Caring for Aging Parents: Navigating the Sandwich Generation

Debra Feinberg LCSW ( Reviewer)

Managing the emotional weight of caregiving while honoring your own needs. We help you find balance, support, and clarity in the midst of complex family transitions.

Does Caring for Your Parents Feel Like a Second Full-Time Job?

Life has a way of shifting roles when we least expect it. You spent years looking up to your parents for guidance, but now, the dynamic has flipped. Suddenly, you are the one managing doctor’s appointments, worrying about their safety, and making difficult decisions about their future—often while trying to raise your own children or manage a demanding career.

Do you feel squeezed between the needs of your aging parents and the demands of your own life? Are you struggling with guilt when you take time for yourself? Perhaps you are navigating tension with siblings over care decisions, or simply grieving the slow loss of the parents you once knew.

At Maplewood Counseling, we understand that caregiving is rarely just about logistics; it is a profound emotional journey. It involves grief, love, frustration, and exhaustion all rolled into one. We provide a supportive space where you can unload the weight of these responsibilities and find sustainable ways to care for your loved ones without losing yourself.

How We Support Caregivers and Families

We move beyond basic stress management to address the deep systemic shifts happening in your family. Our approach validates your experience and equips you with the tools to navigate this season of life with resilience.

Our counseling for caregivers and families helps you:

• Navigate Role Reversals: Process the complicated emotions of parenting your parents, including the grief, confusion, and discomfort that often accompany this shift in power and dependency.
• Manage Caregiver Burnout: Identify the signs of compassion fatigue before you hit a breaking point, and develop practical self-care strategies that actually fit into your busy schedule.
• Set Healthy Boundaries: Learn to say “no” or “not right now” without overwhelming guilt, ensuring you preserve the energy needed for the long haul.
• Resolve Family Conflict: Facilitate productive conversations with siblings or other family members about care responsibilities, financial decisions, and living arrangements.
• Process Anticipatory Grief: Find support for the ambiguous loss of watching a parent decline physically or cognitively (such as with dementia), grieving the relationship while they are still here.

You Cannot Pour From an Empty Cup

Caregiving is an act of love, but it can also be incredibly isolating. Many caregivers feel they must be “strong” all the time, hiding their exhaustion or resentment. But true strength comes from acknowledging your limits and seeking support.

Whether you are in the “Sandwich Generation”—raising kids and caring for parents simultaneously—or managing care from a distance, your well-being matters. We believe that by supporting the caregiver, we are supporting the entire family system. You deserve a space where your needs are the priority.

Ready to Find Balance in Your Caregiving Journey?

You don’t have to carry this emotional load alone. Let us help you navigate these complex dynamics with compassion and clarity.

Take the Next Step

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Frequently Asked Questions

Is this therapy for me or my aging parent?
Primarily, this service is for you—the adult child or caregiver. While we often discuss strategies for helping your parent, the sessions focus on your emotional well-being, stress management, and decision-making processes. However, we can also facilitate family sessions if appropriate.

Can you help with sibling disagreements about care?
Yes. Sibling conflict is one of the most common sources of stress during this life stage. We can provide strategies for communicating with siblings who may be in denial about a parent’s condition or who are not contributing equally to care tasks.

I feel guilty even thinking about my own needs. Is that normal?
It is incredibly common, but it is also a recipe for burnout. Guilt is often a sign that you care deeply, but it shouldn’t dictate your life. We work with you to reframe self-care not as selfishness, but as a necessary maintenance step that allows you to keep showing up for those you love.

Ready to Find Caregiver Counseling?

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, we’re here to support you. Take the first step toward relief and understanding—reach out to Maplewood Counseling today to schedule your confidential consultation. Let’s work together to create a healthier path for you and your family.

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