Maplewood Counseling
Offering Online & In-person Sessions
169 Maplewood Ave Suite 4
Maplewood, NJ 07040
Call Now (973) 793-1000
Unhappy Relationship or Marriage?
You and your spouse or partner need couples counseling?
Are you in a unhappy relationship? Many relationships in a bad place end in a break-up or divorce. Some have tried counseling and others have never really looked into getting professional help to see if they can feel more satisfied and happier in their relationship or marriage.
Are you in an unhappy relationship?
Are you feeling like you’re not sure if you can stay together? You are not alone.
Many men and women have tried for a long time to convey how unhappy they are, but for some reason their husband, wife or partner was unable to really understand how bad things have been for them. This happens in all types of relationships…straight and gay. In some situations, one partner has been pleading (sometimes for years) to go to counseling. At least one person was aware they were unable to resolve their issues without that help. Unfortunately, their spouse or partner did not listen and things had to get to a very critical point ( the very serious threat of separation and divorce) before seeking an experienced marriage or couples counselor to help.
Does this sound familiar?
You’ve been asking your husband, wife or partner for a very long time to go to counseling and they just ignored your request and did not take you seriously
You’re really angry with your spouse or partner for finally being ready for counseling and feel “why now?”
You or your spouse feel disconnected, neglected, verbally abused or ignored
It might be too late to work on your marriage or relationship since your wife or husband is the one that wanted counseling for a long time, and now that you’re ready, they are not very willing.
Many, many mistakes and have not treated your wife, husband or partner the way you should have.You’re desperately hoping that professional help can make a difference with where you are right now.
Many couples wonder if they can work things out and stay together. Not just stay together because of the children or because they fear what things will be like if they’re on their own financially or emotionally, but actually make the relationship better and more satisfying.
In an Unhappy Relationship or Marriage?
If you’re in an unhappy relationship and want help figuring things out, discernment counseling, marriage or couples therapy can help you.
If you’re looking for experienced and compassionate therapists in Essex county New Jersey ( couples do travel from other counties as well ), please do let us know how we can help you.
Maplewood Counseling
Offering Online & In-person Sessions
169 Maplewood Ave Suite 4
Maplewood, NJ 07040
Call Now (973) 793-1000
Lack of Sex and Intimacy
Not Able to Connect in Your Relationship
Many couples come to counseling because they are feeling disconnected in one way or another. It happens to both men and women – feeling confused, upset, misunderstood, alone. When this happens it will affect most couples when it comes to wanting sex. If you or your spouse or partner are not interested in sex, there are usually good reasons. Making sure desire issues are not related to medical issues first (see you doctor to rule out medical concerns), the next step is understanding what is going on to get in the way of a healthy sexual connection.
Not feeling wanted or desired can be very painful. Understanding the reasons for this is important.
Does this sound familiar?
You or your partner….
constantly feel rejected when you initiate sex or intimacy
feel really angry and hurt when your wife or husband is not interested in sex
need to feel emotionally connected and want intimacy
never been on the same page when it comes to sexual desire and libido
are going through hormonal changes and are less interested in sex in general
struggle with erectile dysfunction ED and medical issues I’ve been ruled out by your doctor
are afraid of being judged, embarrassed, disappointing you spouse and having performance issues
end up fighting or arguing about sex a lot
both feel disconnected because you cannot connect on more intimate levels
If you and your spouse or partner have been struggling with intimacy and lack of sex, it’s important to understand the underlying reasons. If you need a marriage or relationship therapist to help, feel free to contact us.
Maplewood Counseling
Offering Online & In-person Sessions
169 Maplewood Ave Suite 4
Maplewood, NJ 07040
Call Now (973) 793-1000
Is Your Marriage in Crisis?
Are you and your partner going through a crisis in your relationship? Scared to death you won’t be able to repair what went wrong. Maybe you commented adultery or your spouse have been having an affair. Or you had another serious rupture in the marriage.
There are so many challenges that can bring couples to the brink. Whether you are coping with something like inFidelity, which includes an emotional affairs and online cheating, or other major issues, A crisis can cause tremendous fear.
There probably are many things that got you to this point, but what to do next. Questions you ask might be “can we save this marriage”, “should we divorce” or “ What will happen to our kids if we can’t make it”?
One of the major reasons couples need immediate help due to a crisis is because of infidelity. Most of the time it isn’t because someone came forward and told their spouse or partner, but because they found out in other ways. Even if you come forward, the initial response is shock and devastation. What happens after that varies with each person and couple.
If you are a couple in crisis and need immediate help to figure things out, get in touch
Emeregency marriage counseling helps couples looking for help to resolve issues in their relationship in a safe and supportive environment. It is often seen as a last resort for some couples who are facing challenges and considering separation or divorce. Other couples may be in need of marital therapy due to a family crisis. Either way, we are here to help.
Are you looking for emergency marriage counseling due to a crisis situation? Many couples go through some difficult situations which can cause you to feel your relationship is in crisis. The initial response might be feeling shocked and devastated and not sure you can stay together.
Is this you?
My wife, husband or partner just found out about an affair
My spouse is saying they want a divorce
I am scared that my relationship is ending and I don’t know what to do
You’re both hanging on by a thread and want to know what to do
You’re not sure you can stay in the relationship anymore
If you need emergency marriage counseling now, reach out.
When Love Hits a Roadblock: 4 Reasons Couples Need Emergency Marriage Counseling
Relationships are beautiful but complex. When couples first tie the knot, they often envision a lifetime of happiness, shared dreams, and unwavering support. However, reality sometimes paints a different picture. Marriage, like any other aspect of life, can face unexpected challenges that may strain the bond between partners. This is where emergency marriage counseling can come into play. In this blog post, we’ll explore why couples might need such immediate intervention and how it can breathe new life into their relationship.
Signs that Emergency Marriage Counseling Might Be Necessary
Recognizing when your relationship needs help is the first step toward healing. Here are some telltale signs:
Sudden Loss and Grief
Imagine a couple, John and Lisa, who recently lost a child. The grief was overwhelming, leading to communication breakdowns and emotional distance. They couldn’t understand each other’s pain, making them feel isolated. Emergency marriage counseling helped them share their grief, improving their communication and strengthening their emotional connection.
Trust Issues and Infidelity
Trust is the foundation of any relationship, but when it’s broken, it can feel like the ground has been pulled from beneath you. Take, for example, a couple dealing with the aftermath of infidelity. The betrayed partner is filled with doubt, while the other feels immense guilt. Emergency counseling helped them rebuild trust by addressing the root causes of the infidelity, leading to a healthier, more honest relationship.
Intimacy Issues
For newlyweds Emily and Mark, the honeymoon phase ended quickly due to intimacy issues. They felt disconnected, and their attempts to fix it on their own only led to frustration. Through emergency counseling, they discovered underlying concerns and learned effective communication strategies, rekindling their intimacy and setting a strong foundation for their future together.
Constant Arguments
Sometimes, couples find themselves stuck in a cycle of constant arguments. These fights often stem from unresolved issues or misunderstandings. Emergency counseling can offer a neutral space to address these problems constructively. By identifying the underlying issues, couples can break the cycle of conflict and work towards a more harmonious relationship.
The Benefits of Seeking Emergency Marriage Counseling
The advantages of seeking immediate help are manifold. Here’s how emergency marriage counseling can save relationships:
Improved Communication
One of the primary benefits is the improvement in communication. Couples learn to express their feelings and thoughts openly without fear of judgment. This leads to a better understanding of each other’s perspectives, reducing misunderstandings and conflicts.
Rebuilding Trust
For couples dealing with trust issues, counseling provides a structured environment to rebuild that trust. Therapists guide couples through exercises and discussions that promote transparency and honesty, helping them restore the foundation of their relationship.
Enhanced Intimacy
Intimacy is not just physical; it’s also emotional. Through counseling, couples can explore barriers to intimacy and learn techniques to overcome them. This not only improves their physical connection but also deepens their emotional bond.
Overcoming the Stigma of Emergency Marriage Counseling
Many couples hesitate to seek counseling due to the stigma attached to it. However, acknowledging the need for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.
Common Misconceptions
One common misconception is that counseling is only for “failing” relationships. On the contrary, it’s a proactive step to prevent issues from escalating. Another myth is that seeking help means admitting defeat. In reality, it’s about taking control and making a conscious effort to improve the relationship.
Testimonials and Real-Life Success Stories
Consider the story of a couple who initially hesitated due to stigma but eventually sought counseling. They found it transformative and now advocate for the importance of not waiting until things are “too bad.” Their testimonial highlights how counseling provided a safe space to work through their challenges, ultimately strengthening their relationship.
How to Find the Right Counselor
Choosing the right counselor is crucial for the success of the therapy. Here are some tips to help you find the perfect match for your relationship:
Credentials and Experience
Look for counselors who are licensed and have experience in dealing with relationship issues. Their credentials can give you confidence in their ability to help you.
Compatibility
It’s important that both partners feel comfortable with the counselor. A good rapport can make the sessions more productive. Don’t hesitate to have an initial consultation to gauge compatibility.
Specialization
Some counselors specialize in specific issues like infidelity, grief, or intimacy problems. Finding a counselor with expertise in your particular area of concern can be especially beneficial.
Conclusion
Recognizing the need for help in a relationship is the first step toward healing. Emergency marriage counseling can provide the immediate intervention needed to address critical issues, improving communication, trust, and intimacy. If you find yourself facing challenges in your relationship, don’t hesitate to seek help. Counseling can offer a fresh perspective and equip you with the tools needed to strengthen your bond. Remember, every relationship has its ups and downs, but taking proactive steps can lead to lasting happiness and fulfillment.
Emergency marriage counseling or couples therapy can help you figure out what direction your relationship is headed. Can it be repaired? Is this an opportunity to make things better? Or are you going to split up due to infidelity or other long-standing painful issues.
If you’re a couple that’s been disconnected and need help figuring out the next step, emergency marriage counseling can help.
We offer extended session times when there is a crisis that you both need help with. Or traditional session is 45 minutes, but we can offer intensive double sessions when circumstances are more difficult and complicated.
Couples in crisis often need help asap and at times we can accommodate same day appointments to help when things are very upsetting and painful . Feel free to reach out if you need emergency marriage counseling or couples therapy so we can help you sort through your issues in a professional and safe setting.
Timing is everything when is comes to marriage counseling. Don’t wait until it’s too late to get help for you relationship.
Maplewood Counseling
Offering Online & In-person Sessions
169 Maplewood Ave Suite 4
Maplewood, NJ 07040
Call Now (973) 793-1000
Can We Get Back Together?
Find counseling after you split up
Can we get back together after splitting up? Did you go through a rough time in your relationship or marriage and lose hope things could work out? Are you wondering after a few weeks, months or longer if you can make it work?
Sometimes breaking up means you have to move on and start over. It might mean a divorce if you were married or a break-up if you were partnered. It can be extremely painful to let go and accept things you cannot change because you cannot change another person. Are you at a point where you’re wondering if taking a second look at the problems with a professional is worth it? Are you both wondering and committed to at least trying to understand how you ended up where you did?
Effective marriage or relationship counseling can help you take a good look at your own part and the problems and what happen when you both trigger each other’s issues. Therapy can also help you both really understand the types of things that will help you improve the way you handle things when you get upset.
All couples have to deal with conflict – that’s not the problem. It’s how you handle things when they get difficult. Do you respond when he or she is upset or react? Do you listen – really listen? Couples that can learn the skills to handle their “ruptures” and repair conflict will have a much better chance of staying together. It’s all about what happens when there is a rupture – from the smallest to the biggest events in a relationship, it’s all how you both handle one another to resolve your issues.
Are you wondering if therapy can help you get back together? Get in touch and let us know how we can help.
Maplewood Counseling
Offering Online & In-person Sessions
169 Maplewood Ave Suite 4
Maplewood, NJ 07040
Call Now (973) 793-1000
Need Emergency Counseling? Is My Marriage Over?
Is my marrige over? Can emergency counseling help?
Are you wondering if your marriage can survive? Did you just find out about an affair? Have you been unhappy and disconnected for years? Have you been trying to get through to your spouse or partner and feel like you’ve given up and feel it’s hopeless you’ll even get him or her to listen and actually understand you?
Many couples call looking for help as they think about some difficult decisions. Can we stay married? Should we get divorced? I don’t think I can ever feel more for my spouse again because there has been too much disconnect for too long.
Are we headed for divorce?
Taking a good look at the relationship will help you make some important decisions about the next step. Divorce is not an easy path, but is it the best option at this point?
A very serious look at the realtionship, the problems, the awareness or lack of, the ability to understand. Can you undertsand and admit your own part in the problems, are you willing to work on things, can you be realistic and open to the process. Fixing things, especially long standing problems, is not going to happen quickly. While one person might wish to put out the fire and get back to the way things used to be, the other might need some permanent changes. One person might want to hang onto things the way they were and the other is so done with feeling a alone, unhappy and disconnected.
Emergency counseling can help you figure things out. What steps you have to take if you both want it to work. Get in touch and let us know what you are going through.
