Help with Anger and Resentment
NJ Family and Couples Therapy
Need help with Anger and Resentment?
Aer you struggling with intense anger and resentment? Is this you?
- You’re angry at your spouse for hurting you and you just don’t know how to let it go
- You resent a family member because they’ve done or do things that really upset you
- You have so many angry feelings, you can feel how it negatively affects your health
- You can tell how bad hanging on to these emotions hurts you, but you don’t know what to do
We all experience difficult times in our lives that can bring up very harmful and negative emotions. Sometimes there are so many triggers that cause certain reactions and it is very difficult to control your response. Someone it feels like focusing your anger and resentment is helping you – like some kind of outlet or release. You think the anger is warranted because the other person has done something “wrong” or to annoy or bother you. And in some cases, the other person should know they are hurting you or know what they are doing is causing you pain, but they actually may not.
Where we all see it most often is with a break up or divorce. The intensity of angry, bitter and hostile emotions causes people to do a great deal of harm to others and themselves. Hanging on to the anger and resentment is hurting everyone. Most people want to hurt their exes because they feel betrayed, abandoned, sad, disappointed and/or shocked. But what most people don’t realize is how that negativity really hurts their own physical and mental well-being.
I’ve seen (and maybe you have as well) many people who have gone through a painful divorce and have fought bitterly ever step of the way to get back at an ex. Hanging on to the negative feelings for years and years.
I have also seen many of these exes come to peace over the years and let go of the anger and resentment. They have come to an understanding, and their siutations in more accepting ways, leading to more compassion and less anger and resentment.
Do you need help understanding how to let go of your anger and resentment? See how acceptance and forgiveness can really benefit your life and the lives of those around you.