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Caught in the Middle?

Relationships

Caught in the Middle?

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Are you caught in the middle?

Does this sound familiar to you?
  • Your spouse and your parents and/ or don’t get along
  • Your spouse wants you to choose him/her or your family
  • Your partner does not like your family and does not want to visit
  • You struggle with trying to make things manageable when there are family gatherings
  • You don’t feel you spouse or partner protects you or stands up for you
  • You don’t feel like a priority or your spouse complains of the same
  • You don’t agree with how your partner handle things with your children and feel “split”
  • You end up fighting a lot befor, during or after family gathertings

 

Whether you are caught in the middle with your family and spouse/partner or children, the end result is feeling awful. Feeling pulled and unable to bring the two sides together can cause anger, depression, sadness and frustration.

 

Maybe your parents feel they should be a priority and can be unreasonable. Maybe you’ve been conditioned to take care of your parents and you don’t know how to manage your relationship and make everyone happy.

 

Sorting through expectations, and evaluating better ways to approach confusing and challenging situations can help you and your partner and or spouse do a better job witho thoughtful and understanding communication.

 

If you feel like you’re caught in the middle, get in touch.

 

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Relationship Mistakes

Relationship Mistakes

Relationships

Common Relationship Mistakes

Affairs and Communication Problems
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Common Relationship Mistakes

There are several mistakes people make in their relationship. There are the big and obvious mistakes like betrayal and infidelity. This can range from emotional affairs, online cheating or physical and sexual infidelity.

These bigger relationship mistakes are much more challenging to heal and repair and many couples seek professional couples therapy to find to best ways to get through such a painful mistake.

Other relationship mistakes include name-calling, disrespect, inability to express and communicate  your anger, sadness and disappointment in healthy ways. Also neglecting your relationship by not making it a priority can cause serious disconnect and hurt.

Does this sounds familiar?

  • You turned to someone outside your relationship
  • You did not listen when your spouse or partner wanting to go to counsleing
  • You frequently criticized and disrepsectfed your spouse
  • You preferred spending time doing activities instead of with your partner
  • You do not know how to communicate, listen or understand one another
  • You had an affair or betrayed your partner with secrecy and lies

Have you made one or more relationship mstakes? Do you need professional marriage or couples therapy to see if you can turn things around? Get in touch.

 

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Denying an Affair?

Anxiety, Depression, Relationships

 
 
 

Denying An Affair?
Scared to Tell The Truth?

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You or Your Partner Denying An Affair?

 

Is denying an affair causing causing pain and mistrust? Does this sounds familiar?

  • Are you lying repeatedly when your partner or spouse questions you?
  • Are you gaslighting your spouse ( “ you’re crazy, nothings going on. It’s all in your head” )?
  • Is it making you feel lousy about lying and hurting your partner?
  • Is it hard to let go of something that feels good?
  • Are you worried what will happen when you and the affair ( Will the person act out and contact your partner or spouse? )
  • Do you need help ending the affair and the fear of being honest with your partner?
  • Do you worry about losing your relationship or marriage?

There are so many problems that arise from an affair. Living a double life and secretly texting, calling and meeting the person you’re having an affair with – and lying about it causes damage on many levels. There are some men and women that want to stop the affair and don’t know how. There are others that know that they’ll feel loss when they give up whatever the affair is making them feel ( not wanting to let go of the attention or feeling special or maybe you fear what will happen when you do come clean).

On the other hand, maybe your spouse or partner finally came forward with “proof” after denying an affair and there’s no disputing it. What do you do then?

It depends. According to sex therapist and infidelity specialist Esther Perel, there are three main reasons people seek out affairs

  1.  it’s a wake up call to a relationship that has been disconnected and needs some changes here
  2.  The relationship has been so bad and unhappy for so long that an affair can be the last straw for a relationship that’s already “dying on the vine “
  3.   Sometimes it doesn’t have anything to do with the relationship and it’s more of personal Journey Or something meaningful about the relationship.

Are you feeling insecure and sense your husband or wife is involved with a coworker or someone else? Do you have a strong gut feeling and know that your partner or spouse is doing something inappropriate. Do you feel betrayed and confused? Are they very protective about their phone or email? Do you need help with what to do about this situation for yourself?

Or are you a wife or husband that is stuck and feeling trapped in a bad situation regarding an emotional or physical affair. Do you fear that being honest about the infidelity will end your marriage or relationship? Do you want it to end?

If you are denying an affair ( or feel your spouse is denying the affair ) and need help sorting through feelings and steps to take, get in touch

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Trying to End An Affiar?

Lovers or Roommates

Relationships

More Like Roommates Than Lovers?

Your Relationship Lacking Intimacy?

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More Like Roommates Than Lovers?

Do you feel like roommates?

Many couples that seek counseling may need help with their connection. Some describe feeling more like roommates than lovers. Busy with jobs, children, and problems in the relationship can cause couples to disconnect and feel like there’s no intimacy. Maybe you’re too tired, you lost interest or you’re angry at your partner Overtime this can feel very unsatisfying and make both partners unhappy.

Does this sound familiar?

  • Intimacy and sex is very in frequent
  • Intimacy is nonexistent when you feel alone
  • You feel like you have to do your duty and “give” your spouse or partner sex which is unsatisfying for you ( or both)
  • You’re bored with intimacy and it’s the same old same old.
  • You feel like used and like a vessel when you do have sex
  • Sexual pleasure feeling one-sided and and all about one person.
  • You’re so busy taking care of everything and everyone that you feel like this is just one more thing or person you have to take care of
  • You no longer love your spouse
  • You’re so angry at your wife or husband that you have no interest in being close

If you want to explore what is making the marriage or relationship feel more like a roommate situation, get in touch.

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LGBTQ+ Affirming & Gay Relationship Counseling in NJ

LGBTQ+ Affirming & Gay Relationship Counseling in NJ

Gay Issues, Relationships

LGBTQ Gay Relationship Counseling NJ

LGBTQ+ Affirming Gay Relationship Counseling

LGBT Gay Relationship Counseling NJ

We provide LGBTQ gay relationship counseling to help couples strengthen their communication, resolve conflicts, and build deeper emotional connections. Our goal is to create a safe and affirming space where partners can openly discuss their challenges and work together to achieve a healthier, more fulfilling relationship.

We help with communication issues, infidelity, family conflict, and more. We are very experienced with LGBTQIA+ issues and provide a supportive and non-judgmental environment for self-exploration and growth.

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Gay Relationship Counseling

Professional  LGBT Gay Relationship Counseling 

Need Gay Relationship Counseling?

New Jersey is a pretty progressive state when it comes to gay LGBT individuals, couples and families. In some communities, such as Maplewood and South Orange SOMA where our practice is located,  there are many gay and lesbian couples, married and couples, who have families and children. It is a very diverse and welcoming community to families of all types.

Relationship and family dynamics, however, are complicated and struggle with many of the same issues straight couples face. Communication problems, family conflict, infidelity and decisions to stay together or break up. LGBTQ Gay relationships can be harder for people that are not out and don’t feel comfortable sharing their lifestyle and some of their struggles with other family members or coworkers. It can feel isolating and make a stressful situations even worse. Finding professional help can also feel difficult if you worry your doctor or provider will not make you feel comfortable. As a result, it is important to find an experienced, open and accepting therapist who can help.

 

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In a Polyamorous Relationship?

Anxiety, Depression, Relationships

In a Polyamorous Relationship?

Polyamory & Open Relationships

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In a Polyamorous Relationship?

In a Polyamorous or Open Relationship?

Close to 20% of all people have had a non-monogamous relationships, according to an April 2016 article in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy. This includes an open marriage, open relationship, and polyamory, in which all partners agree that each may have romantic and/or sexual relationships with other partners. Many couples follow rules and agreements to cut down on potential problems and challenges.

Polyamory, which is a common type or non-monogamous relationship, means having more than one sexual or romantic partner, with all partners agreeing to certain rules for the arrangement. Unlike an open relationship where couples may date others and agree to only love each other, a polyamorous couple may agree to have sex outside the relationship and are open to loving multiple partners.

Struggling with a Non-monogamous Relationship? Does this sound familiar?

  • Your partner broke a rule and you feel upset or betrayed
  • You or your partner is struggling with jealousy and it causes arguments
  • You or you’re partner or others don’t have good boundaries
  • Quantity vs quality time issues
  • Comparing or being compared to other partners
  • You are ready for a change because you feel unhappy, but your partner is not
  • You have concerns about privacy and being outed
  • Your children are getting older and it’s harder to keep secrets

If you are struggling in an open or polyamorous relationship and need help navigating some issues, get in touch.

 

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