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Things Not Going the Way You Expected?

Things Not Going the Way You Expected?

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Things Not Going the Way You Want?

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Things Not Going the Way You Want?

Not sure what to do about it?

Things not going according to plan in your life or relationship?

Are you feeling frustrated and unhappy because things aren’t going the way you want them to in your life or relationship? Many situations are unpredictable and relationships are complex, so it’s natural to experience bumps along the way. Life is all about how we handle plan B when things don’t go the way we wanted or expected.

If you find yourself in this situation, know that you are not alone. It’s completely normal to feel overwhelmed and unsure of what steps to take next. But don’t let these challenges discourage you – they can actually be opportunities for growth and improvement.

The good news is that there are steps you can take to help get things back on track. Here are some tips to keep in mind when things aren’t going according to plan:

  • Invite yourself to take a step back and reflect on the situation. Ask yourself why things aren’t going according to plan and what you can do to improve the situation.
  • Remember that it’s okay to not have everything figured out. It’s normal to face challenges and setbacks in life, but they don’t define you or your future.
  • Seek support from friends, family, or a professional. It’s always helpful to have someone to talk to and offer guidance during tough times.
  • Take small actions towards your goals every day. Sometimes progress may seem slow, but even small steps can add up over time.

How to manage getting through hard times

During difficult times, it can be easy to feel overwhelmed and lose sight of how to move forward. Here are some additional tips for managing getting through hard times:

  • Practice self-care: It’s important to prioritize your mental and emotional well-being during tough times. Make sure to take care of yourself by eating well, staying hydrated, and engaging in activities that bring you joy or help you relax.
  • Be kind to yourself: Remember that it’s okay to make mistakes and face challenges. Don’t be too hard on yourself and instead offer yourself compassion and understanding.
  • Focus on the present: While it’s natural to worry about the future during tough times, try to focus on the here and now. Take things one day at a time and try not to let anxiety take over.
  • Seek out positive influences: Surround yourself with people who uplift and support you. This can be friends, family, or even online communities that share similar interests or experiences.
  • Remember that setbacks are temporary: No matter how difficult things may seem now, know that this too shall pass. Keep reminding yourself that the tough times won’t last forever and there is hope for a brighter future.

Getting through hard times can be challenging but with the right mindset and support, you can overcome any obstacle. Remember to take care of yourself, stay positive, and keep moving forward. And always remember that tough times don’t define you – your resilience and determination do. You got this! So keep pushing through and know that better days are ahead. No matter how tough or bleak things may seem, always hold onto hope and believe in yourself. You are capable of overcoming anything that comes your way. Keep in mind these tips and continue to practice self-care, kindness, and positivity during difficult times. You’ll emerge stronger, wiser, and more resilient than ever before.

When you need extra support to get through a challenging time.

 

If you need additional support or guidance along the way, we’re here for you. Our services provide a safe and nonjudgmental space to work through your struggles and find solutions. Take the first step towards a happier life by reaching out to us today for more information or to schedule a consultation. There is always hope things can improve.

At Maplewood Counseling, we understand the difficulties that come with navigating life and relationships. Our team of experienced professionals is here to offer you support and guidance through compassionate counseling services.

Together, we can work towards finding solutions to your challenges and creating a plan for moving forward in a way that aligns with your values and goals. Don’t hesitate to reach out – let us help you navigate through this rough patch and come out stronger on the other side.

Ready to take the first step? Contact us today and schedule a session with one of our counselors. We’re here for you, every step of the way towards a happier and more fulfilling life.

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Work Life Balance for Better Mental Health

Work Life Balance for Better Mental Health

Relationships

Work Life Balance Strategies

Help Prioritizing Your Needs

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Help Maintaining Work Life Balance

Are you finding it challenging to maintain a healthy balance between your demanding work schedule and personal life? We completely understand how overwhelming it can be when the lines between professional commitments and personal space start to blur. But here’s the good news – you’re not alone in this struggle. Many of us find ourselves trapped in the monotonous cycle of work, eat, sleep, and repeat. However, we firmly believe that establishing a healthy work-life balance is not as daunting as it may seem at first glance.

Allow us to share a few practical tips that we believe can make a significant difference:

  1. Set clear boundaries: It’s crucial to create and maintain clear-cut boundaries between your work and personal life. Whether it means committing to not checking emails during family dinners or establishing specific work hours, taking charge of these boundaries is entirely up to you. By doing so, you can create space and time for the things that matter most outside of work.
  2. Prioritize self-care: Remember, you cannot pour from an empty cup. It is vital to dedicate time to activities that refresh and rejuvenate you. Whether it’s engaging in hobbies you love, practicing mindfulness and self-reflection, or simply taking time for relaxation, self-care should be an essential part of your routine. By nourishing your mind, body, and soul, you will have more energy and focus to excel in both your professional and personal life.
  3. Learn to say no: It’s perfectly okay to decline certain meetings or tasks that may not align with your priorities or overwhelm your schedule. Understanding your limits and learning to say no when necessary is a crucial step towards achieving a more balanced life. By doing so, you can create space for the activities and relationships that truly matter to you.
  4. Seek support when needed: If you’re feeling overwhelmed or stretched too thin, remember that it’s okay to ask for help. Whether it means delegating tasks at work or seeking guidance and support from loved ones, sharing the load can alleviate stress and provide a fresh perspective. Remember, you don’t have to face everything on your own, and seeking support is a sign of strength, not weakness.

In the pursuit of work-life balance, it’s important to remember that it’s not about achieving perfection. Rather, it’s about creating a lifestyle that brings value, fulfillment, and happiness to your life as a whole. We believe in you and know that you have the resilience, determination, and dedication required to achieve this balance. Embrace the journey, be kind to yourself, and take small steps every day towards a more balanced and fulfilling life.

If you need help managing work life balance and getting to a better place, reach out.  We’re here to help.

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Need Help Coping with Emotional Pain?

Need Help Coping with Emotional Pain?

Anxiety, Depression, Grief, Relationships

Coping with Painful Emotions
Trauma, Dysregulation, Coping Skills

 

Trying to Cope with Difficult Emotions?
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Need help managing deep and ongoing emotional pain in your relationship and personal life? You are not alone…

We all have to deal with emotional pain at different points in our lives.  Life unfolds in ways we never expected (or wanted) and finding ways to get throught these painful times is important. Deep emotional pain is the most challenging for us all.

Does this sound familiar?

  • You lost a loved one and feel like you are in the grips of deep sorrow, trauma, shock, and ongoing grief.
  • You are feeling lost after divorce or the end of a relationship and don’t know how to handle your intense emotions.
  • Maybe you’re feel ongoing emotional pain due to problems in your relationship or family.
  • Or are you’re just feeling empty and a deep pain in your gut is painful and hard to manage.

How can you cope better with this deep emotional pain?

Maybe you could use to find better way of managing the pain so you can lessen the impact emotionally and otherwise. Understanding the source of the pain and what to do with it can help. Emotional pain, which is also referred to as the “pain body” (by Eckhart Tolle) and also referred to as old emotional pain or undigested pain, can be extremely challenging to cope with. This type of pain can be very intense and cause strong emotional reactions, especially in relationships. Pain that is “unconscious” (meaning you are unaware of the true source) can cause intense fear, sadness, anger, confusion, or other unpleadsant emotions that are hard to process. Working through emotional pain means becoming more aware and conscious of the difference between the pain and the negative thoughts about the pain which can make things a lot worse for most people.

As therapists, we also experienced emotional pain as well and have to work through our pain, so we really understand how hard it is when going through it. We have a great deal of compassion and help others with their pain by focusing on the difference between emotional pain and the negative houghts about the situation. Negative thoughts make the pain feel worse, so a big part of helping is making people aware of the emotional pain and thoughts about it. Helping people increase their awareness and noticing the pain and trying to accept it’s there without making it into a mental concept, such as, “ this shouldn’t be happening” , “ oh, I’ll never get through this”, “it’s someone else’s fault that I’m feeling this way”. These are all examples of what can make your situation prolonged and much worse for you and others. Many people unortunately take out their uncoscious emotional pain on others since they are not feeling well and assume the reason is something others have done to cause you to feel this way. Others will trigger your old emotinoal pain, but developing the skills to work with the pain without lashing out at others will help tremendously.  You will not be able to work through old pain if you lash out at others.

Helping people process deep emotional pain takes developing more awareness about what’s going on internally in the body and paying attention to and trying to stop negative thoughts and “stories” about the experience. We can help you work on this to find the relief and peace you deserve.

If you are coping with emotional pain right now that’s been hard to manage, reach out and let us help.

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Five Reasons People Avoid Going to Therapy

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Five Reasons People
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Five reasons people avoid going to therapy

1. I’m nervous about going to therapy

A lot of people get anxious and nervous about going to therapy. Maybe they don’t know how it works or feels there must be something wrong with me/us if we need professional counseling. Some people feel like it’s “weak” to ask for professional help.
2. I/we should be able to fix things on our own
Feeling like you can fix things on your own or at least you should be able to fix things on your own. This it is another big reason people avoid going to therapy. When it comes to relationship issues, sometimes one person is asking their partner or spouse to go to therapy and the other person Continues to say no.
3. How can therapy help me/us?
A lot of people are not sure how therapy works or how it can actually help. They might hesitate because they don’t understand the process and how it can actually help them get to a better place personally or in the relationship.
4. I don’t believe in therapy
Some people just don’t believe in therapy. They don’t believe it can help or they don’t believe they need it. Sometimes it takes a person being in a very vulnerable and painful situation to be open to the idea of getting professional help.
5. I/we can’t afford it
Many people who need or want therapy feel they can’t afford it.  There are a few places, such as a local church that may offer free counseling and there are also many nonprofit counseling services that offer more affordable, lower fees. When you are looking for a highly trained professional most likely the fee will be higher and unfortunately not accessible for some people. However, there are local nonprofit counseling centers that can offer counseling at a more affordable rate.
There are many reasons people avoid therapy. Some people find their way to therapy after going through a very painful situation emotionally or in their relationship. For people that are open to the process, it can be very helpful with many personal and relationship challenges.
At Maplewood Counseling, we offer professional, confidential, and experienced counseling services in New Jersey for couples, families, and individuals. If you are in need of help, get in touch

 

 

 

 

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Online Therapy NJ | Maplewood Counseling

Online Therapy NJ | Maplewood Counseling

Anxiety, Depression, Gay Issues, Grief, Relationships

Online Therapy NJ

Virtual Counseling for Couples, Individuals & Families
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Effective Online Therapy NJ

Are you looking for online therapy to help you with a relationship, personal, or family challenge? Online therapy is just as effecitve as in person and offers convenience and accessibility. We have several options to help you. 

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The Many Benefits of Online Therapy NJ

All of our therapists offer online sessions. Here is Marina Fried talking about how we help with online therapy.

Online therapy or virtual counseling can help if you’re struggling with mental health issues or simply need someone to talk to. The process of online therapy involves communicating with a licensed therapist through digital platforms like video calls, phone calls, or messaging.

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There are numerous benefits to seeking therapy through online means, including:

Convenience:

One of the biggest advantages of online therapy is the convenience of doing sessions from home or work. as well as other places. You no longer need to take the time to drive to an office, which saves time and money as well. and money.

Accessibility:

Online therapy is much more accessible for coiples, individuals, and families who may be abke tiaccess face-to-face or in-person sessions due to living at a distance, mobility issues, as well as busy schedules. You can also find specialized therapists who may not be available in your local area.

Flexibility:

Online therapy offers flexibility in terms of scheduling. With traditional therapy, you may have to work around your therapist’s availability and may even have to take time off work for appointments. However, with online therapy, you can schedule sessions at a time that works best for you.

Comfort:

For some people, the thought of sitting in a therapist’s office can be daunting or uncomfortable. Online therapy allows you to receive therapy in a space where you feel most comfortable, which can make the experience less intimidating and more effective.

Issues online therapy in NJ can help with:

Some common issues that can be addressed through online therapy in NJ include depression, anxiety, stress, relationship problems, parenting, relationships, trauma, and grief. Additionally, online therapy can also assist with managing chronic health conditions or navigating major life transitions.

Does online therapy help with couples therapy or relationship coaching?

Yes, online therapy can be effective for couples therapy or relationship coaching. Through video conferencing, couples can have sessions together with a therapist and work on improving communication, resolving conflicts, and building a stronger relationship. Online therapy also offers the added benefit of being able to schedule sessions at a time that works for both partners, even if they are in different locations.

In addition, it is important to note that online therapy may not be the best option for individuals with severe mental health concerns or those in crisis situations. In these cases, it may be necessary to seek immediate in-person treatment. It is always best to consult with a licensed therapist to determine the most appropriate form of therapy for your specific needs.

Online therapy nj can help couples who need marriage counseling, couples therapy and help for relationship and family issues. We also help individuals looking for counseling to help with depression, anxiety, grief and loss, divorce or a break up, LGBT gay relationship and personal issues and more.

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Is this you?

  • You need online counseling since you cannot make sessions in person.
  • You are going through a rough time and need a therapist that can offer remote session so you can get help from home or work.
  • You’re struggling with relationship or family issues and need help asap.
  • You’re struggling with parenting issues or other family conflict.

We offer online therapy NJ session for couples and individuals who are in need of professional counseling and are not able to attend sessions in person for any reasons and want the convenience of accessing help from home or work.

We are licensed and skilled therapists who can help with personal and relationship problems. Common issues we can help with include:

  • Communication problems
  • Long term disconnect and unhappniness
  • Lack of intimacy
  • Arguments about children, step children
  • Infidelity and affairs
  • Resolving conflict more effectively
  • Family problems, in-law challenges, paenting issues
  • Anxiety, depresison, grief, self esteem, being a better patner or parent
  • Deciding whether you can work things out

If you are in need of online therapy, which we can offer flexibly by phone, video, FaceTime, Telehealth and other formats if you live in New Jersey and even if you are in NY since one of our therapists are licensed in New Jersey and New York. If you need help now, get in touch. We are here to help.

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CoronaVirus Fears | NJ Counseling

Anxiety, Depression, Grief, Relationships

CoronaVirus Fears & Challenges

Online Therapy NJ

Help From Home or Work

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CoronaVirus Fears and Challenges

COVID-19 Crisis. We can reduce the cost of therapy for couples and individuals that need a lower fee during this difficult time. If you need a reduced fee, please let us know.

Doctors, nurses, hospital workers and other front line heros/workers please let us know if counseling would help. We thank you for your sacrifice and hard work during this pandemic and are here to help you in whatever ways we can.

Are you and loved ones coping with Coronavirus fears and challenges? Do you need help to manage the anxiety and stress on yourself, relationship or family dynamics?

Does this sound familiar?

  • You and possibly your spouse are trying to work from home and it is stressful
  • You are afraid of what will happen to your parents or grandparents during this time.
  • You have already been struggling in your relationship and now things are more challenging.
  • Your kids are now home making it very difficult to manage everything without outside help, especially since you are limiting play dates.
  • You are worried about not being able to work or make money if you are unable to get to work.
  • Your kids are home from college and it is stressing you out.
  • You are a college student struggling with anxiety and depression and this is making things worse for you.
  • You run a local business and people are not coming in and you are struggling with how to run your business and take care of employees.

Coronavirus fears and challenges are making things very difficult in so many ways.

Managing this new normal can be difficult for so many individual, couples and families. It is a stressful time for us all.

If you are in need of help we can provide phone, video and in-person sessions in New Jersey and phone and video sessions if you live in NY. This will pass and you just need to manage the stress until it does.

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