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What is Empathy? Feeling with People

What is Empathy? Feeling with People

What is Empathy & How it Connects Us

Empathy Builds More Meaningful Realtionships
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What Is Empathy?

Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another person. It goes beyond simply recognizing someone’s emotions—it means truly stepping into their shoes, feeling what they feel, and acknowledging their experience without judgment. Empathy deepens our understanding of those around us and strengthens our personal connections.

Whether you’re navigating a relationship, helping a friend through a tough time, or simply striving to be more compassionate, empathy serves as a powerful tool for creating meaningful bonds.

How Empathy Connects Us

At its core, empathy bridges the gap between people. When you genuinely try to see the world through someone else’s eyes, it fosters a deep sense of connection. It shows others that they’re not alone, helping to build trust and understanding in your relationships. Couples can use empathy to enhance their emotional bond, parents can connect on a deeper level with their children, and individuals can empathize with friends, colleagues, and loved ones to improve their communication and relationships.

Building Meaningful Connections

Empathy transforms ordinary relationships into meaningful ones. When you take the time to validate someone’s emotions, you’re telling them that their feelings matter. This small but powerful act can strengthen relationships with your partner, your children, or those closest to you.

For couples, empathy can pave the way for healthier communication. Rather than reacting defensively, understanding a partner’s perspective can diffuse conflict and create opportunities for growth. For parents, practicing empathy can foster trust and open up dialogue with their children, enabling better problem-solving and emotional support.

Helping Others Through Challenges

Empathy plays a crucial role in guiding others through difficult times. Imagine a friend or partner navigating grief, frustration, or worry. By offering empathy—whether through listening or simply sitting with them—you contribute a sense of support and care. Just acknowledging someone’s emotions can alleviate loneliness and provide the strength they need to move forward.

For parents, empathy can be a guiding light when helping children learn to manage big emotions or challenging situations. For individuals, it equips you with the emotional intelligence to support loved ones when they need it most.

Why Empathy Matters

Empathy helps people feel seen and understood, creating stronger relationships and a sense of belonging. It encourages kindness, builds trust, and makes it easier for us to work through life’s ups and downs together. By practicing empathy, we not only improve our relationships but also make the world around us a little kinder.

Take a moment to listen, ask open-ended questions, and try to see things from another’s perspective. Whether you’re a partner, parent, or friend, practicing empathy can open doors to deeper, more fulfilling connections.

If you need help becoming more empathetic in your relationships, get in touch. 

 

How Secure Attachment Starts

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Secure Attachment

Secure attachment depends on the caretaker/mom’s ability to be attuned and emotionally responsive is apparent. According to Daniel Segiel, MD, secure attachment is about feeling Seen, Safe, Soothed and Secure. The ideal parenting will do all of these as much as possible and help a child grow into a adult with secure attachment and search for the same from a spouse or partner.

However, many children do not grow up feeling seen, safe, soothed and secure. They will most likely struggle in their adults relationships. Feeling invisible, unsafe, unnurtured and insecure as a child will often cause great pain, disappointment, anger and frustration in adult relationships. Different types of attachment styles develop as a result – anxious, avoidant and disorganized attachment can make your marriage and family relationships very difficult.

The good news is, with the right kind of therapy you make sense of the past and work toward secure attachment. You can understand what it takes to feel understood (seen) on a deep level and what it takes to feel safe (emotionally and physically) in your relationship.

Emotional responsiveness is very important in healthy, secure relationships. You can learn how to be there and “soothe” one another in your relationship.

Even if you did not have a loving and nurturing childhood – maybe even a parent or parents that were neglectful and/or abusive – you can work toward secure attachment as an adult.

Find a therapist experienced with attachment issues (many are) to help you. If you’re looking for a therapist in Essex County, NJ, give us a call at 973-793-1000 or email us if that’s easier.

Conflict in Relationship?

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Maplewood, NJ 07040
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Conflict in Your Relationship?

Conflict in your relationship or marriage? We all have to deal with conflict in our relationships. When two people come together from different needs and backgrounds, there is bound to be conflict. We all have different abilities to really take in and understand the other person. It can be very difficult to  communicate effectively when things get hard. Couples sometimes have unrealistic expectations and an  inability to understand what the other person need. This causes great disappointment. We can all get hooked by unconscious triggers based on our conditioning. The end result? Conflict that leads to great disappointment, hurt and anger.

Ruptures are bound to happen in all relationships. It’s not the ruptures that become the problem as much as how well a couple can “repair” the rupture and understand one another.

What is Your Pattern When You Have Conflict?

  • We get very angry at one another and hurl insults and criticism
  • One of us goes on the attack and the other withdraws and puts up a wall, which only makes things worse
  • We both used to fight and it got us nowhere so now we just both just give up and stop talking, sometimes for days or weeks

Author, psychiatrist and therapist Daniel Siegel explores relationships and attachment in detail in his books. Here refers to the 4 Ss and what is needed for healthy attachment and relationships. How very important it is for us all to feel:

  • SEEN
  • SAFE
  • SOOTHED
  • SECURE

How our early attachment figures responded to us emotionally (or didn’t respond in many cases) will most likely be the way we end up relating in our romantic relationships. It has a lot to do with the ability (or inability) to understand one another and repair problems in our relationships. If a person did not any or all of the combination of seen, safe, soothed or secure, they might most likely will struggle with similar issues in their adult relationships. Reliving the past over and over is extremely painful. It can cause rage, anger, deep sadness and feelings of rejection, and ultimately like you don’t matter.

Getting Help with Conflict in Relationship

With help, a couple can learn how to take in the external experience of the other person and help them feel seen, safe, soothed and secure. Learning to emotionally respond to your spouse or partner can help you connect in deeper and more meaningful ways.

If you’re looking for a relationship or marriage therapist in New Jersey, contact us now at 973-902-8700 or email us if that’s easier for you.

 

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Maplewood, NJ 07040
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Counseling Essex County| Find a Therapist in NJ

Are you looking for help with grief, anxiety, depression or family therapy? Do you live in Essex County, New Jersey?

Does this sound familiar?

  • You or a family member is struggling with illness or serious health issues
  • You are the caretaker for an elderly or sick family member
  • You need help coping with the death of a spouse or loved one
  • You feel isolated and alone
  • You are feeling very depressed and need help coping
  • Your doctor recommended therapy to help with difficult issues
  • Your elderly parent or spouse has dementia or Alzheimer’s and you need counseling support

If you need help with personal or family issues counseling may help. If you need a therapist in Essex County, NJ, contact us now. We are here to help

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Looking for Divorce Counseling?

A divorce for most men and women is devastating and extremely painful. Even if things have been bad for a long time, giving up and throwing in the towel is very difficult. You’re bound to feel sadness and grief about ending a relationship or marriage.

Some cope with the loss with sadness and grief, while others feel intense anger, bitterness and resentment.  Either way it causes tremendous suffering, but trying to find a better way to cope with the feelings can make a huge difference on your mental and physical health.

No doubt feeling of anger, resentment and bitterness will prolong the suffering and make things worse. Usually what’s under the anger is grief and sadness, but it’s hard to get to. Hanging onto the anger and allowing your thoughts to fuel that fire is very harmful to yourself, your children and your ex.  Most people don’t care about the harm they do to the ex. Actually, they want bad things to happen to their ex. Some want him or her to die or wish awful things such as illness or accident.

Does this sound familiar?

  • I can’t seem to cope with the anger in more constructive ways, but I want to
  • I feel so resentful – like he or she did this to me and want to know how to handle those emotions
  • I am stuck and feeling bitter and can tell I am making things worse for myself
  • I don’t want to continue to bash my ex and involve my kids, but it’s a go to place
  • I do want peace

We all want peace. It is sad and hard on you and your spirit to wish these things, although it is understandable you don’t know how to handle the intense amount of suffering and loss you feel. I’ve seen many couple go through a bitter, nasty divorce only to find peace over the years. Wouldn’t it be great if you could find a way to get there faster? To deal with you feelings in ways that help you let go of self defeating and destructive thoughts and actions? That’s where divorce counseling can help.

Divorce Counseling to Help You Find Peace

The type of therapy we provide is one-to-one help. Helping men and women find a way through the pain to accept and find peace. We can help you explore feelings of depression, anxiety, grief, anger  and how your thoughts can make things worse.  We can help you process your grief,  make sense of things and move in a more positive direction.

Need a therapist to help?  Contact us if you live or work in Northern NJ in Essex County.