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Need Couples Counseling?

Feeling Unhappy?

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Need Couples Counseling in New Jersey?

Looking for couples counseling in New Jersey? Stuck in a bad place and ready for some help? Not in love anymore? Are you feeling unhappy in your relationship and wondering if there’s anything you can do to reconnect to make things better? Wondering if you should split up our divorce?
 
So many couples end up in this place and wonder what to do. Some get “stuck” in like this for an extended time and end up being very vulnerable to infidelity due to the disconnect. Others just are very depressed and unhappy.
 
 Does this sound familiar?
  • You’ve arguing a lot about the smallest things
  • You can’t seem to do anything right
  • You feel like your partner or spouse doesn’t listen or understand you
  • You’ve given up trying to get what you need
  • You’ve tried to initiate sex and intimacy for so long and can’t deal with the rejection so you’ve stopped trying
  • You feel like your spouse or partner is not interested in you and just interested in sex
  • You’re not even sure if the relationship is worth saving
  • You’re staying together only for the sake of the children
 
If you are at a point in your marriage or relationship where you’re trying to make some important decisions –  do we work on trying to make the relationship better or do I just divorce or break up?
 
Couples counseling in New Jersey with an experienced marriage or couples therapist can help you figure this out. Your counselor can also help you navigate the steps you need to take to improve things if it’s possible, or respectfully and gently work on ending the marriage or relationship.
 
If you are at a point you are ready to figure this out, get in touch. We’re here to help.
 
 

Improving Communication Skills

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Improving Communication Skills

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Need Help Improving Communication Skills?

Need help improving communication skills in your relationship? Have you given up on trying to do it yourself? Do you want to change things for the better in your marriage or relationship? Do you realize you have to stop trying to change the other person and change yourself?

What happens when you get triggered? Does this sounds familiar?

  • you or your spouse put up a wall and withdraws in silence to protect yourself since you don’t feel safe
  • one (or both of you) get critical and devaluing trying to get your spouse or partner to listen
  • you get defensive instead of listening and trying to understand
  • there seems to be eye rolling ( contempt) or you mock your partner

When you get upset – and we all get upset in our relationships in one way or another – it is importunity to understand the “hook” and what to do about it rather than blaming the other person. This will help in improving communication skills and make a huge difference in your relationship – if you can both get better at this.

Accepting you cannot change another person ( as much as we all think we can and are compelled to keep on trying ) – is extremely important. It is necessary in order to make things better in any relationship. Look at what you need to work on instead of blaming someone else for “triggering” sadness, anger, anything unpleasant is not going to get you anywhere and could damage your relationship, sometimes beyond repair.

Are you ready to work on improving your communication skills? If you’re in Essex County NJ and need a couples therapist to help you, get in touch.

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Unhappy Marriage or Relationship?

Is Our Marriage Over?

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Is Our Marriage Over?

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Is Our Marriage Over?

Can we work things out?

Are you afraid of losing your marriage? Is your relationship at risk and you’re wondering what you need to do and change to make things better? Is your spouse or partner even willing to work with you on these things? Are you scared your spouse or partner has all but given up – or is he or she saying they don’t want to work on things anymore? Not sure what to do?

Many men and women end up in this place and wonder what to do. It’s very painful and scary to think about losing something so important and for some people they’re just realizing how important the relationship is now that your facing this reality of how bad things really are.

Is Our Marriage Over or Not?

Find marriage counseling, couples therapy and discernment counseling in NJ

Two possible outcomes and some couples need help finding answers.

1) Your spouse or partner is pretty sure they want to split, but willing to work on the relationship. You both know many things must happen and change for it to work.
2) You or you spouse or partner does not want to work on things and you’ll need help discussing the best ways to get through these changes in the short and long run.

When couples are in this place counseling is usually referred to as discernment counseling – trying to figure out if you are even willing to commit to relationship or marriage counseling to work out painful and long standing issues. Some couples will decide to work on things and some will not. Either way, we can help you.

If you are looking for an experienced marriage or couples counselor to help, get in touch.

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Need Counseling After a Divorce?

Need Counseling After a Divorce?

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Need Counseling After Divorce ?

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Counseling After Divorce

Need Counseling after Divorce, Separation or a Break-Up?
Going through a divorce or break up can be extremely painful. Deep sadness, grief, loneliness, missing your ex and/or children – any number of things can make separation, divorce or a break up extremely painful.

You do not have to go it alone –  and no you are not alone. Many people out there is really struggle after the end of relationship. It is not an easy thing to get through.

Counseling after divorce with the right therapist can be of great help as you process many difficult experiences and emotions. Learning how to cope with the feelings in healthy ways as opposed to trying to cope with the pain. Also, attempting to date sooner then you’re ready can cause even more pain.

We can understand wanting to run from painful feelings and emotions, but it can help tremendously to  process things in a way that’s going to really help you in the future. By way of make better choices in a partner and to be a better partner is going to be very valuable for a more successful relationship in the future.

Professional and Compassionate Counseling after Divorce

If you help from skilled and compassionate counselors after a divorce or break up,  get in touch.

We are here to help you make positive changes during a very painful time in your life.

Unhappy Relationship or Marriage?

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Unhappy Relationship?

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Unhappy Relationship or Marriage?

You and your spouse or partner need couples counseling?

Are you in a unhappy relationship? Many relationships in a bad place end in a break-up or divorce. Some have tried counseling and others have never really looked into getting professional help to see if they can feel more satisfied and happier in their relationship or marriage.

Are you in an unhappy relationship?

Are you feeling like you’re not sure if you can stay together? You are not alone.

Many men and women have tried for a long time to convey how unhappy they are, but for some reason their husband, wife or partner was unable to really understand how bad things have been for them. This happens in all types of relationships…straight and gay. In some situations, one partner has been pleading (sometimes for years) to go to counseling. At least one person was aware they were unable to resolve their issues without that help. Unfortunately, their spouse or partner did not listen and things had to get to a very critical point ( the very serious threat of separation and divorce) before seeking an experienced marriage or couples counselor to help.

Does this sound familiar?

  • You’ve been asking your husband, wife or partner for a very long time to go to counseling and they just ignored your request and did not take you seriously
  • You’re really angry with your spouse or partner for finally being ready for counseling and feel “why now?”
  • You or your spouse feel disconnected, neglected, verbally abused or ignored
  • It might be too late to work on your marriage or relationship since your wife or husband is the one that wanted counseling for a long time, and now that you’re ready, they are not very willing.
  • Many, many mistakes and have not treated your wife, husband or partner the way you should have.You’re desperately hoping that professional help can make a difference with where you are right now.

Many couples wonder if they can work things out and stay together. Not just stay together because of the children or because they fear what things will be like if they’re on their own financially or emotionally, but actually make the relationship better and more satisfying.

In an Unhappy Relationship or Marriage?

If you’re in an unhappy relationship and want help figuring things out, discernment counseling, marriage or couples therapy can help you.

If you’re looking for experienced and compassionate therapists in Essex county New Jersey ( couples do travel from other counties as well ),  please do let us know how we can help you.

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Marriage in Crisis?

Lack of Sex in Your Relationship?

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Lack of Sex & Intimacy?

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Lack of Sex and Intimacy

Not Able to Connect in Your Relationship

Many couples come to counseling because they are feeling disconnected in one way or another. It happens to both men and women – feeling confused, upset, misunderstood, alone. When this happens it will affect most couples when it comes to wanting sex. If you or your spouse or partner are not interested in sex, there are usually good reasons. Making sure desire issues are not related to medical issues first (see you doctor to rule out medical concerns), the next step is understanding what is going on to get in the way of a healthy sexual connection.

Not feeling wanted or desired can be very painful. Understanding the reasons for this is important.

Does this sound familiar?

You or your partner….

  • constantly feel rejected when you initiate sex or intimacy
  • feel really angry and hurt when your wife or husband is not interested in sex
  • need to feel emotionally connected and want intimacy
  • never been on the same page when it comes to sexual desire and libido
  • are going through hormonal changes and are less interested in sex in general
  • struggle with erectile dysfunction ED and medical issues I’ve been ruled out by your doctor
  • are afraid of being judged, embarrassed, disappointing you spouse and having performance issues
  • end up fighting or arguing about sex a lot
  • both feel disconnected because you cannot connect on more intimate levels

 If you and your spouse or partner have been struggling with intimacy and lack of sex, it’s important to understand the underlying reasons. If you need a marriage or relationship therapist to help, feel free to contact us.

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