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The Benefit of Letting Go | Mindfulness Counseling

Letting go will of an inner struggle or conflict can eventually bring you peace and acceptance to your life. It is not easy for many people to let go since it usually means facing something painful. You sometimes have ti go into the fire to get to a better place.

Trying to let go of something painful? Does this sound familiar?

  • You been hanging on to resentment that is hurting you and others in your life.
  • You haven’t been able to resolve something in your life or relationship that causes you on going anger and pain
  • You’re having trouble letting go of a bad marriage or relationship?
  • You may have a strong need to control others and make things happen a certain way?
  • You have tremendous anxiety and resist things that you can’t control.

Some people will benefit greatly from learning to accept they need to let go of difficult circumstances with kindness and manage the emotions that arise.

It can be very frightening and anxiety producing to move forward. Letting go can also mean you have to allow yourself to process painful emotions, which is incredibly important. Why? Avoidance will only prolong the agony. What you resist will persist and causes you and sometimes others more and unnecessary suffering.

Learning to manage emotions with letting go is the first step. It means instead of hanging on to resentments, anger and negative circumstances to avoid what will surface, you start to see the value in gradually accepting Things, circumstances and people you cannot change.

If you need help letting go, find an experience, compassionate and understanding therapist that can help you move in this direction

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Spiritual Relationships

Mindful & Spiritual Relationships

There is a Insights at the Edge podcast with Elizabeth Lesser, author and spiritual teacher. She has tremendous wisdom and when asked what does it meant to be spiritual, she simply responded “to be generous, calm, loving and fearless”. Couples and individuals that are committed to this process can greatly improve the way they feel . Applying all of these to relationships with love ones will create stronger bonds and deeper connections.  Another positive outcome for many people that practice mindfulness is health benefits that go beyond peace of mind and happier relationships. You do not have to be spiritual or religious to benefit from becoming more generous, calm, loving and fearless.  

Be generous – being generous does not mean only being generous financially. It includes really listening and generously giving someone your time and full, loving attention. Generosity also includes noticing the positive and actually verbalizing with compliments, appreciations,. etc…. Pay attention to and appreciate the nice things others do for you. someone and the things they do, offering help and support, and paying genuine, authentic compliments. You can also be generous by way of service, volunteer work and helping others. Being generous is giving from the heart without expecting anything in return.  This can be challenging in relationships if you are focused too much on getting what you want or angry if you don’t get what you need. It can take work to develop a more generous way of relating. 

Be Calm – Emotional reactivity in relationships often leads to anger, resentment and conflict. Paying attention and becoming more aware of what you feeling and experiencing can help you change your level of reactivity over time. If there are certain triggers that can make you go from 0-60 in a heartbeat, understanding the triggers will help you reduce negative reactions. Childhood experiences, trauma, painful events and the like can still be unconsciously present and cause painful reactions. Reflecting on those experiences and the “hook” will help you approach present relationships and situations in a more mindful way. Also, life is a series of challenges and there are so many things we cannot control. If, over time, you understand this there will be less resistance and more acceptance of difficult situations and a more calm approach. 

Be loving – there are many words that describe being more loving in a relationship. Respectful, supportive, kind, affectionate, forgiving, gentle, compassionate, Also, prioritizing family and relationship over work or other things. It can mean a simple smile and loving attention. Listening is also one of the greatest gifts you can give to another person. Not listening to fix their problems, but rather listening to show you are there and you care. 

Be fearless – This takes work to become less fearful. For example, if you are used tp abiding conflict and putting up a wall, it will take eventually trying to approach rather than avoid. Fear of being hurt, emotional discomfort, worrying can all make it challenging to risk becoming more vulnerable. Fear of what will happen might hold you back, but changing some negative reactions and patterns will mean having the courage to face the pain, emotional discomfort and find ways to be less fearful of what will happen. A confidence comes when you can step by step work on you own fear of what will happen if you are vulnerable, kind, respectful and don’t avoid emotionally uncomfortable feelings. 

It takes patience to work on booming more generous, calm, loving and fearless over time, but it will eventually bring you more peace and closer to loved ones .

If you want help with developing all of these important mindful qualities, please contact us.

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Relationship Tips for Couples

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Relationship Tips: Practical Guidance for Couples

All couples experience periods of closeness and moments of challenge. Every shared journey has its unique twists, and facing difficulties together creates lasting understanding and respect. If you’ve noticed tension, frequent misunderstandings, or a sense of drifting apart, it’s important to remember: you’re not alone, and wanting to grow together is a sign of care.

At Maplewood Counseling, we know that every relationship needs mindful attention. Our aim is to help you nurture your connection, improve how you relate, and turn obstacles into opportunities for growth.

Simple Ways to Build Closeness Every Day

Fostering a strong relationship isn’t just about grand gestures. It’s the small, thoughtful actions—done regularly—that keep your bond strong.

  • Check-In with Care: Ask questions that show you truly want to support your partner, such as “What brought you joy today?” or “Is there something you’d like to talk about?” Thoughtful check-ins go beyond surface-level conversations.
  • Show Gratitude Often: Thank your partner for everyday acts, like preparing a meal or offering a listening ear. Even a brief “I appreciate you” can help your partner feel valued.
  • Carve Out Special Moments: Busy schedules make it easy to lose connection. Designate time for just the two of you, whether it’s a weekly walk, quiet morning coffee, or setting aside devices for a heartfelt conversation.

Communicate to Understand and Connect

Have you ever felt like your partner isn’t really hearing you? It’s common, but effective communication helps bridge these gaps and brings you closer together.

  • Express Yourself Clearly: Replace accusatory statements with honest feelings. Instead of “You never listen,” say “I feel overlooked when…” Sharing your experience can foster empathy, not defensiveness.
  • Listen with Presence: Give your partner your undivided attention—silence your phone, listen fully, and reflect what you’ve heard: “It sounds like you’re feeling overwhelmed.” This makes your partner feel seen and respected.
  • Pause When Needed: Sometimes emotions run high. If that happens, agree to step back and revisit the talk when both of you are calmer. Taking space can protect both your feelings and your relationship.

Navigating Disagreements with Compassion

Every relationship has conflict. It’s not about eliminating disagreements, but about handling them in a healthy, respectful way that leaves both people feeling understood.

  • Center on Solutions: Discuss issues without criticizing each other. Stay focused on resolving the concern at hand, and try not to revisit old grievances. Approach problems as a team.
  • Meet Each Other Halfway: Finding a path forward usually means both partners compromise. Ask, “Is there a way we can both feel comfortable with this?” Working together ensures no one feels left behind.
  • Rebuild and Reassure: After a tough conversation, reconnect with a kind gesture—an apology, comforting words, or simply acknowledging their perspective. These moments help heal and reaffirm your commitment.

Support Is Always Available

At times, you might feel stuck or uncertain about how to move forward. Reaching out for help is a courageous step, and it can be the turning point towards a more fulfilling relationship.

Our Maplewood Counseling team offers a welcoming, private environment where couples from all walks of life can explore difficulties and strengthen their bond. Whether you’re working through trust issues, major transitions, or simply want to rekindle your closeness, our skilled therapists offer guidance tailored to your situation.

You don’t have to manage challenges on your own. We’re here to support you in creating the partnership you envision.

When you feel ready, reach out to Maplewood Counseling. Schedule a confidential appointment and begin the journey to a deeper, more connected relationship.

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In a Polyamorous Relationship?

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In a Polyamorous Relationship?

In a Polyamorous or Open Relationship?

Close to 20% of all people have had a non-monogamous relationships, according to an April 2016 article in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy. This includes an open marriage, open relationship, and polyamory, in which all partners agree that each may have romantic and/or sexual relationships with other partners. Many couples follow rules and agreements to cut down on potential problems and challenges.

Polyamory, which is a common type or non-monogamous relationship, means having more than one sexual or romantic partner, with all partners agreeing to certain rules for the arrangement. Unlike an open relationship where couples may date others and agree to only love each other, a polyamorous couple may agree to have sex outside the relationship and are open to loving multiple partners.

Struggling with a Non-monogamous Relationship? Does this sound familiar?

  • Your partner broke a rule and you feel upset or betrayed
  • You or your partner is struggling with jealousy and it causes arguments
  • You or you’re partner or others don’t have good boundaries
  • Quantity vs quality time issues
  • Comparing or being compared to other partners
  • You are ready for a change because you feel unhappy, but your partner is not
  • You have concerns about privacy and being outed
  • Your children are getting older and it’s harder to keep secrets

If you are struggling in an open or polyamorous relationship and need help navigating some issues, get in touch.

 

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In An Estranged Relationship?

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Coping with an Estranged Relationship?

What is an estranged relationship? Estranged implies a loss of affection, distance and instead of turning to your spouse or partner, turning away. If you have been feeling unhappy and disconnected for a long time, it can create a tremendous amount distance and even hostility.

Are you living under the same roof and feeling trapped? Feeling there are no good options for dealing with your disconnect? Most importantly, it is having a huge impact on everyone’s emotional and physical well-being?

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Are these your circumstances?

  • We sleep in separate rooms and have for a long time
  • We hardly speak to one another
  • You are estranged from a child, parent or other family member
  • Our children are fully aware of how bad things are
  • We argue and there are verbal insults and hostility
  • At times, we fight in front of our children
  • I don’t love my spouse anymore and even feel like I hate him/her
  • It’s so obvious to everyone we can’t stand each other anymore
  • We cannot afford to separate now
  • We stay together for the sake of the children

So, what should you do? At the very least, you can seek counseling to talk about and process your feelings about the disconnect. Understanding what you can and cannot do is important. Some relationships can be repaired eventually of both parties – whether with a spouse, child or other family member. And other situations may take working with you r own sadness and anger to process and finally come twosome type of acceptance if the situation so you can feel more peace.

An estranged relationship can cause a lot of pain and be challenges for both parties. Forgiveness takes one and you will do this for your own sake, but reconciliation takes two. You cannot reconcile and estranged relationship unless the other person is open. In the meantime, if you are struggling with this type of situation, it might help to talk to a professional.

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Feeling Overwhelmed and Alone?

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Feeling Overwhelmed and Alone? Here’s How to Cope and Reconnect

It’s not uncommon to feel overwhelmed and alone. Whether it’s the weight of work deadlines, the stress of parenting, or simply feeling distanced from others, these emotions can creep in without warning. They’re universal, yet deeply personal. The hustle of daily life often leaves little room to pause and reflect, making it easy to feel isolated amidst the noise.

If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Many young professionals, single parents, couples, and solo entrepreneurs face similar struggles. This post will explore the causes of overwhelm and loneliness, share signs to help you identify them, and—most importantly—offer practical strategies to overcome these feelings.

Signs of Overwhelm and Loneliness

Recognizing what you’re experiencing is the first step to regaining control. Here are some common signs of overwhelm and loneliness to watch out for in yourself or those around you:

Signs of Overwhelm

  • Trouble Focusing: Difficulty concentrating or making even small decisions.
  • Physical Fatigue: Chronic tiredness even when you’ve had enough sleep.
  • Mood Swings: Feeling irritable, anxious, or persistently frustrated.
  • Withdrawal: Avoiding tasks, responsibilities, or social interactions.

Signs of Loneliness

  • Social Disconnection: Feeling disconnected even in a room full of people.
  • Low Self-Worth: Thoughts that nobody truly understands or cares about you.
  • Changes in Sleep or Appetite: Sleeping too much or too little, eating for comfort or losing interest in food.

These signs aren’t just temporary dips—they can affect your mental and physical health if left unaddressed.

Causes of Overwhelm and Loneliness

Understanding what’s causing these feelings is critical to overcoming them. They often stem from various interlinked factors, such as these common contributors:

Work Pressure

Burnout is real. Navigating deadlines, performance goals, and long work hours can leave little time for rest or relationships.

Personal Challenges

Whether you’re a single mom balancing life or a solo entrepreneur hustling for success, personal setbacks can amplify feelings of inadequacy or isolation.

Social Isolation

Not every relationship is as fulfilling as it could be. Changes like moving cities, a breakup, or even subtle social distancing from friends can quietly create a sense of loneliness.

Being aware of the root can help you better address and manage the emotions.

Coping Strategies

Here’s the good news—feeling overwhelmed and alone doesn’t have to last forever. With the right steps, you can regain your footing.

1. Practice Self-Care

Prioritize your well-being by dedicating time for yourself.

  • Take a short break when tasks get too stressful.
  • Try mindful activities like meditation, yoga, or simply deep-breathing exercises.
  • Spend time outdoors. Sunshine and fresh air work wonders for mental clarity.

2. Seek Support

You don’t have to go through this alone. Open up to trusted friends or family members about how you’re feeling. You’d be surprised how many people are ready to listen and help.

3. Set Boundaries

If overwhelm stems from work or personal demands, learn to say no. Protect your time by creating boundaries that prioritize your mental health.

4. Manage Your Time

Keep a planner or use digital tools to streamline tasks. Breaking big projects into smaller steps can make them feel less daunting.

Small changes in these areas add up and can significantly reduce your stress over time.

Personal Stories and Testimonials

Sometimes, hearing how others have navigated similar feelings provides comfort—and practical advice.

  • Sarah, Young Professional: “I used to bottle up stress, thinking I could deal with it myself. Once I started journaling and talking to a mentor, I found clarity and a sense of connection I hadn’t felt in months.”
  • Michael, Solo Entrepreneur: “I felt spread so thin trying to do it all. But hiring a virtual assistant and focusing on what mattered most to my business taught me the power of delegation.”

These are just a few examples that show how self-awareness and small changes can lead to meaningful improvement.

Building a Support System

A strong support network is invaluable, especially during rough patches. But creating that network takes intentionality.

  • Connect with People: Attend local meetups, community events, or online groups that share your interests.
  • Professional Support: Don’t hesitate to seek help from therapists or counselors. They can provide tailored strategies to help you cope.
  • Establish Regular Check-Ins: Stay connected with friends and family. Even a 15-minute phone call can bridge the gap.

Your community doesn’t have to be big to be impactful—authentic connections make all the difference.

The Role of Technology in Combatting Loneliness

Technology can be both a blessing and a challenge when it comes to loneliness.

The Good

  • Accessibility: Virtual meetups and chats make it easier to stay connected even if you’re far from loved ones.
  • Resources: Apps offering guided meditations, mood tracking, and time management can provide help at your fingertips.

The Not-So-Good

  • Social media can sometimes exacerbate feelings of comparison or isolation. To make it work for you, be intentional: unfollow accounts that trigger negativity and engage with communities built around positivity and shared interests.

Used wisely, technology can help bridge emotional distances and foster meaningful connections.

Adopting a Positive Outlook for the Future

While these immediate coping strategies can alleviate feelings of overwhelm and loneliness, long-term progress lies in adopting a positive mindset and being proactive about your mental wellness.

  • Commit to ongoing personal growth, be it learning new skills or exploring hobbies that bring you joy.
  • Celebrate small victories, even the smallest steps, like making one new friend or completing a task you’ve been procrastinating.
  • Seek out workshops, books, and communities that empower you to build resilience.

If you’re still unsure where to start, know that there are countless resources and communities dedicated to mental health and emotional well-being. You’re not alone—and your next, more peaceful chapter could be closer than you think.

Take the First Step Towards Reconnection

Recognizing and addressing your feelings of overwhelm and loneliness is a form of self-care. Feeling this way doesn’t mean you’re weak; it means you’re human.

Start by trying just one or two strategies from this list to ease the burden. What works for one person might look different for another, so explore and tailor the solutions to suit your lifestyle.

If yoiu need help coping with overwhelm and overcoming loneliness, reach out.

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