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A divorce for most men and women is devastating and extremely painful. Even if things have been bad for a long time, giving up and throwing in the towel is very difficult. You’re bound to feel sadness and grief about ending a relationship or marriage.

Some cope with the loss with sadness and grief, while others feel intense anger, bitterness and resentment.  Either way it causes tremendous suffering, but trying to find a better way to cope with the feelings can make a huge difference on your mental and physical health.

No doubt feeling of anger, resentment and bitterness will prolong the suffering and make things worse. Usually what’s under the anger is grief and sadness, but it’s hard to get to. Hanging onto the anger and allowing your thoughts to fuel that fire is very harmful to yourself, your children and your ex.  Most people don’t care about the harm they do to the ex. Actually, they want bad things to happen to their ex. Some want him or her to die or wish awful things such as illness or accident.

Does this sound familiar?

  • I can’t seem to cope with the anger in more constructive ways, but I want to
  • I feel so resentful – like he or she did this to me and want to know how to handle those emotions
  • I am stuck and feeling bitter and can tell I am making things worse for myself
  • I don’t want to continue to bash my ex and involve my kids, but it’s a go to place
  • I do want peace

We all want peace. It is sad and hard on you and your spirit to wish these things, although it is understandable you don’t know how to handle the intense amount of suffering and loss you feel. I’ve seen many couple go through a bitter, nasty divorce only to find peace over the years. Wouldn’t it be great if you could find a way to get there faster? To deal with you feelings in ways that help you let go of self defeating and destructive thoughts and actions? That’s where divorce counseling can help.

Divorce Counseling to Help You Find Peace

The type of therapy we provide is one-to-one help. Helping men and women find a way through the pain to accept and find peace. We can help you explore feelings of depression, anxiety, grief, anger  and how your thoughts can make things worse.  We can help you process your grief,  make sense of things and move in a more positive direction.

Need a therapist to help?  Contact us if you live or work in Northern NJ in Essex County.

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Anxiety Disorders and Panic Attacks

Need help with anxiety disorders and panic attacks? Listen to this TEDx talk from someone who believes awareness is the first step to improving anxiety.

Surviving anxiety: Solome Tibebu at TEDxTC
Solome Tibebu founded Anxiety In Teens, a mental health help site for adolescents and youth, when she was as an anxious 16-year-old. Since then, she has built the organization to reach isolated teenagers with anxiety, inform and educate affected youth as well as their family and friends, as well as provide hope and awareness.

Attitude is Everything

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Changing Your Attitude

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Attitude is Everything in Helping You Cope with Life

Are you a glass half empty or half full person? Working on your improving your attitude can help reduce the suffering you experience.

Is this you?

  • You’re feeling defeated and ashamed of a a failed relationship. divorce or breakup
  • You’re very sad about getting older and feel like your life is behind you
  • You feel like a failure in love and struggle with grief over being alone again
  • You or a family member is facing difficult health issues
  • You’re the care giver for a family member who is seriously or chronically ill
  • You did not get into the college you wanted
  • You did not get the promotion or recognition you feel you deserved
  • You got fired or were lost your job

 

Working with Your Attitude About Failure

Novelist Samuel Beckett ‘s famous quote  “Fail, Fail Again, Fail Better” is the topic of many lectures, talks and most recently this I listened to this book by Pema Chodron, which I recommend if you’re looking for help trying to change your negative thoughts and attitude about your situation.

Reducing the Negative and Increasing the Positive

Reducing the Negative and Increasing the Positive

Becoming more aware and conscious of your negative thinking and thoughts and replacing those thoughts with more positive can help you start working on changing your attitude. I often listen to this Sounds True free video “Advice for Difficult Times: A Short Film of Teachings from the Heart” . This short film has offerings from different spiritual teachers about how to get through difficult times. In one section it talks about reducing the negative and increasing the positive with the analogy of pulling weeds and planting flowers, among many other helpful ways to cope with difficult times.

What connects us all as human beings is the suffering we experience at times. What we can do is slowly, over time, when dealing with these challenging experiences is be with what’s there and learn how to reduce the negative and increase the positive. Attitude is everything and training to embrace and allow the experience you are having and working on the attitude about those experiences can make a huge difference in the amount of suffering you experience.

Need help changing your attitude?

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Not Getting What You Want

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Not Getting What You Want

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Not Getting What You Want, Getting What You Don’t Want

There are so many things that can really make us struggle. Not getting what we want or expect or getting what we don’t want, can really cause a great deal of suffering and pain.

If only…

  • I had more money
  • I had a better marriage or relationship
  • I had a better body or physical appearance
  • My child would be a better student or do what I say
  • I was not alone and in a relationship
  • I was more successful
  • I had a better job or career
  • Had a bigger, better house
  • My spouse, son or daughter did not disappoint me

Getting What You Don’t Want

Struggling with…

  • Cancer or another serious illness
  • an ill spouse, child or parent
  • tragic death of a loved one
  • divorce or a failed marriage
  • a partner or spouse that is not there for you
  • loss of your home or job
  • a high level of anger, resentment and bitterness
  • financial insecurity and worries

If you or a family member are looking for ways to deal with not getting what you want or the opposite, there are several resources to help with these difficult thoughts and emotions. Being open and flexible to various resources (books, support groups and therapy) can be a great help.

Some of our other blog articles have resources and books that may be of interest as well. We hope you find this information helpful in your search for making more peace with your present reality.

If you need counseling to help accept circumstances and deal with emotional pain, get in touch. 

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