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Marriage Counseling Chatham NJ

At Maplewood Counseling, we see many couples and individuals who work or live in Chatham, New Jersey in Morris County. Some are looking for marriage counselors and want to see a therapist located nearby, but not necessarily in Chatham. Do you live or work in Chatham Borough or Chatham Township and need to find local therapy services to help you or your family? We offer in-person and video telehealth sessions. 

Is this you?

  • You are struggling in your relationship or marriage and need help with communication
  • Your spouse recently found out about an affair and you want to save your marriage
  • You are stressed, anxious or feeling unhappy and want some professional help
  • You are both unhappy and distant and don’t want things to continue on this way
  • You’re considering divorce after a long term marriage and want to know what to do
  • You’re struggling with parenting, co-parenting, step family or blended family problems
  • You’ve been through a loss and need help dealing with grief
  • Issues with you teenager or adult children cause tremendous stress on the marriage
  • You’re dealing with serious medical issues and it is affecting the entire family

We provide therapy services for couples and individuals who work or live in Chatham. Some are looking for marriage counseling, some help trying to get through a difficult time. If you need therapy services, please contact us and let us know how we can help .

 

10 Benefits of Meditation

10 Benefits of Meditation

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10 Benefits of Meditation

We all experience stress, strain, and anxiety, often on a daily basis. Because these feelings are often caused by factors we cannot control, many people find themselves buried under their emotional weight as they pile on top of each other.  Our negative thoughts and thinking can make matters worse.

Practicing meditation can help in many ways and lead to better overall health.  All it takes is 12-20 minutes a day  each day of the week, to really tune in and train your mind to focus on the present moment by way of the breath and quiet our non-stop thinking mind. Learning to stay still and focus on the present has tremendous benefits.

Here are 10 ways that meditation can improve your quality of life.

1. Good Night’s Rest

Meditation helps to detach you from your negative thoughts and the issues that tend to run through your head, especially when you lay down to sleep. Letting go of these thoughts allows you to get a deeper, more restful sleep, so you wake up with more energy and feel more alive.

2. “Do you remember when…”

Research proves that practicing meditation can physically alter a person’s brain by strengthening the cerebral cortex, improving memory, concentration, and the ability to learn. Just as it is important to exercise daily, meditation is the best way to exercise your mind!

3. Creativity Boost

Have you ever experienced the frustration of being stuck in the middle of a crossword or Sudoka puzzle? Research shows that meditation can boost your creativity and innovation skills by eliminating the internal hurdles that prevent us from reaching our natural creative potential.

4. Anxiety and Depression

Lao Tzu said, “If you are depressed you are living in the past. If you are anxious you are living in the future. If you are at peace you are living in the present.” Incorporating meditation into your daily regimen can help those suffering from depression and anxiety. Although it is not a magical potion that can just zap your worries away, meditation helps you focus on the now. It helps to calm and relax an overactive brain and breaks the cycle of focusing on worrisome thoughts and fixating on the past and future.

5. The Key to Kindness

Research has shown that meditation can also help people become more virtuous and kind. Meditation allows us to turn our focus away from ourselves and recognize the emotional needs of others. Meditation can be a key used to unlock our compassion and empathy.

6. Physical Health

When most people think of meditation, they immediately associate it with their mind, but meditation is the simplest way to improve your overall health, including your body! Research shows that meditation can help reduce pain, boost your immune system, ease inflammation, help infertility, and even reduce risk for high blood pressure and heart issues.

7. Lighten the Load

One of the most well-known benefits of meditation is stress relief. In today’s world, stress is virtually unavoidable. However, meditation can help us manage and reduce the stresses that we face every day. It allows us to be more mindful of ourselves. Once we are aware of the factors that cause stress,and the ways in which stress affects our emotions, we are in a better place to reach a solution to address them.

8. Thinking Clearly

Our lives are filled with distractions. With cell phones buzzing, television blasting, endless email, and ads popping up everywhere, how is one ever supposed to have a clear thought process? Meditation can assist in calming down the mind and clearing it of wasteful and invasive thoughts. This can improve a wide range of cognitive skills including focus, stress management, impulse control, concentration, self-awareness, attention, and detail-oriented strengths. Studies show that meditation not only changes these functions, but it actually can rewire and change the structure of the brain.

9. Meditation a Day Keeps the Doctor Away

Never mind eating an apple every morning, did you know that meditation is a holistic way to boost your immune system? Research shows a clear connection between the immune system and thoughts. Your immune system responds to both good and bad thoughts—can you guess which can make your immune system stronger? Studies have also shown that meditation can increase antibodies, decrease demanding stress that puts pressure on the immune system, and even boost activity in the prefrontal cortex, the area of the brain that controls the immune system.

10. Don’t Worry, Be Mindful

Like exercise, meditation can boost your levels of serotonin and endorphins, and help you find inner peace. That, combined with the nine other benefits outlined above, will help you manage day to day experiences which can sometimes very very challenging.

Meditation is a great way to improve your life emotionally, mentally, and physically. You can ease into it slowly by setting aside just ten minutes in the morning and in the evening. Keep track on your calendar and see if you can see and feel yourself experiencing these life-changing effects. The only way to tell is if you give it a try!

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What do the most healthy and connected marriages have in common? Partners consistently emotionally respond to one another.

Emotionally responsiveness is one of the most important things you can do for a few very important reasons. It shows you are truly listening, you care about and validate their feelings. This allows the person to confirm these very important things –

  • I feel like I matter to you
  • I feel important to you
  • I feel like I can count on you
  • I fee like you’re there for me

What does it look like to emotionally respond? Here are some examples:

“I am angry you didn’t pick up the groceries”

Emotionally responding – “I’m so sorry” (this validates the other person’s emotions and shows you care about their feelings), I understand your feelings and I want you to be able to count on me” (this make the other person feel like they matter and you want the person to be able to count on you)
Opposite of emotional responsiveness – “Stop complaining, you forgot to get my dry cleaning last week” – this leads to disconnect, more anger, sadness, feeling alone, and makes the other person feel like they can’t count on and do not matter to you.

“I am feeling so sad and overwhelmed”
Emotionally responding – “I’m so sorry you’re feeling sad and overwhelmed” (this validates the other person’s emotions and shows you listening and care about their emotional experience), “I’m here for you – what can I do to help you?” (this make the other person feel like they matter even if they just want you to be present and listen and not fix anything)
Opposite of emotional responsiveness – “you’re too sensitive”, “stop crying”, ” you wouldn’t be so overwhelmed if you…” people want you to be present and not fix anything…

The best way you can be there for you spouse, partner (child, friend or other family member for that matter is – Listen and don’t try to fix anything

You can improve your marriage or relationship by improving

Find a therapist experienced with attachment issues (many are) to help you. If you’re looking for a therapist in Essex County, NJ, give us a call at 973-793-1000 or email us if that’s easier.

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Infidelity Therapist to Help You Tell Your Partner

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How an Infidelity Therapist Can Help

Coming Clean and Being Honest

Want to know what to do about infidelity and how to tell you partner or spouse before they find out? Infidelity is extremely difficult to admit to, but continuing to be dishonest, lie and deny things can be even more harmful not only to the relationship, but the person having the affair. So many men and women who start affairs can’t even believe the Made such. mistake. “It is never something I thought I would do”, “I can’t believe I’m here”, “I’ve always been faithful and thought affairs happened to other couples”. And now you find yourself in an affair and the guilt is destroying you.  You may need an infidelity therapist to help.

Understanding Infidelity

Is this You?

  • you were vulnerable to infidelity because of lack of connection, passion and feeling like you don’t matter
  • the kids, work, everything but the realtionship was a priority
  • we became so distance in your marriage over the years and felt unhappy and alone
  • there is/was some kind of thrill and adrenaline rush – maybe feeling alive again
  • it just felt good to be wanted for the first time in a long time
  • the infidelity may be masking an underlying issue such as depression, grief or trauma from the past

When things aren’t going well at home other things can happen. The insidious effects of the lack of connection can often start the process with what feels like is harmless flirting, texting and talking. Slowly you start wanting to do it more and more. Secretly you find ways to connect with the other person. Sometimes your spouse or partner senses something and starts questioning you, but you deny things when your spouse questions you, which really feels lousy.

When couples feel disconnected, forming a connection with someone else can (unfortunately) happen. Some couples realize they have lost the connection and choose therapy to help them and work on reconnecting before it goes down that path. Others may not really be aware of what they’re doing. Not feeling good about the marriage or relationship and then someone else pays attention to them – it can happen easily in these situations.

Once lines are crossed…

The toll an affair takes on the person having the affair can be huge. Good marriages and people do end up here. It usually happens over time – a couple becomes disconnected. Circumstances of busy lives, raising children, pressures at work, and trying to manage it all. Finding it difficult to maintain your connection and giving the relationship the attention it needs is very challenging. Depression, disappointment, anger, loneliness, not feeling like a priority, no sex or intimacy, frequent fights can all take a toll on your relationship.

How do I Tell My Wife, Husband or Partner About Current or Past Infidelity?

It’s not an easy thing to do. You may need an infidelity therapist to help.

Are you still having the affair? Are you trying to end it? Is the affair in the past, but guilt about the betrayal is eating away at you?

Fear of losing your marriage and family is the biggest reason people don’t want to admit to infidelity. So much pain it will cause and so much to lose if things can’t be worked out. Also, ending something that has given you much needed attention can be very difficult. It can cause men and women to feel grief, especially if you formed an attachment to the other person. You find yourself in a really hard place to be. Letting go of the affair may be painful (or not) and telling your spouse will be painful.

You may be ready to take the steps to end an affair and/or tell your spouse about the infidelity. You may need help doing this in the most sensitive and safe way possible. An infidleity therapist can help you do this in a safe place. You can take the steps to repair the damage, understand, talk and reconnect.

Need help healing your relationship? Contact Maplewood Counseling in Essex County New Jersey and let an experienced infidleity therapist help you take the steps to heal infidelity.

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Conflict in Relationship?

Conflict in Your Relationship

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Conflict in Your Relationship?

Conflict in your relationship or marriage? We all have to deal with conflict in our relationships. When two people come together from different needs and backgrounds, there is bound to be conflict. We all have different abilities to really take in and understand the other person. It can be very difficult to  communicate effectively when things get hard. Couples sometimes have unrealistic expectations and an  inability to understand what the other person need. This causes great disappointment. We can all get hooked by unconscious triggers based on our conditioning. The end result? Conflict that leads to great disappointment, hurt and anger.

Ruptures are bound to happen in all relationships. It’s not the ruptures that become the problem as much as how well a couple can “repair” the rupture and understand one another.

What is Your Pattern When You Have Conflict?

  • We get very angry at one another and hurl insults and criticism
  • One of us goes on the attack and the other withdraws and puts up a wall, which only makes things worse
  • We both used to fight and it got us nowhere so now we just both just give up and stop talking, sometimes for days or weeks

Author, psychiatrist and therapist Daniel Siegel explores relationships and attachment in detail in his books. Here refers to the 4 Ss and what is needed for healthy attachment and relationships. How very important it is for us all to feel:

  • SEEN
  • SAFE
  • SOOTHED
  • SECURE

How our early attachment figures responded to us emotionally (or didn’t respond in many cases) will most likely be the way we end up relating in our romantic relationships. It has a lot to do with the ability (or inability) to understand one another and repair problems in our relationships. If a person did not any or all of the combination of seen, safe, soothed or secure, they might most likely will struggle with similar issues in their adult relationships. Reliving the past over and over is extremely painful. It can cause rage, anger, deep sadness and feelings of rejection, and ultimately like you don’t matter.

Getting Help with Conflict in Relationship

With help, a couple can learn how to take in the external experience of the other person and help them feel seen, safe, soothed and secure. Learning to emotionally respond to your spouse or partner can help you connect in deeper and more meaningful ways.

If you’re looking for a relationship or marriage therapist in New Jersey, contact us now at 973-902-8700 or email us if that’s easier for you.

 

Marriage Counseling NJ Reviews

Marriage Counseling NJ Reviews

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Maplewood Counseling Reviews

 

Marriage Counseling NJ Reviews at Maplewood Counseling

 

When looking for reviews about Maplewood Counseling, it’s important to keep in mind the unique nature of therapy and the privacy concerns that often accompany it. Therapy is an incredibly personal experience, and many clients choose to keep their journeys private. As a result, reviews may not fully represent the number of individuals who have benefited from therapy at Maplewood Counseling. The deeply confidential nature of counseling often makes people hesitant to share their experiences publicly, even when they’ve had a positive and meaningful outcome.

That being said, we’ve included a few genuine reviews below to give you a glimpse into the care and support provided at Maplewood Counseling. These reviews come from clients and colleagues who felt comfortable sharing their thoughts to help others make informed decisions. They reflect the compassionate, professional, and supportive environment our therapists work hard to create for every individual who walks through our doors.

If you’re exploring therapy and have questions about our services, we encourage you to reach out to us directly. We understand that choosing a therapist is a personal and significant decision, and we’re here to provide the information you need to feel confident in your choice. Whether you’re seeking support for yourself, your relationship, or your family, Maplewood Counseling is dedicated to helping you navigate life’s challenges with care, respect, and understanding.

Testimonials

 We went to couples therapy and had a very good experience with Robert. We have been able to find better ways to communicate and resolve issues. Things are so much better now. I highly recommend!

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S.D.

I just want to say that my wife saw Bob Jenkins several times and we were very happy with his ability to help us. He created a safe space for us to express ourselves and offered good advice as well. We would recommend him to anyone! Thank you so much for connecting us with Bob. Please tell Bob that we are doing very well and we have turned the corner (for the better) regarding our issues. Thank you!!

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A.S.

If you are looking for marriage counseling or couples therapy, we are very skilled and experience. Get in touch and let us know how we can help.