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Coping With an Affair

Coping with an Affair?

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Coping With an Affair and Infidelity

Are you coping with an affair? Wondering if your relationship can survive the infidelity? If you found out that your spouse or partner ( boyfriend or girlfriend ) cheated on you, it makes sense you’d feel completely devastated. How you found out also complicates things.  And you are no doubt going through a range of feelings from shock, anger, hurt, sadness to confusion. It can also be a huge blow to your self esteem, sometimes making it hard to eat, sleep, or function at work or home. The betrayal of a spouse or partner is so incredibly painful.

Is this you?

  • you’re in shock and you just don’t know what to do or whom to turn to
  • you don’t want to tell family or friends and you feel all alone
  • your feelings of shame are unbearable and you just feel like hiding from people
  • you’re not sure if you can stay in the marriage or relationship
  • you put up a wall and want to distance or lash out (or both)
  • you can’t be around your spouse or partner without feeling an incredible amount of pain
  • you’re getting obsessed with, and focused on, wanting to know all the details, but that only hurts more
  • you keep asking “why?” over and over
  • you feel like somehow it’s your fault

Coping with an affair is so very difficult. Of course you feel angry, of course you feel hurt. So what’s the next step? Can your relationship heal from the damage of an affair?

 

Coping after an affair can be very difficult and take a long time to heal. We hope this information helps you understand the healing process and what steps you can take to recover from infidelity.

Stress Management Tips & Therapy

Stress Management Tips & Therapy

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Here are some helpful stress management tips

  1. Identify the source of stress: The first step to managing stress is to identify its source. It could be work-related, personal relationships, financial issues, or health problems. Understanding what triggers your stress can help you find ways to cope with it.
  2. Maintain a positive mindset: Having a positive outlook on life can help you manage stress better. Instead of dwelling on negative thoughts, focus on the good things in life and try to find solutions to your problems.
  3. Practice relaxation techniques: Incorporating relaxation techniques into your daily routine can help reduce stress levels. These may include deep breathing exercises, meditation, yoga, or progressive muscle relaxation.
  4. Exercise regularly: Regular physical activity not only benefits your physical health but also helps manage stress. It can improve your mood, reduce tension and anxiety, and promote better sleep.
  5. Get enough rest: Lack of sleep can contribute to stress levels. Make sure to get at least 7-9 hours of quality sleep each night to help you feel more refreshed and energized.
  6. Eat a healthy diet: Eating a well-balanced diet that includes plenty of fruits, vegetables, and whole grains can help your body cope with stress. Avoid consuming too much caffeine, alcohol, and processed foods as they can increase feelings of anxiety.
  7. Set aside time for hobbies: Engaging in activities you enjoy can help reduce stress levels. Whether it’s painting, playing an instrument, or reading a book, taking time to do something you love can provide a much-needed break from stressors.
  8. Reach out for support: Don’t be afraid to talk to your loved ones or seek professional help if you feel overwhelmed by stress. Having a strong support system can provide valuable emotional support and guidance.
  9. Learn to say no: Taking on too many tasks or responsibilities can lead to increased stress levels. Practice setting boundaries and saying no to things that may add unnecessary stress to your life.
  10. Take breaks throughout the day: When feeling overwhelmed, taking a short break can help you refocus and recharge. Even just a few minutes of deep breathing or going for a walk can make a big difference in managing stress levels.
  11. Foster positive thinking: Avoid negative self-talk and try to focus on the positives in your life. Practicing gratitude and mindfulness can help shift your perspective and improve overall well-being.
  12. Seek out relaxation techniques: Practices such as yoga, meditation, or deep breathing can help induce a state of relaxation and calmness. These techniques can also improve mental clarity and reduce stress levels.
  13. Prioritize self-care: Taking care of yourself is essential for managing stress. Make time for activities that promote self-care, such as getting enough sleep, eating well, and engaging in regular physical activity.
  14. Seek professional help if needed: If stress is significantly impacting your daily life, don’t hesitate to seek help from a mental health professional. They can provide valuable support and guidance in managing stress effectively.

Remember, managing stress is an ongoing process and may require different techniques for different individuals. Don’t be afraid to try new strategies and find what works best for you. By prioritizing your mental health, you can lead a more balanced and fulfilling life. Stay healthy, stay calm, stay happy! #stressmanagement #healthyliving #mentalwellness

Hard to manage stress on your own? We get it. We can help.

What is Psychotherapy?

What is Psychotherapy?

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Maplewood, NJ 07040
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What is Psychotherapy?

Psychotherapy is a specialized type of therapy which can be effective in helping you cope with a wide range of issues. Often referred to as “talk therapy,” psychotherapy is a way to treat people dealing with various mental disorders (depression, anxiety, etc…) and one of the main objectives of this type of therapy is to help you gain a better understanding of the issues that are causing emotional pain, dysfunction and problems in your life. The psychotherapist teaches people different ways to cope and deal with unhealthy attitudes, thoughts and behaviors. This type of treatment can be very effective in helping you reduce and manage your symptoms and help you function better in every aspect of their lives.

Because the relationship you will develop with your therapist is so important to the process, it is essential to find a therapist with whom you feel safe. Effective psychotherapy will allow you to open up and make yourself deeply vulnerable to the therapist. To do this you must feel safe.

A good psychotherapist has the skills to build that sense of trust and help you feel connected to and safe. The process of psychotherapy is more than the psychotherapist giving you advice and simple problem solving and can bring about important and lasting change in your life.

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We hope this helps.

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Looking for Help with Grief?

Need Help with Grief?

New Jersey Grief Counseling

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Maplewood Counseling
Offering Online & In-person Sessions
169 Maplewood Ave Suite 4
Maplewood, NJ 07040
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Need Help with Grief?

 

“Grief is a strong, sometimes overwhelming emotion for people, regardless of whether their sadness stems from the loss of a loved one or from a terminal diagnosis they or someone they love have received” (more…)

“Grieving is the process of emotional and life adjustment you go through after a loss. Grieving after a loved one’s death is also known as bereavement.” (more…)

Grief is deep sorrow that can be caused by any of the following situations:

  • The death of your child, wife, husband, partner, spouse, mother, father or friend
  • Traumatic grief due to a death caused by a sudden or traumatic accident or disaster
  • A break up, diovrce or end of a relationship
  • Job loss of extreme finanical problems leading to loss of home, etc…
  • Dealing with serious and/or terminal illness

If you need help with grief, get in touch.

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Why Men Cheat

Why Men Cheat

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Maplewood Counseling
Offering Online & In-person Sessions
169 Maplewood Ave Suite 4
Maplewood, NJ 07040
Call Now (973) 793-1000

Why Men Cheat and How to Prevent Infidelity

According to this video, the number one reason men cheat? Emotional Disconnection. According to the video  how to prevent infidelity is to appreciate your spouse.

Here are several articles you  might find interesting on Why Men Cheat

  •  “The majority said it was an emotional disconnection, specifically a sense of feeling underappreciated. A lack of thoughtful gestures,” Gary says. “Men are very emotional beings. They just don’t look like that. Or they don’t seem like that. Or they don’t tell you that.” (more…)
  • Yes, straying is despicable, but have you ever wondered about the reasons guys do it? (more…)
  • Our Cheatin’ Hearts -Men and monogamy: Understanding the urge to have an extramarital affair (more…)
  • Esquire Magazine – Why Men Cheat . One man’s unfiltered, unadulterated explanation. Well, maybe a little adulterated. By Anonymous
  • Jose and Angela have been married for two years. Two days after she gave birth their baby, Jose had an affair. (more…)

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Couples Therapy

Maplewood Counseling provides relationship counseling for couples who are struggling with communication problems, an affair, a crisis or other issues. Marriage counseling and couples therapy is provided to help for all types couples with relationship issues.

Anxiety, Depression, Grief

Get help for depression, anxiety, grief, or low self esteem. Therapy can help if you are going through a difficult time such as coping with a divorce or break-up. A good therapist can help you improve the way you feel and work on making positive changes in your life.

Coping With a Life Crisis

Do you need help getting through a painful time in your life? Are you dealing with an affair or infidelity? Trying to survive a lonely, painful time? Is your child struggling? Are you or a loved one coping with a crisis, serious health issues, or helping aging parents?

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