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Anxiety Disorders and Panic Attacks

Need help with anxiety disorders and panic attacks? Listen to this TEDx talk from someone who believes awareness is the first step to improving anxiety.

Surviving anxiety: Solome Tibebu at TEDxTC
Solome Tibebu founded Anxiety In Teens, a mental health help site for adolescents and youth, when she was as an anxious 16-year-old. Since then, she has built the organization to reach isolated teenagers with anxiety, inform and educate affected youth as well as their family and friends, as well as provide hope and awareness.

Attitude is Everything

Anxiety, Depression, Grief, Relationships

Changing Your Attitude

How it Can Change Your Life
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Attitude is Everything in Helping You Cope with Life

Are you a glass half empty or half full person? Working on your improving your attitude can help reduce the suffering you experience.

Is this you?

  • You’re feeling defeated and ashamed of a a failed relationship. divorce or breakup
  • You’re very sad about getting older and feel like your life is behind you
  • You feel like a failure in love and struggle with grief over being alone again
  • You or a family member is facing difficult health issues
  • You’re the care giver for a family member who is seriously or chronically ill
  • You did not get into the college you wanted
  • You did not get the promotion or recognition you feel you deserved
  • You got fired or were lost your job

 

Working with Your Attitude About Failure

Novelist Samuel Beckett ‘s famous quote  “Fail, Fail Again, Fail Better” is the topic of many lectures, talks and most recently this I listened to this book by Pema Chodron, which I recommend if you’re looking for help trying to change your negative thoughts and attitude about your situation.

Reducing the Negative and Increasing the Positive

Reducing the Negative and Increasing the Positive

Becoming more aware and conscious of your negative thinking and thoughts and replacing those thoughts with more positive can help you start working on changing your attitude. I often listen to this Sounds True free video “Advice for Difficult Times: A Short Film of Teachings from the Heart” . This short film has offerings from different spiritual teachers about how to get through difficult times. In one section it talks about reducing the negative and increasing the positive with the analogy of pulling weeds and planting flowers, among many other helpful ways to cope with difficult times.

What connects us all as human beings is the suffering we experience at times. What we can do is slowly, over time, when dealing with these challenging experiences is be with what’s there and learn how to reduce the negative and increase the positive. Attitude is everything and training to embrace and allow the experience you are having and working on the attitude about those experiences can make a huge difference in the amount of suffering you experience.

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Not Getting What You Want

Anxiety, Depression, Grief, Relationships

Not Getting What You Want

Dealing with Life Challenges
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Maplewood, NJ 07040
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Not Getting What You Want, Getting What You Don’t Want

There are so many things that can really make us struggle. Not getting what we want or expect or getting what we don’t want, can really cause a great deal of suffering and pain.

If only…

  • I had more money
  • I had a better marriage or relationship
  • I had a better body or physical appearance
  • My child would be a better student or do what I say
  • I was not alone and in a relationship
  • I was more successful
  • I had a better job or career
  • Had a bigger, better house
  • My spouse, son or daughter did not disappoint me

Getting What You Don’t Want

Struggling with…

  • Cancer or another serious illness
  • an ill spouse, child or parent
  • tragic death of a loved one
  • divorce or a failed marriage
  • a partner or spouse that is not there for you
  • loss of your home or job
  • a high level of anger, resentment and bitterness
  • financial insecurity and worries

If you or a family member are looking for ways to deal with not getting what you want or the opposite, there are several resources to help with these difficult thoughts and emotions. Being open and flexible to various resources (books, support groups and therapy) can be a great help.

Some of our other blog articles have resources and books that may be of interest as well. We hope you find this information helpful in your search for making more peace with your present reality.

If you need counseling to help accept circumstances and deal with emotional pain, get in touch. 

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Resist or Yield to Painful Experiences

Resist or Yield to Painful Experiences

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Coping with Painful Experiences

How to Manage

Do you Resist or Yield to Painful Experiences?

We all go through difficult experiences in our lives that can cause deep and intense physical or mental pain. Some struggle with the tragic death of a loved one, others a serious, chronic or terminal illness.  Then there are people that struggle with a child, spouse or parent struggling with issues, a very painful divorce or another catastrophic life event.

When things are so intense and painful that it makes sense (at least temporarily) to run from, resist and fight the reality of the situation. Even though nothing is permanent, it feels as though things will never change. It seems you’ll be stuck in this painful place forever when you are going through it. “This shouldn’t be happening”, blaming others or ourselves for where we are at. Many can feel stuck in anger, resentment, and bitterness, wanting to find ways to escape the painful experience. Running from the extreme discomfort can ultimately make us all suffer even more, turning damaging behaviors to avoid the painful reality of our situation.

“Not getting what you want, getting what you don’t want” quote from Pema Chodron in Coming Closer to Ourselves

We all have to face events like these at one time or another in our lives. It is a part of life and what it is to be human. Even therapists have to cope with tragedies, serious health issues, struggling family members and other painful life events. We all, unfortunately, suffer more when we run from the pain rather than finding ways to accept, allow and work with the emotions that come up. Accepting and allowing our experience can help us attain more wisdom and a deeper sense of compassion for one another.

It takes a tremendous amount of bravery to be open to and allow the experience, and accepting and working what is and trying not to make things worse.  Going through a catastrophic event that seems insurmountable?

It has been a tremendous help to me personally and professionally to read and listen to the following books and teachings of The New Earth, by Eckhart Tolle, When Pain is the Doorway by Pema Chodron,  Full Catastrophy Living by John Kabat-Zin, Wherever You Go You are There by John Kabat-Zin and a recent Facebook course on UDemy Freedom to Choose Something Different with Pem Chodron, Fail, Fail Again, Fail Better by Pema Chodron, Walking the Walk by Pema Chodron as well as other books.

These videos may be helpful to some…

“Not getting what you want, getting what you don’t want” quote from Pema Chodron in Coming Closer to Ourselves| Super Soul Sunday | Oprah Winfrey Network

 

We hope you find this information helpful.