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A divorce for most men and women is devastating and extremely painful. Even if things have been bad for a long time, giving up and throwing in the towel is very difficult. You’re bound to feel sadness and grief about ending a relationship or marriage.

Some cope with the loss with sadness and grief, while others feel intense anger, bitterness and resentment.  Either way it causes tremendous suffering, but trying to find a better way to cope with the feelings can make a huge difference on your mental and physical health.

No doubt feeling of anger, resentment and bitterness will prolong the suffering and make things worse. Usually what’s under the anger is grief and sadness, but it’s hard to get to. Hanging onto the anger and allowing your thoughts to fuel that fire is very harmful to yourself, your children and your ex.  Most people don’t care about the harm they do to the ex. Actually, they want bad things to happen to their ex. Some want him or her to die or wish awful things such as illness or accident.

Does this sound familiar?

  • I can’t seem to cope with the anger in more constructive ways, but I want to
  • I feel so resentful – like he or she did this to me and want to know how to handle those emotions
  • I am stuck and feeling bitter and can tell I am making things worse for myself
  • I don’t want to continue to bash my ex and involve my kids, but it’s a go to place
  • I do want peace

We all want peace. It is sad and hard on you and your spirit to wish these things, although it is understandable you don’t know how to handle the intense amount of suffering and loss you feel. I’ve seen many couple go through a bitter, nasty divorce only to find peace over the years. Wouldn’t it be great if you could find a way to get there faster? To deal with you feelings in ways that help you let go of self defeating and destructive thoughts and actions? That’s where divorce counseling can help.

Divorce Counseling to Help You Find Peace

The type of therapy we provide is one-to-one help. Helping men and women find a way through the pain to accept and find peace. We can help you explore feelings of depression, anxiety, grief, anger  and how your thoughts can make things worse.  We can help you process your grief,  make sense of things and move in a more positive direction.

Need a therapist to help?  Contact us if you live or work in Northern NJ in Essex County.

Relationship or Marriage Problems?

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Marriage Problems?

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Ongoing Marriage Problems Causing Stress?

Are you and your spouse or partner struggling in your relationship? Have you tried unsuccessfully to fix things on your own? Are there certain recurring problems that never seem to get resolved?

Is this you?

  • You or your spouse had an affair and you cannot seem to repair the damage the cheating cause to your relationship
  • You and your spouse or partner have an ongoing pattern of not responding to one another emotionally
  • Anger and disappointment is getting in the way of you and your your spouse or partner feel like you matter to one another
  • You feeling alone most of the time and it feels like like your spouse is not there for you in very important ways
  • You feel like you can’t count on your partner or spouse to be there when you really need him or her

 

If you’ve been struggling for a long time in your marriage or relationship, things can go to a very painful and lonely place for both people. Walls go up and fights get more escalated. Or both or one of you ends up withdrawing because you don’t know what else to do. You are feeling stuck.

When it comes to the most successful and loving relationships, partners respond to one another emotionally. Some people know how to respond emotionally, but don’t want to because of angry or hurt feelings. Others need help understanding how to and why it is important to respond to your spouse or partner.

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Need marital or family therapy in Essex County, NJ? Call Maplewood Counseling at 973-793-1000 or email for help with marriage problems now and let us know how we can help you.

Resist or Yield to Painful Experiences

Resist or Yield to Painful Experiences

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Coping with Painful Experiences

How to Manage

Do you Resist or Yield to Painful Experiences?

We all go through difficult experiences in our lives that can cause deep and intense physical or mental pain. Some struggle with the tragic death of a loved one, others a serious, chronic or terminal illness.  Then there are people that struggle with a child, spouse or parent struggling with issues, a very painful divorce or another catastrophic life event.

When things are so intense and painful that it makes sense (at least temporarily) to run from, resist and fight the reality of the situation. Even though nothing is permanent, it feels as though things will never change. It seems you’ll be stuck in this painful place forever when you are going through it. “This shouldn’t be happening”, blaming others or ourselves for where we are at. Many can feel stuck in anger, resentment, and bitterness, wanting to find ways to escape the painful experience. Running from the extreme discomfort can ultimately make us all suffer even more, turning damaging behaviors to avoid the painful reality of our situation.

“Not getting what you want, getting what you don’t want” quote from Pema Chodron in Coming Closer to Ourselves

We all have to face events like these at one time or another in our lives. It is a part of life and what it is to be human. Even therapists have to cope with tragedies, serious health issues, struggling family members and other painful life events. We all, unfortunately, suffer more when we run from the pain rather than finding ways to accept, allow and work with the emotions that come up. Accepting and allowing our experience can help us attain more wisdom and a deeper sense of compassion for one another.

It takes a tremendous amount of bravery to be open to and allow the experience, and accepting and working what is and trying not to make things worse.  Going through a catastrophic event that seems insurmountable?

It has been a tremendous help to me personally and professionally to read and listen to the following books and teachings of The New Earth, by Eckhart Tolle, When Pain is the Doorway by Pema Chodron,  Full Catastrophy Living by John Kabat-Zin, Wherever You Go You are There by John Kabat-Zin and a recent Facebook course on UDemy Freedom to Choose Something Different with Pem Chodron, Fail, Fail Again, Fail Better by Pema Chodron, Walking the Walk by Pema Chodron as well as other books.

These videos may be helpful to some…

“Not getting what you want, getting what you don’t want” quote from Pema Chodron in Coming Closer to Ourselves| Super Soul Sunday | Oprah Winfrey Network

 

We hope you find this information helpful.

 

Resist or Yield to Painful Experiences

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Need Family Therapy NJ?

 

Are you looking for family therapy in NJ? Family therapy helps family members going through a stressful time in the family. They can work on resolving conflict and improving communication and work together on issues that affect the entire family. It is short term therapy that focuses on the entire “system” to help with certain issues and problems.

Does this sound familiar?

  • You’re having trouble with parenting or sibling issues
  • You need help with step-family or blended family issues
  • You argue and fight about differences in parenting styles
  • The family is coping with grief after a loss of a loved one
  • A family member is dealing with depression and/or anxiety
  • Your teenager is depressed, anxious or having trouble fitting in
  • Your child is gay, lesbian or transgender and it has been hard to accept
  • You are trying to support and help a family member

Even when one family member is in their own treatment for an issue, it can be helpful for the family to work on a family situation that causes stress, anger, grief or conflict to help bring you closer during difficult times.

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Getting Through Hard Times

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Going Through Hard Times

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Going through hard times?

Does this sound familiar?

You’re experiencing deep sadness over the way your life is going
You’re feeling very sad and alone
You’re trying to find strength and hope
You’re feeling lost and want help getting out of a dark time in your life

All you have to do is turn on the news to hear about all the tragic events going on out there in the world and sometimes tragedy hits close to home. Death of a loved one, serious and life threatening health issues, financial hardship or loss dealing with a painful and life altering divorce.

Life certainly has a way of challenging us all in so many ways and no one should have to go through it alone.

Is this you?

You recently lost a loved one to illness or sudden death
You’re life has been turned upside down by divorce
You’re teenager or young adult child is struggling
You’re adult child is having a difficult time in their life
You’re (or a loved one) are coping with cancer or serious illness
You’re struggling with aging, depression, isolation and health issues

Whatever the challenge, so many of us end up needing help getting through hard times. The support of family and friends (and for some faith and spirituality) can help in so many ways, but for some people, getting through hard times is much more difficult. You don’t have to go through it alone.

If you need help getting through hard times, therapy and support groups can help. If you live in Essex County NJ, feel free to contact us at 973-793-1000 and let us know how we can help.

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