Couples & Marriage Counseling NJ

Finding Life After Divorce

Separation and divorce can be one of the most painful experiences of your life. The loss feels unbearable to so many people. Many find it hard to eat, sleep and function at work and home. Finding a support group or a mental health professional may help you cope. Processing the grief can be extremely painful, but it is important to healing and to finding life after divorce.

You may have made many mistakes in your relationship. We all have. Understanding what happened and learning what you can do to make a future relationship more satisfying and successful is possible. Blaming your ex will not help you get there faster and can only prolong the agony by hanging onto toxic feelings.

Forgiving and Finding Life After Divorce

The truth is no one wins in a failed relationship. Most couples want it to work and for various reasons it just did not. The sooner you can let go of anger and resentment and let yourself feel the pain (as hard as it is), the more open you will be to new experiences.

I’ve seen many people work through and process the end of a relationship and eventually find peace. I’ve also seen many of those people begin new lives and start the dating process again. Sometimes it’s awkward and scary to put yourself out there again – sometimes after being married for so many years, but it is very possible to find happiness again — in or out of a relationship.

If you need help  in finding life after divorce, see our blog post on local support groups in NJ.

Finding life after divorce – Divorce support groups listed here:

• Woman’s Emotions and Divorce Resources
• DivorceCare.com
• Divorce for Men Resources
• Online Divorce Support Group
• Divorce Resources, Products and Books
• Coping with a Breakup and Moving On after a Relationship Ends
• Gay Breakups
• Gay and Lesbian Divorce
• Divorce Resources for Men and Women
• Breakups and Divorce Support Group

We’d be glad to add more resources here that are helpful to people in other states, so please feel free to tell us about them in the comments section or email us.