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Coping With an Affair

Coping with an Affair?

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Coping With an Affair and Infidelity

Are you coping with an affair? Wondering if your relationship can survive the infidelity? If you found out that your spouse or partner ( boyfriend or girlfriend ) cheated on you, it makes sense you’d feel completely devastated. How you found out also complicates things.  And you are no doubt going through a range of feelings from shock, anger, hurt, sadness to confusion. It can also be a huge blow to your self esteem, sometimes making it hard to eat, sleep, or function at work or home. The betrayal of a spouse or partner is so incredibly painful.

Is this you?

  • you’re in shock and you just don’t know what to do or whom to turn to
  • you don’t want to tell family or friends and you feel all alone
  • your feelings of shame are unbearable and you just feel like hiding from people
  • you’re not sure if you can stay in the marriage or relationship
  • you put up a wall and want to distance or lash out (or both)
  • you can’t be around your spouse or partner without feeling an incredible amount of pain
  • you’re getting obsessed with, and focused on, wanting to know all the details, but that only hurts more
  • you keep asking “why?” over and over
  • you feel like somehow it’s your fault

Coping with an affair is so very difficult. Of course you feel angry, of course you feel hurt. So what’s the next step? Can your relationship heal from the damage of an affair?

 

Coping after an affair can be very difficult and take a long time to heal. We hope this information helps you understand the healing process and what steps you can take to recover from infidelity.

What is Psychotherapy?

What is Psychotherapy?

What is Psychotherapy?

Psychotherapy is a specialized type of therapy which can be effective in helping you cope with a wide range of issues. Often referred to as “talk therapy,” psychotherapy is a way to treat people dealing with various mental disorders (depression, anxiety, etc…) and one of the main objectives of this type of therapy is to help you gain a better understanding of the issues that are causing emotional pain, dysfunction and problems in your life. The psychotherapist teaches people different ways to cope and deal with unhealthy attitudes, thoughts and behaviors. This type of treatment can be very effective in helping you reduce and manage your symptoms and help you function better in every aspect of their lives.

Because the relationship you will develop with your therapist is so important to the process, it is essential to find a therapist with whom you feel safe. Effective psychotherapy will allow you to open up and make yourself deeply vulnerable to the therapist. To do this you must feel safe.

A good psychotherapist has the skills to build that sense of trust and help you feel connected to and safe. The process of psychotherapy is more than the psychotherapist giving you advice and simple problem solving and can bring about important and lasting change in your life.

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We hope this helps.

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Why Men Cheat

Why Men Cheat

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Why Men Cheat and How to Prevent Infidelity

According to this video, the number one reason men cheat? Emotional Disconnection. According to the video  how to prevent infidelity is to appreciate your spouse.

Here are several articles you  might find interesting on Why Men Cheat

  •  “The majority said it was an emotional disconnection, specifically a sense of feeling underappreciated. A lack of thoughtful gestures,” Gary says. “Men are very emotional beings. They just don’t look like that. Or they don’t seem like that. Or they don’t tell you that.” (more…)
  • Yes, straying is despicable, but have you ever wondered about the reasons guys do it? (more…)
  • Our Cheatin’ Hearts -Men and monogamy: Understanding the urge to have an extramarital affair (more…)
  • Esquire Magazine – Why Men Cheat . One man’s unfiltered, unadulterated explanation. Well, maybe a little adulterated. By Anonymous
  • Jose and Angela have been married for two years. Two days after she gave birth their baby, Jose had an affair. (more…)

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Couples Therapy

Maplewood Counseling provides relationship counseling for couples who are struggling with communication problems, an affair, a crisis or other issues. Marriage counseling and couples therapy is provided to help for all types couples with relationship issues.

Anxiety, Depression, Grief

Get help for depression, anxiety, grief, or low self esteem. Therapy can help if you are going through a difficult time such as coping with a divorce or break-up. A good therapist can help you improve the way you feel and work on making positive changes in your life.

Coping With a Life Crisis

Do you need help getting through a painful time in your life? Are you dealing with an affair or infidelity? Trying to survive a lonely, painful time? Is your child struggling? Are you or a loved one coping with a crisis, serious health issues, or helping aging parents?

Call 973-902-8700 Maplewoood Counseling

How to Avoid a Nasty Divorce

Avoid a Nasty Divorce | NJ Therapy

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How to Avoid a Nasty Divorce

Are you going through a divorce and trying to keep you pain and anger from making things worse for yourself and your kids? Are you reeling from years of unhappiness, an affair or an abusive ex? Fantasizing your ex would just die or spending a lot of time wanting revenge?

If you’re not able to process your grief and anger in a productive way on your own – seek professional help and support.

Here are some helpful articles and videos to help you survive and/or avoid a nasty divorce.

  • Do You Have an Impossible Ex? Has your ex turned your divorce into a minefield? Read More
  • From Powerless to Power: Surviving a Malignant Divorce – Do you feel helpless with your ex? Therapy can help. Read More
  • The Malignant Divorce – Some divorces are like cancers, so how do we deal? Read More
  • Can You Forgive? Do you know how to forgive others and yourself? Read More
  • How to Evaluate Your Options When Contemplating a Divorce- Options available when considering divorce. (more …)

If you need help to avoid a nasty divorce find a support group in your area (support groups in NJ below) and counseling from a licensed mental health professional. Maplewood Counseling is located in Essex County in Northern NJ. Contact us if you need help with anger, grief and forgiveness.

Here a several resource to help women and men (and gay divorce LGBT) deal with a break-up or divorce:

Divorce Support Groups in New Jersey