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8 Ways to Cope With the End of Your Marriage

8 Ways to Cope With the End of Your Marriage


Navigating the End of Your Marriage

8 Ways to Navigate the Emotional Waves After Your Marriage Ends
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8 Ways to Navigate the Emotional Waves After Your Marriage Ends

 

The end of a marriage can feel like the end of the world. It’s an emotional rollercoaster, filled with highs and lows, uncertainties, and heartaches. Whether you’re navigating the initial shock or dealing with the lasting impact, the reality is that coping with divorce is a challenging process. This blog aims to provide you with practical strategies and supportive insights to help you get through this difficult time. You’ll learn about acceptance, self-care, building a support system, and much more.

Acceptance

 

Understanding Your New Reality

Coming to terms with the end of your marriage is the first step toward healing. While it may seem overwhelming, acknowledging the reality of the separation is crucial. It’s okay to feel a range of emotions—from disbelief to anger and sadness. Recognize these feelings as a natural part of the process.

Grieving the Loss

Just like any significant loss, the end of a marriage requires a grieving period. Allow yourself to mourn the relationship. This could mean crying, talking about your feelings, or even writing them down. Grieving helps you process your emotions and move toward acceptance.

Finding Peace in Acceptance

Acceptance doesn’t mean you’re okay with the situation; it means you recognize it for what it is. Once you accept the reality, you can begin to focus on what comes next. It’s a powerful step that allows you to start rebuilding your life.

Self-Care

 

Prioritizing Self-Love

During this tumultuous time, it’s essential to prioritize self-love. This means treating yourself with kindness and compassion. Remember, you’re going through a lot, and it’s okay to take time for yourself.

Developing Healthy Routines

Creating and maintaining healthy routines can be a lifeline. Exercise, balanced meals, and adequate sleep are vital. These routines not only benefit your physical health but also contribute to emotional stability.

Indulging in Self-Care Activities

Self-care can also mean indulging in activities that bring you joy. Whether it’s reading a good book, taking a long bath, or spending time in nature, these activities can provide a much-needed break from the stress and emotional strain.

Building a Support System

 

Reaching Out to Friends and Family

One of the most important aspects of coping with divorce is building a robust support system. Reach out to friends and family who can offer emotional support. Sharing your feelings with loved ones can be incredibly therapeutic.

Seeking Professional Help

Sometimes, talking to friends and family isn’t enough. Don’t hesitate to seek professional help. Therapists and counselors can provide tools and strategies to help you manage your emotions and cope more effectively.

Joining Support Groups

Support groups for divorcees can offer a unique form of camaraderie. Being with people who are going through similar experiences can make you feel less isolated. These groups often provide a safe space to share and receive advice.

Legal and Financial Considerations

 

Understanding Legal Requirements

Navigating the legal aspects of a divorce can be daunting. It’s crucial to understand your legal rights and responsibilities. Consulting with a divorce attorney can provide clarity and ensure that your interests are protected.

Managing Financial Implications

Divorce can have significant financial implications. From dividing assets to understanding alimony and child support, it’s essential to be informed. Work with financial advisors to gain a clear picture of your finances and plan for the future.

Preparing for the Future

Preparing for life after divorce involves both legal and financial planning. Create a budget, understand your financial standing, and make informed decisions about your future. This preparation will provide a sense of control and security.

Emotional Healing

 

Allowing Yourself to Feel

It’s tempting to suppress your emotions during this time, but emotional healing requires you to feel your feelings fully. Allow yourself to experience the sadness, anger, and even relief without judgment.

Practicing Mindfulness

Mindfulness can be a powerful tool for emotional healing. Practices like meditation and deep breathing can help you stay grounded and present, reducing anxiety and stress.

Exploring Therapeutic Techniques

Various therapeutic techniques, such as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and art therapy, can be beneficial. These methods offer different ways to process your emotions and find healing.

Finding New Passions

 

Rediscovering Old Hobbies

The end of a marriage can be an opportunity to rediscover old hobbies and interests. Reengage with activities you once loved but may have neglected during your marriage.

Exploring New Interests

Don’t be afraid to explore new hobbies and interests. Whether it’s painting, hiking, or learning a new language, these activities can provide a fresh sense of purpose and joy.

Joining Clubs and Classes

Consider joining clubs or taking classes related to your interests. This not only helps you develop new skills but also provides opportunities to meet new people and build a sense of community.

Moving Forward

 

Setting New Goals

Moving forward involves setting new personal and professional goals. These goals provide direction and a sense of purpose as you rebuild your life.

Maintaining a Positive Outlook

Maintaining a positive outlook is essential for moving forward. Focus on the possibilities that lie ahead rather than dwelling on the past. Surround yourself with positivity and hopeful thinking.

Finding Happiness Again

Remember, happiness is not only possible but probable. It takes time, but with each step you take, you move closer to finding joy and contentment in your new life.

Conclusion

Coping with divorce is undoubtedly challenging, but it’s also a time for growth and rediscovery. By accepting your new reality, practicing self-care, building a strong support system, and exploring new passions, you can find a path to emotional healing and a brighter future. Remember, you’re not alone—many have walked this path before and emerged stronger and happier. Take the first step today, and consider reaching out for professional support if needed. Your new beginning awaits.

If you need help understanding how to be there for someone who is struggling, reach out.

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Resist or Yield to Painful Experiences

Resist or Yield to Painful Experiences


Coping with Painful Experiences

How to Manage

Do you Resist or Yield to Painful Experiences?

We all go through difficult experiences in our lives that can cause deep and intense physical or mental pain. Some struggle with the tragic death of a loved one, others a serious, chronic or terminal illness.  Then there are people that struggle with a child, spouse or parent struggling with issues, a very painful divorce or another catastrophic life event.

When things are so intense and painful that it makes sense (at least temporarily) to run from, resist and fight the reality of the situation. Even though nothing is permanent, it feels as though things will never change. It seems you’ll be stuck in this painful place forever when you are going through it. “This shouldn’t be happening”, blaming others or ourselves for where we are at. Many can feel stuck in anger, resentment, and bitterness, wanting to find ways to escape the painful experience. Running from the extreme discomfort can ultimately make us all suffer even more, turning damaging behaviors to avoid the painful reality of our situation.

“Not getting what you want, getting what you don’t want” quote from Pema Chodron in Coming Closer to Ourselves

We all have to face events like these at one time or another in our lives. It is a part of life and what it is to be human. Even therapists have to cope with tragedies, serious health issues, struggling family members and other painful life events. We all, unfortunately, suffer more when we run from the pain rather than finding ways to accept, allow and work with the emotions that come up. Accepting and allowing our experience can help us attain more wisdom and a deeper sense of compassion for one another.

It takes a tremendous amount of bravery to be open to and allow the experience, and accepting and working what is and trying not to make things worse.  Going through a catastrophic event that seems insurmountable?

It has been a tremendous help to me personally and professionally to read and listen to the following books and teachings of The New Earth, by Eckhart Tolle, When Pain is the Doorway by Pema Chodron,  Full Catastrophy Living by John Kabat-Zin, Wherever You Go You are There by John Kabat-Zin and a recent Facebook course on UDemy Freedom to Choose Something Different with Pem Chodron, Fail, Fail Again, Fail Better by Pema Chodron, Walking the Walk by Pema Chodron as well as other books.

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