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Anger and Conflict

Anxiety, Depression, Grief, Relationships

Need Help with Anger?

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Maplewood Counseling
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169 Maplewood Ave Suite 4
Maplewood, NJ 07040
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Trouble handling anger and conflict in your relationship?

The key to a healthy connected couples is knowing how to repair issues when they come up. Do you react rather than respond when communicating disappointment, frustration, anger or another difficult emotion? Most couples that struggle in these ways develop negative patterns and cycles when it comes to dealing with anger and conflict. This can cause can disconnect and the lack of ability (consciousness/awareness) to understand and repair problems can lead to a divorce or a break-up.

Does this sound familiar?

    • Your spouse or significant other gets nasty, critical or aggressive when upset
    • Your partner gets defensive when they are angry and does not hear you
    • You shut down and your protective wall goes up when your spouse gets angry
    • You withdraw when your spouse aggressively pursues you to discuss things
    • You can be vindictive and resort to the silent treatment as a form of punishment
    • You end up hating your partner for being so mean
    • You or your wife or husband end up feeling alone and like you don’t matter
    • You feel like you can do nothing right and nothing good you do is noticed
    • Your spouse is controlling when angry and you feel he or she needs to control everything
    • You need help resolving conflict in ways that make you both feel heard and understood

All couples are going to have conflict – it is unavoidable to have your differences. Relationships that do not know how to resolve and talk about their differences in more positive ways end up feeling a tremendous amount of pain. Sometimes the inability to repair “ruptures” in the marriage or relationship leads to feelings of feelings of hopelessness if the pattern has been going on for a long time.

If you are both committed to trying to do a better job resolving conflict in a relationship, a well trained therapist can help. If you are feeling like the relationship is on the brink, see if there is anyway to rebuild hope and connection and your marriage.

If you’re looking for counseling to see if you can get better at resolving conflict, get in touch.

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Coping with Life Challenges

Anxiety, Depression, Grief, Relationships

Dealing With Life Challenges?

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169 Maplewood Ave Suite 4
Maplewood, NJ 07040
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There are so many things that challenge of us in our lives. Everyone has to deal with these challenges at one point or another. Knowing how to cope when things are really painful is a skill that can be developed.

Are you going through a painful time in your life right now? Is this you?

  • You’re dealing with a health issue that has been difficult for you or family members
  • Your are dealing with marital or relationship challenges – possibly going through a break up, divorce or separation
  • You’re struggling with financial or work related concerns
  • You’re single and alone and trying to cope with how painful and lonely that can be at times
  • You choose the wrong type of people and your relationships Dash ones that are unavailable, self absorbed narcissistic and unable to give you what you need
  • You’re having difficulty with the struggling child – young child, teenager, adult child or older children
  • You’re dealing with blended in step family issues and this causes frequent fights

Working with your attitude about a challenge is very important. We all are faced with very unpleasant things that happen in our lives. And finding better ways to cope can make a huge difference when you’re in one of those painful times. When you’re in one of these dark times, it can feel like will last forever, but it won’t. It’s just a matter of getting through moment by moment and day by day until you come out of the darkness.

Need help finding more mindful ways to cope with adversity? Get in touch

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Getting Through Hard Times

When You or Your Spouse Wants a Divorce

Anxiety, Depression, Grief, Relationships

Your or Spouse Wants a Divorce?

Marriage Counseling NJ

Should We Separate?

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Maplewood Counseling
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169 Maplewood Ave Suite 4
Maplewood, NJ 07040
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Spouse Wants Divorce? Partner Wants Out?

What to do when you or your spouse wants out of your marriage or relationship.

Is this you?

    • Spouse wants divorce – Your wife or husband saying they want to separate.
    • Things have been bad for a long time and you’re at a critical point in the relationship
    • There’s been a recent event like an affair that has really been a painful wake up call
    • Your husband or wife has been so neglectful, verbally or emotionally (* physically) abusive over the years that you just have lost all hope
    • You developed feelings for someone else – maybe through an emotional affair or sexual infidelity and you’re not sure what to do
    • Do you need help figuring out your next step is a couple if you can’t stay together

* physical abuse is the fastest way to destroy your relationship and you will have to do individual therapy since therapists cannot work with a couple that have a pattern of physical, domestic violence and or spousal abuse since safety is a priority.

If you need help figuring out if your relationship can survive or if you have to go your separate ways, call or email us and let us know how we can help you.

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Struggling in Your Marriage?

Struggling to Stay in Your Marriage or Relationship?

Anxiety, Depression, Grief, Relationships

Marriage In a Bad Place?

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Maplewood Counseling
Offering Online & In-person Sessions
169 Maplewood Ave Suite 4
Maplewood, NJ 07040
Call Now (973) 793-1000

Some married couples have grown so disconnected overtime that one or both people are ready for a split. You either have been grieving for a long time quietly, maybe alone… and you’ve agonized about this decision for a long time – maybe sharing the Divorce word over and over with your spouse or keeping all of those thoughts to yourself.

It is more rare that both people are on the same page when it comes to ending the marriage.

Does this sound familiar?

  • You’ve tried for so long to deal with your negative feelings about your spouse
  • There has been so much disconnect over a long period of time that it’s hard to come back and connect again
  • You’ve been on the receiving end of so much emotional, mental, verbal abuse or neglect that you just feel done and need help figuring out the next step.
  • You’ve been working so hard to try and make things better and to make those feelings go away
  • You feel guilty and don’t want to hurt your husband or wife and tell them you want to divorce
  • You don’t know what to do and need some help to discuss things in a safe place with a therapist to guide you

Divorce and Breaking up whether you’re married or partnered is painful. Even if you’re with the one that feels like you need to separate, it is not easy.

If you need help from a nonjudgmental, safe relationship or marriage counselor to discuss your feelings and concerns, feel free to get in touch.

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Is Your Marriage in Trouble?

Marriage Problems? Can’t Get Along?

Marriage Problems? Can’t Get Along?

Anxiety, Depression, Grief, Relationships

Problems in Your Marriage?

NJ Marriage Counseling

Maplewood Counseling

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Maplewood Counseling
Offering Online & In-person Sessions
169 Maplewood Ave Suite 4
Maplewood, NJ 07040
Call Now (973) 793-1000

Marriage Problems? Can’t Get Along?

Marriage Problems? Trouble Getting Along?

Sometimes couples are having so many marriage problems they not only dislike one other, they sometimes hate each other. When you cannot feel understood, alone, abused or neglected, your marriage or relationship can start going to a very negative place.

At first in any new relationship, it seems so wonderful. So easy to fall in love, communicate and to get that connection. As time goes on, the way people get triggered by the other person increases. With those triggers comes more arguments, fights and conflict. In some cases, the result is a certain dynamic between the two of you that involves eater pursuing and pushing in an attempt to get what you need or withdrawing, shutting down, putting up a wall to protect yourself from feeling attacked.

Marriage Problems | What to do

Sometimes couples come in and one partner feels like their wife or husband actually “hates me”. I feel like I can’t do anything right and my spouse constantly criticizes me. She/he is always angry over the smallest things. When you are stuck in such a negative place/pattern, you will most likely need help getting out of it – otherwise the relationship is not going to make it. There’s just no way you can both exist feeling so much pain, which is at the heart of the problems anyway.

It’s good to become aware of what’s actually going on. To reflect in a different way on current issues and how issues from the past may be getting triggered. Many couples relive painful childhood experiences triggered by the other person. It’s good to be able to understand this in a different way – maybe you hate feeling the level of pain and that your partner triggers, but understanding what’s going on and what you both need is critical to developing a better connection.

Struggling with marriage problems? Do you need a marital therapist or relationship counselor to help you work on breaking your negative cycle to help you get to a better place?

If you’d like to sit down and discuss and a counseling session, feel free to get in touch and let us know how we can help.

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Marriage Problems? Need Counseling?

Need a Pre-Marriage Counselor?

Anxiety, Depression, Grief, Relationships

Pre-Marriage Counseling

Premarital Therapy
New Jersey

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Maplewood Counseling
Offering Online & In-person Sessions
169 Maplewood Ave Suite 4
Maplewood, NJ 07040
Call Now (973) 793-1000

Pre-Marriage Counselor | Premarital Counseling

Find Counseling Before Getting Married

Do you need pre-marriage counselor to discuss some things with your fiancé? Are you engaged and scared about getting married? Are you having doubts about the relationship and fear about this level of commitment? As your wedding date approaches are you arguing a lot more and feeling more disconnected and distant? Do you need a pre-marriage counselor to help you both figure things out?

It is not unusual when you are engaged to feel a level of fear and stress is your wedding date approaches. Feeling unsure, ambivalent and just fear about getting married can get played out and make the relationship worse.

Does this sound familiar?

  • You or your fiancé are getting cold feet
  • You or your significant other are afraid of commitment
  • Fear and doubt are causing you or your partner to feel very insecure
  • You are really unhappy about the unpleasant feelings that are coming up and are not sure what to do
  • You do not have the ability to communicate what you need tohelp you feel more confident

Couples that are looking for help with pre-marriage counseling or pre-marital therapy have questions they need help bringing up and discussing openly about the relationship.

If you are at a place where you need help with this if you’re in doubt, feel free to get in touch and let us know how we can help.



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Premarraige Counseling NJ

Are you engaged and in need of pre-marriage counseling with your fiancé? Have some things you’d like to work through before you get married?

Premarital Therapy

Premarital therapy can help you discuss some important things before marriage. Have some concerns you want to talk about regarding relationship or family issues?

Engaged Couples

If you are engaged and are having cold feet, counselings can help? Did your partner do something that upset you and now you are concerned about getting married?