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Caught in the Middle?

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Caught in the Middle?

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Are you caught in the middle?

Does this sound familiar to you?
  • Your spouse and your parents and/ or don’t get along
  • Your spouse wants you to choose him/her or your family
  • Your partner does not like your family and does not want to visit
  • You struggle with trying to make things manageable when there are family gatherings
  • You don’t feel you spouse or partner protects you or stands up for you
  • You don’t feel like a priority or your spouse complains of the same
  • You don’t agree with how your partner handle things with your children and feel “split”
  • You end up fighting a lot befor, during or after family gathertings

 

Whether you are caught in the middle with your family and spouse/partner or children, the end result is feeling awful. Feeling pulled and unable to bring the two sides together can cause anger, depression, sadness and frustration.

 

Maybe your parents feel they should be a priority and can be unreasonable. Maybe you’ve been conditioned to take care of your parents and you don’t know how to manage your relationship and make everyone happy.

 

Sorting through expectations, and evaluating better ways to approach confusing and challenging situations can help you and your partner and or spouse do a better job witho thoughtful and understanding communication.

 

If you feel like you’re caught in the middle, get in touch.

 

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Relationship Mistakes

Relationship Mistakes

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Common Relationship Mistakes

Affairs and Communication Problems
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Common Relationship Mistakes

There are several mistakes people make in their relationship. There are the big and obvious mistakes like betrayal and infidelity. This can range from emotional affairs, online cheating or physical and sexual infidelity.

These bigger relationship mistakes are much more challenging to heal and repair and many couples seek professional couples therapy to find to best ways to get through such a painful mistake.

Other relationship mistakes include name-calling, disrespect, inability to express and communicate  your anger, sadness and disappointment in healthy ways. Also neglecting your relationship by not making it a priority can cause serious disconnect and hurt.

Does this sounds familiar?

  • You turned to someone outside your relationship
  • You did not listen when your spouse or partner wanting to go to counsleing
  • You frequently criticized and disrepsectfed your spouse
  • You preferred spending time doing activities instead of with your partner
  • You do not know how to communicate, listen or understand one another
  • You had an affair or betrayed your partner with secrecy and lies

Have you made one or more relationship mstakes? Do you need professional marriage or couples therapy to see if you can turn things around? Get in touch.

 

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In a Disconnected Relationship?

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Disconnected Relationship?

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Disconnected Relationship?

A lot of couples struggle with in a disconnected relationship. Some are not able to enjoy time together and feel alone and miserable,  Maybe you’ve tried to fix things on your own or asked your spouse or partner to go to counseling, but he or she refused. Are you feeling unhappy in your marriage or relationship and wondering what to do?

We see many couples who are feeling very unhappy and disconnected.

In a disconnect ted relationship? Does this sound familiar?

  • Things are only getting worse and you’re not sure you want to stay in the relationship.
  • You’ve asked or even begged your spouse or partner to go to counseling and the answer was always “no”.
  • You feel very sad, depressed and or alone.
  • Things have devolved to the point where you either argue all the time or avoid talking to each other
  • You really want to know if you can reconnect and resolve your issues.
  • You’re not sure there’s anything left to salvage and wonder if you should break up or divorce.

Living in a disconnected relationship?

Are you an individual or couple looking for help, even if your partner is not willing? It might be helpful to talk to a licensed, experienced and compassionate marriage or a couples therapist to see what to do about your situation.

If you need help, get in touch

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Should We Get Married?

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Not Sure About Getting Married?

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Not Sure You Want to Get Married?

Are you engaged and not sure you want to go through with the wedding? Do you have a wedding date and wonder if you should postpone? Do you have some serious concerns about continuing with your engagement?

Understandably, some couples struggle with relationship issues before getting married. I can make you question getting married. Do you need a safe place to talk about your concerns or even consider ending the engagement? Do you need help calling off or postponing your wedding until you are ready?

You’re not alone if you’re having doubts about going through with wedding plans. Concerned about your partner’s reaction? Don’t want to hurt him/her and deal with the fallout from your family? Confused and don’t know what to do?

It takes a lot of courage to speak up and voice your concerns either with or without your fiancée. Your gut might be telling you something isn’t right and you can explore that in a safe place with an experienced therapist.

If you need help, get in touch.

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Counseling for Anger and Depression

Counseling for Anger and Depression

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Anger and Depression

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Understanding Anger and Depression

Do need help with anger and depression? Do you wonder if your anger is related to being depressed and not knowing better ways to cope with your feelings?

Many men and women suffering from depression can feel angry and irritable and not understand what it really at the heart of their anger.  Some people get mean, nasty and are not expressing themselves in ways that will help.

There is a connection between anger and depression and being assessed by a mental health professional will help you sort through whether your anger is about something else or underlying depression that needs treatment.

Do you get triggered and angered easily? Does this sound familiar?

  • You get angry at your partner or spouse often
  • You push people away with your anger and reactivity
  • You don’t understand why you get so angry and feel badly after
  • You feel guilty about your anger
  • Your anger is causing problems at home or at work – or both
  • You cannot understand what is really going on, it just feels bad

A good therapist can assess and help with anger and depression. Most people that are determined can eventually become more aware of what they’re feeling and learn to express those feelings more effectively. You can reduce that emotional reactivity along with reducing fears and judgment and that will help you reduce anger and depression.

If you need help, get in touch. We’re here to help

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Problems with In-Laws?

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Problems with In-Laws?

Family and Marital Conflict?

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In-Law Problems?

 
Are you and your partner having in-law problems? Do you get mad at your wife or husband for not standing up for you? Maybe you feel like you’re in the middle between your spouse and your family? 
 
Family dynamics and problems with a mother-in-law or father-in-law can cause a couple to feel hurt, angry and misunderstood. Trouble understanding each other‘s perspectives can make matters worse. 
 
Does this sound familiar?
 
  •  Your in-laws expect your spouse to put make them a priority and put them number one. 
  •  Your in-laws expect you to visit often or spend certain holidays with them. 
  •  You feel very angry at your partner for not standing up to his or her parents or other family members. 
  •  You hate when your spouse gets quiet rather than confronting his or her family when they don’t handle things well. 
  •  Maybe you dislike your in-laws and would prefer not seeing them, to the extent that you want your spouse to cut them off 
  •  You  hate the way your in-laws treat you and get angry at your partner for not protecting you
  •  You feel like you’re in the middle between your spouse and parents or siblings. 
 
Many couples experience struggles with extended family, at times. In order to resolve issues more effectively, it might be helpful to sit down with an experienced therapist that understands many perspectives and what to do about complicated family dynamics.
 
You’re not alone when it comes to complicated situations with in-laws. It can be very helpful to work together to manage these situations so it doesn’t impact your marriage or relationship. 
 
 
If you need help dealing with your in-laws more effectively, get in touch.
 

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