief about giving up the way the other man or woman made you feel can be very painful. To complicate things, you’re usually alone and can’t get the support you need because it may not easy to share the details of infidelity with others.

Trying to End an Affair

Is this you?

  • the affair made you feel things you’ve never felt – in good ways and bad
  • you’ve been dishonest with your spouse or partner and feel very guilty about it
  • you’re ready to commit to giving your marriage or relationship another chance
  • you’re having trouble coping with the pain of trying to let go
  • you’re struggling with the pull of the affair and seeking the good feelings it used to give you ( only to feel more pain they are no longer there)
  • you’re not sure if you want to stay in your marriage and if you can reconnect with your spouse or partner

The next step – Grieving, Healing and Reconnecting With your Spouse (if that’s possible)

A non-judgmental, experienced and understanding therapist can help if you’re trying to end an affair and take the next steps in your life and relationship. Get in touch and let us know if we can help you.

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